- This video, I'm gonna show you
how to completely transform
your own sense of inner confidence
and how you're showing up
from the things that you think are negative
to something that is attractive and charismatic.
So if you feel awkward,
if you feel like there's certain insecurities,
you want to unroot
this video is gonna change your life
and help you to become the most magnetic version of you.
Now, the first thing to realize about this is that
you get in life, a reflection of who you are being.
And if when you're showing up, you are feeling awkward,
you are feeling not good enough, or you are feeling weird
or you're feeling like the lone wolf
based on how you feel
you are getting a reflection of that in your life.
So for example, if you feel like insecure about something
maybe like maybe a nose
or a freckle or something like that and you go out
and you're feeling insecure about it
and you're feeling nervous about it.
And you're hoping people don't notice your freckle.
Then what happens is that energy
of saying I don't accept this about myself
is being emanated out.
People feel it, and they're responding to that energy.
So the key to this is learning
that people feel what you feel about you.
So when it comes to being awkward,
when it comes to being and feeling insecure
about different characteristics
whether it be physical or personality wise,
the secret and one of the biggest keys
that will completely transform your life, if you apply it
is to simply own it, to own the awkwardness,
to own the weirdness, to own it.
And know there's not a problem.
A lot of times what happens is we believe there's a problem.
We believe there's something wrong with me.
I'm a little bit awkward
when I'm in certain public situations.
And then we judge ourselves and then guess what?
Because we judge ourselves
and because we don't feel like we're enough,
we then project that onto people
and remember people feel what you feel.
So they're feeling that non-acceptance within yourself
and then they're going to reflect back that non-acceptance.
So the key to this
is instead of looking to them to feel accepted,
instead of looking for the mere reflection to change,
the key is to change
because everything else on the outside is a mere reflection.
And when you own it and when you're not attached
to whether they accept you or not
you'll find that a lot of people accept you
and that respect you owning it, or you just being you.
I remember many times in my life
where I feel insecure about something,
or I remember a long time ago,
especially like when I'd go out
even sometimes now, like if I go out
and there's big large groups of people
that I'm hanging around it's like there's...
I remember, especially back in the day
I'd feel really nervous about going to a party,
but I'd feel I have to go to the party
because otherwise to like not let my friends down
and stuff like that.
But I remember that there was a lot of like anxiety
that would bring up
and one thing I had to become aware of
is what is the story I'm telling myself about the situation
that's causing that emotion
because understand as well,
what you believe to be true about yourself
and the stories that you tell yourself
generate the emotion and the feeling.
So when we look at this
there's a couple different ways to look at
you becoming the most magnetic version of you
and turning awkwardness into charismatic, attractive energy.
The first one is what I already mentioned.
It's simply own it.
There is so many times when you see somebody
that maybe they feel insecure about their ethnicity,
or they feel insecure about their accent,
or they feel insecure about their height,
or they feel insecure about many levels
maybe they have a freckle
or they have some type of
something that makes them a little bit different.
And if you simply own it
you will find that other people will see that you own it,
and that will be attractive.
So it doesn't have to be something that
you reject within yourself,
because if you reject it within yourself
the outer reflection in life you get
will be that rejection as well will reflect that back.
'Cause remember life is like a mirror
and you don't go to try to change the outer reflection
in order to change the mirror.
You know that you must change the expression on your face,
if you wanna see a smile in the mirror
but you don't go over to the mirror and try to change that.
And the same way, when it comes to awkwardness
when it comes to feeling insecure
or it comes to feeling like an introvert or something
if you were to own being an introvert
it would be a very different energy.
If you were to accept being that about yourself
you'd be very different energy
because people feel what you feel.
There really is no problem here
the only problem is the resistance you feel
about feeling awkward,
about feeling like there's something off
or there's something that's this way
that should be a different way.
So one of the first ways is to simply own the awkwardness.
To own it and know that as you own it
other people will own it too.
I've seen this happen a lot
with also people that are introverts
where they feel like I should be talking
I should be like engaging with everyone that's around me.
And if I'm not that I'm not being good enough.
And it's like, no
then I've seen people that just own the fact
that they're a little bit more quiet and guess what?
There's like a stillness, a presence with this person
that's very magnetic.
And then it's like it attracts based on that calm energy.
And it's actually refreshing a lot of times.
Sometimes I think we think we always need to be talking.
We always need to be sharing our stories from our lives.
When actually listening is probably one
of the most attractive traits someone can possibly have.
So for this realize that magnetic energy
is unleashed from the inside out.
When you start owning who you are
and you start accepting who you are.
And then the other side of this as well
is understanding the power of that called presence
being in your own body.
Now, sometimes what happens is when we are...
So this gets back to also a childhood wound
of the abandonment wound.
And if you heal this
I promise you'll be so much more magnetic.
One of the most common wounds that we might have
when it comes to social interaction
is being afraid to be abandoned
because back in the day
maybe mom or dad emotionally or physically
had that abandoned energy where they weren't present.
And then we decided it's not safe for me to be me.
It's not safe for me to express the real me.
I must tune to my environment to get safety.
I must make sure you're happy.
And then we lose our sense of self
to make everybody else happy.
And then we're not really in our own body.
One of the philosophies I have around this
is that what empaths do
people that can feel other people's energies
is that was a survival mechanism
that was created back in the past to get your own needs met
says it's not safe for me to be in my bottom three chakras
I'm gonna tune to my third eye
so I can connect to everybody else.
Know what everyone else is thinking and feeling
so that I can make them happy.
And if I make them happy, then I can feel safe.
And the game changer for me was understanding that
that was just a survival mechanism
that I was using in order to get my needs met.
What I eventually had to start doing
is realizing that that also was
I was trying to get my needs met a validation approval
but then that would have me depolarizing my relationships
that have me not being the real me.
And it would actually be very unattractive energy
because also neediness is born from that energy
of the abandonment wound many times.
Neediness says,
"I want you to meet my needs, meet my needs, please."
And neediness is a yearning, a wanting for that.
And as the Buddha said, "Neediness and desire
is the root of all suffering"
actually said, "Attachment
and desire is the root of all suffering."
But part of attachment many times
is what creates the neediness.
And if you're attached to what other people think and feel
that is unattractive energy.
But if you realize that what's more important
is you bring your energy back.
And instead of focusing on getting validation approval
you focus on being vulnerable and expressing the real you.
You will have way more magnetic energy that's what I did.
I went through a transformation of this
and I showed up completely different in the world
once I started actually applying this
and I started showing up in this way.
So what you wanna do is you wanna be...
And then, so when we're talking about the present energy
what empaths do is they tune to their third eye.
They tune to everyone else
and they're not actually in their bodies.
And I'll tell you what, when you are in your body
and you bring the awareness in your hands and your feet
you will feel so much more magnetic.
And that magnetic energy is because you are more present,
you are more grounded,
and it's something that people can feel off.
Literally more of your life energies inside of your body.
And it's emanating out.
And remember this, the electromagnetic energy of the heart
is 1000s times more powerful than the head.
So simply bringing the energy into your heart,
in your hands, and in your feet
is increasing the electromagnetic energy
inside of your heart.
And one of the most powerful techniques I found for this
you've probably heard me talk about before is that
of the frame technique, where you put your hands
you put the attention in your hands and your feet.
You feel the separation between you and the walls,
you and your computer, you and other people.
Even bring someone to mind
and imagine you taking your energy back
and feeling the separation between them.
Yes, you're still connected in everything.
I know we're all spiritual beans, all connected
having the dream of separation
but a lot of times as empaths
and people that are like on the spiritual path,
we forget that.
We forget that we're also individual beings
and we forgot what it's like to feel safe in our own body.
So one of the most powerful ways
for you to also own your own awkwardness
is to realize that part of the judgment you have
is what is putting out that energy of resistance.
So if you soothe that you become more accepting of it
you could then realize that
part of the survival mechanism as a kid
was abandoning yourself to then make everybody else happy.
So you get your needs met.
But the key is to actually realize that
in order to abandon your yourself
to make everyone else happy
you are in that abandonment wound.
You've abandoned yourself.
And the key is bringing your energy back
and to stop abandoning yourself,
to make everybody else happy.
And when you stop abandoning yourself
you start being the real you,
you start showing up in reality in a very different way,
and you have very magnetic energy
realize it's okay to be polarizing.
It's okay to express yourself authentically.
If other people don't like it
that's their stuff to deal with, not yours.
But the challenge has been with the abandonment wound
is you feel connected to everybody
and you wanna make everybody else happy.
So you feel like their problems are your problems.
If somebody else doesn't accept your awkwardness
which is really an internal judgment of awkwardness
it's only awkwardness.
If you agree that it's awkwardness
to you it could just be you being you
doesn't have to have a label.
Doesn't have to label that energy as awkwardness
but also realize this as well,
that as you stop abandoning yourself,
you'll be more magnetic.
As you bring the energy back into your body
you'll be more magnetic.
But also if you want to really shed
the identity of the awkwardness
let's also look at the keys to transformation.
Now, this is the chart that I've shared a lot of my videos.
It is the key to really creating
whatever you want in your life.
Whether it's love, love in relationship,
whether it's abundance, living your life purpose,
whatever it is
realize that most of us are living in the old self
this old identity
and getting in our life is in direct alignment
to how we think, feel, and act.
And that part of this
that keeps us trapped in our old identity
is the stories we tell ourself about who we are.
It's the addictive, familiar emotions
that we familiarize since we're being a kid.
So anger, guilt, fear, shame
and what ends up happening is these are familiarized.
So therefore we are thinking,
feeling, and acting equal to this identity.
And once we become aware of this old identity
become familiar with it
which is what you could do in meditation.
Observe your thoughts, observe your feelings,
observe your actions.
You can then start to become more aware
and then make transformation.
Now, one of the things that might be a part
of this think feel act thing
is you've labeled yourself as awkward.
You believe you're awkward.
Believe I'm a weird introvert or something like that.
That belief you will do everything you can
to remain consistent to how you define yourself.
That's one of the things that happens on our reality.
We wanna remain consistent to how we define ourselves.
If we define ourselves as awkward,
then we will think, feel, and act
equal to that awkward energy,
because it's a self-limiting judgment.
But the key to this is becoming aware of that identity.
And maybe even like,
you got that identity, when you're a kid.
Somebody told you, "Hey, you're being weird.
You're awkward.
Why are you so awkward?
You're so awkward."
And then we agreed and we internalized
and said, "Oh, I'm awkward.
I am this identity of awkward."
Then we're thinking, feeling,
and acting equal to that identity of being awkward.
But what you're realizing now
is you can become aware of this
and become aware of the label and that you can let it go.
We don't need the label of being awkward, shy, introverted.
We don't need to attach ourselves to those labels
become aware of them, own them
but you don't have to keep hanging on to them
and attach to them if you don't want to.
Then the key is getting into the unknown,
the unknown there's this new version of you.
The version of you, that's magnetic, non attached
not attached this version of you.
When you are in this new energy,
you can download the energy of this
using the power of meditation and taking new action.
These are the two, the bridges to this new reality
is realizing you get in life, who you're being.
You think feel an act equal to your identity.
And the familiar emotions that you have from the past
meditation is a way of becoming familiar
with a new version of you.
And that's how you can then
influence your subconscious mind.
Your subconscious mind runs 95% of your life or more.
And the way you influence your subconscious mind
is when you're in what is called a theta state.
Theta state happens when you wake up in the morning,
when you go to bed at night, you're drifting outta sleep,
and you're drifting in between those deep levels
of subconscious mind influence that you can have
and also meditation.
In meditation you can influence a subconscious mind.
And what you can do is you can feel as this version of you
you can have the self images, this version of you.
You can take on the values
and identity the behaviors the habits,
and feel the gratitude that that's who you are now.
You will then begin tuning to this version of you.
Meditation is one bridge.
The other bridge is making a new choice about who you are
and making the choice to step into the unknown
because in the unknown is where all magic happens.
So when you go out in a public,
which normally it's like this isn't the known
I'm out in public with around a whole bunch of other people.
I'm in the unknown.
But if you can take action as that version of you,
you can use that as a permission slip
to wire in this new you.
You can use this as a permission slip
to get into the unknown,
to create new probabilities and synchronicities
because you can't create a new reality from the known
because you're got the same autopilot mind
the same familiar emotions, actions, thoughts, feelings.
So the key is making a choice to branch into the new.
So part of the awkwardness
there's an attachment to the identity
because there's also a payoff that comes from being awkward.
The payoff is if I identify myself as awkward
I'm not gonna take as much action.
I am going to be able to stay safe
in this little bubble that I've created.
It explains why people have never got me in the past.
There's a payoff to being right there.
The keys becoming aware of these payoffs
and making a new choice about who you are.
And when you change your story, you change your life.
When you change the way you see yourself
you change your life.
The key to this is changing
and becoming aware of your energy
and going through an identity shift process
of transformation.
And if you haven't heard yet,
I have a free video that'll show you exactly step by step.
How to go through what is called the MAP,
the magnetic activation process
of becoming the most magnetic version of you
without falling back into the old patterns.
It includes the power of using meditation and new action
in order to really wire it in,
in a very easy way to unleash non-attached magnetic energy
has to do with also getting to the core of the own
inner child wounding
to let go of the abandonment wound
to let go so you can feel safe inside of your own body.
If you wanna check that out
you go to aarondoughty.com/map
or click the link in description box below.
And then also if you want to learn the three secrets
and the three things that really kill attraction
and how you can use that to transform it
so that you can really create the most magnetic energy
from the inside out.
Check this video out right here.
This video I'm gonna show you the three biggest mistakes
that I see people make that actually kills attraction.
I'm gonna show you how you can revert this energy
actually become more magnetic
and stop doing what actually isn't working.
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