This video is about "The Secret Advantages of Being Silent!"
I'm going to reveal the amazing benefits of being more of a silent person
especially when it comes to dealing with all sorts of people... to find out more please stay tuned
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There are different types of people in this world some are extroverted and expressive... others more
reserved introverted... in the last couple of years introverts have been given a lot more praise and
admiration for being who they are! I grew up naively assuming introverts were boring and
had no personality...how wrong was I! Some of the most intelligent, creative and wonderful people
I've ever met have been far more introverted than extroverted! What is an introvert? An introvert is
a person with qualities of a personality type known as introversion which means that they
feel more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas rather than what's happening
externally... they enjoy time alone or with one or two people only rather than large crowds or groups..
This is how I became more introverted = it was after learning about toxic people... dating someone
toxic that I became far more introverted than I used to be... in fact I resonated and related more
to the naturally quieter silent types rather than the loud obnoxious people I used to hang out with..
Here are some myths about silenc...e there are some real serious myths I'd like to debunk with silence
that silence is weakness - on the contrary silence is golden and strength - silence is cowardly,
again silence in some scenarios is extremely brave - silence is misery, again silence in some
scenarios can be bliss and pure joy! I also believe silence is an extremely big sign of assertiveness
confidence and maturity (which I'm going to touch on later in this video) So there are
some secret powerful advantages in my opinion to being or becoming or remaining far more silent
especially with difficult toxic negative people and if applied in the right capacity as well!
Let me dive into this a little deeper... Please don't forget to Subscribe and hit the bell notification
so you never miss any of my videos... Let's talk about focus - when we go silent on other people
we immediately can concentrate and focus on the most important person in the world = ourselves! Other
people can sadly take us off course and at the same time we can lose sight of where we're going,
what we're doing, and the harm it causes us and our mental health... Let me tell you about a woman I know
she lost her focus because she regularly engaged with the wrong people... she had a toxic family
who drove her insane with just bad behavior and drama and friends that did the same who were just
causing nothing but problems and arguments and situations and she even had a toxic job! Her boss
was a narcissist making her work late nights and so on... She argued back with all these people, fought
back the best she could (she was not weak, she was tough) but she was not silent and as a result
lost focus on her health as she chain smoked to deal with all the stress... she also lost focus on
her goal to become an entrepreneur as she was too busy dealing with all this BS! She lost focus on
who she was deep down as a woman as well, because deep down she was a kind, empathetic, funny woman!
After being tipped over the edge she quit her job and booked a flight to the Bahamas alone
and even switched her phone off! All she heard were the sounds of the ocean, nature and her mind
immediately racing.... a few days in and as she started meditating and quieting all of that racket
going on in her mind she began focusing again on the things that truly genuinely mattered to her...
and that thing (believe it or not) was herself! She changed her life, she cut all the bad people out
including family... only because silence allowed her to truly focus on the more important things
and the needs that had been neglected all of her life, and she became whole, happy and healthy!
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Similarly to refocusing on ideals, goals and morals another advantage of being silent is improving our
self-awareness! Now self-awareness is the ability to focus on yourself and how your actions, thoughts
or emotions do or do not align with your internal standards! A few years ago I was in a toxic
relationship with a narcissist (God it was hell) but on top of that there was plenty of noise aka the
opposite to peace serenity and of course silence! There were arguments, plenty of drama, plenty of
disagreements, there was cursing and swearing, shouting, toxic behavior so much uncertainty
anxiety, misery and suffering! Remember in my opinion silence encourages peace and serenity...
It was only after the mother of all arguments (which were sadly a regular occurrence with the
narcissist) did the following happen = I was locked out of my home on a cold, windy miserable evening
as she stormed off after we clashed! All I had was my car key but I was barefoot and I couldn't drive!
I sat in my car waiting for neighbors to come home and let me back in and I will never forget the
rain pouring down...I could barely get a signal on the radio so all I had was the sound of the rain
which might as well have been the sound of silence...As I stayed blankly ahead with no
cell phon,e no television, no toxic partner to clash with I was alone with my thoughts...
I was finally self-aware staring my toxic relationship in the face and I said
"I have to leave this relationship!" which I finally did after several long years... silence
made me self-aware... silence saved my mental health... silence
redesigned my future... silence gave birth to The SCG Show.... silence made me walk away and stay away
Trigger your self-awareness but for the better by simply choosing to go silent...
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Despite what you may hear on social media, through friends whatever... going silent can actually send
a message to people and that message can mean several different things! Here's some examples
"I don't appreciate that...I don't like your behavior... I will not tolerate your abuse...I don't like how
you act...I do not condone how you've treated me...I do not think what you're doing is right...I don't
agree with you...I don't need to speak with you... I don't need to like you....I don't need to put up
with you...I'm not interested in you...I don't wish to speak to you...I don't care about you anymore
I don't need your drama or BS...I don't need anything from you ...No I don't need your help
No I don't want your help...I do not want to know anymore I've had enough I need my space....
Please leave me alone!" I once had a best friend utterly betray me and my family which I will never
forgive him for doing so... rather than have it out with him have a huge argument, cause drama instead
I chose to go silent on him! He reached out multiple times to try and speak with
me and communicate but I refused. I was not interested and the message I was sending by
going silent was "I never wish to see or speak to you again, were no longer friends go away!"
He tried, he tried, he tried, he eventually gave up and he eventually got the message...
He knew I was not ever going to tolerate such a person in my life any longer... neither was my family
and so on and so forth. In all honesty it doesn't really matter what he did it's the
message that I sent by going silent! So yes silence contrary to what you may have been told or think
sends a message and restores a powerful healthy boundary! Lastly silence is better than anger!
I used to be a very angry aggressive guy especially to those who did me wrong, betrayed me etc
Just the other week I confronted someone who has done nothing but cause harm and misery to all
those around him, including myself! I had bottled up my resentment and anger towards them for too long
and then they triggered me! Once again I sat down and read them the riot act - I had lost control
but had bottled it up for too long! This individual just sat there nodding along sheepishly with
nothing beneficial to say like a child... Now whilst the initial rush of adrenaline wore
off after letting it off my chest, guess what happened? Nothing. Did the circumstance change?
No. Did this person change? No. Did things improve? No. All that happened is I got
angry, shouted and vented and that person took it and nothing has changed for the better...
and as I look back on it I realized that remaining silent and not interacting with that person
was actually the better option! That was the better choice and far more effective. For the
rest of that day I was miserable, tired and frustrated after letting my emotions out...
on someone who's a fool...Silence sends a message and is so much more effective because that person
without you screaming your head off nose or is aware "oh they don't want anything to do with me!"
So please save your anger... your cursing... your rage because you'll feel good for about five minutes
and then you'll be over it! Instead go silent, walk away, stay away it's far better especially
for your mental health... your actual physical health and of course your own peace of mind...