In my last video I talked about things you can do as an INFP to better connect
with people and go deeper in your conversations at social events, at
parties, at places that usually you might not want to be at but that can actually
turn into a lot more fun if you give them an opportunity. In this video I want
to share about planning your environment and setting yourself up for success for
more of a big picture point of view. Now imagine you have a friend and this
friend he for whatever reason happens to love woman with really big but this is
just what he likes it's not up to me it's not up to you to decide how big of
a butt he can like he just happens to like really big buck and he comes to you
and he wants advice and he says hey you know me and my butt's you know that I'm
single and I'm looking to spend some time abroad I'd like to move somewhere
and maybe during my travels I'll meet someone I'll meet that special person
what do you think should I move to Colombia or Japan no if we're thinking
strategically here we're thinking a little bit logically I think we all know
the answer to where you would tell your friend to move now it turns out that
butt size is not the only thing that varies between cities and between
countries between different cultures that there is a ton of variance I can
tell you I live in Prague in the Czech Republic now I've been here four years
or so almost five years and the view around the arts around aspects of
culture is very different than where I grew up in Vancouver Canada if you're
someone who loves like painting for instance and you love art probably
you're going to connect with a lot more people in a place like this then you
might be in insane Minnesota it's just how things are at this point I've lived
in seven different countries and I can tell you that there is a different at
this point I've lived in seven different countries and I can tell you things vary
a ton in terms of what people value how people behave the types of conversations
you're going to have and for me I see this as an amazing opportunity to
reflect on the type of people you want to spend time with what's important to
you what values you hold dear and then maybe take a more proactive stance to
change where you live if we you are right now is not somewhere where
you find interesting people where you connect with those people around you
don't take this video as an excuse to be upset about that to be bitter to say you
know where I live this place sucks there's no way I can meet interesting
people no it's on you it is still your responsibility
you can pack up and move all my great grandparents were immigrants the
old-school type who like got on a boat with a bottle of whiskey and four
dollars in their pocket when they were 17 and sailed across oceans why did they
do it they did it for a better life they did it for an opportunity to do more and
we still have that opportunity you can also do the same thing though and more
of a micro level now again I encourage people to move I encourage you to
explore the world and all that sort of stuff and I'll link to some more videos
where I talk about both why I think you should do that and how to do it but you
have the possibility to do it within your own city as well I guarantee that
wherever you are now there's probably an opportunity to go to different kinds of
groups or events or training classes I was talking to a client the other day
and I suggested going to an improv comedy class it's a great way to connect
with interesting people to have fun and to find other people who are maybe
trying to do something a little more interesting with their lives right
another one of my clients is from the UK and is really into language learning and
so she started a meetup group around that topic in her city and it turns out
there's hundreds of other people in her city who are also interested in that I
know she's created this great community there of other people that she can now
connect with so if the takeaway from my last video was on making the most of the
party you have to be at the takeaway from this video is to make the party or
find the party for you and that might mean moving to another country or may
just be as simple as hopping on a site like meetup comm and finding that group
within your own city and connecting with those people so think about that today
what could you change in your environment
that would lead to deeper and more interesting connections and
conversations with people and in just a second here I'll link to that last video
talking about how to get more out of the party you're forced to go - thank you
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