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- "I fell in love with one of my closest friends.
He told me that even though we weren't right for each other
we'd still be friends and hang out and talk.
Now he wants nothing to do with me
and it annoys me at all cost.
I feel absolutely empty."
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- "My crush stopped being friends with me
because he didn't want to be in a relationship with me.
So I started texting him
off a fake number with a different name.
I text him every now and then
but he's never realized it's me."
Wow.
- "I had a crush of my friend
borderline being in love with her.
And so when she left the room one time
I unmatched her with someone on Tinder.
I kind of love that (laughs) it's not bad.
- So they just went through her phone?
Dang, well, that's kind of like
holding her back too isn't it?
Like if you really love her then wouldn't you
just let her be with whoever she wants to be with?
- Really bad at opening envelopes.
Oh yep.
I just screwed it out, that's okay.
:I am in a committed relationship
yet I have a crush on another man.
I feel guilty, confused and shameful.
The relationship I have with my boyfriend is magical
and I never expected something like this to happen to me."
I was dating somebody for like six months,
towards the end of it I like fell in love
with one of my best friends
and it was just one of the most difficult things
I'd personally experienced just emotionally
and like morally, you know
I think it's unfair to blame yourself for that.
You can't control your emotions.
You can't choose who you like and you don't like,
that's not anybody's fault.
- "I fell in love with one of my closest friends.
He told me that even though we weren't right for each other
we'd still be friends and hang out and talk.
Now he wants nothing to do with me
and ignores me at all cost, I feel absolutely empty."
I did go through this situation not that long ago,
I did feel really sad
and like felt like what was wrong with me?
Or like, why does he not want to reciprocate these feelings?
I wanted answers that he wasn't willing to give me.
And so I just had to come to the realization
that some things are just better left unsaid
and that if I was meant to know I would've known.
It was hard to come to that conclusion
'cause I'm the type of person that loves closure,
but it's not guaranteed for everyone, so.
- "I came out as a lesbian when I was around 14
and my best friend was my first girl crush.
I wanted to confess,
but she is homophobic so I knew I could never tell her.
Her comments on homosexual people got so bad
that I started cutting myself."
Oh, I, myself am a lesbian (laughs).
I realized around that same time, like 14 that I was
I never really told anyone about it
because I was scared of people's perceptions.
I think you need to tell her
because if she has this close-minded view of the world
it's not gonna help her grow either.
And it's cheesy as it sounds like it's gonna get better
and who you are as a person like that's who you should love.
- "I'm in love with my best friend.
I left our mutual workplace and a city a few months ago.
I told everyone I was excited for a new opportunity
but I actually left because it's too hard to be just friends
with him and work together every day.
I've regretted leaving
and not speaking my truth every day since.
Now I'll never know what could have been," mm.
- "I fell for a guy for two years, we became close friends.
I never told him how I felt
out of fear of ruining a friendship.
He recently moved back home from Texas,
not even knowing that I would go with him.
If only he asked me to, I think about it every day.
He was the one that got away."
- I can understand being afraid,
being vulnerable about your feelings
is always like terrifying.
Instead of viewing it as like scary
just think about like how brave that is
to talk about how you feel
and admit to someone how you feel.
I think there's actually like a lot more strength
and bravery in that than like hiding it forever.
- "There was a guy I worked with
and we spent the summer going out for drinks,
hanging out and sleeping together.
I ended up falling in love with him, but didn't tell him.
When I went to work in a different state for half a year,
he ghosted me right after I left.
I still think about him to this day
and wonder what I did wrong."
Well, I can say if someone is to ghost another person,
to have that amount of disregard for another person,
that's more a reflection of them than you.
Too many times in romantic encounters
people look inward when there's wrongdoing
and then attribute good things to their partner.
If someone ghost you,
that's someone that's honestly not worth
any more of your energy.
- "Never had a significant other, asked,
nor have I been taken on a day.
It used to make me feel as though
I have something wrong with me.
I am too ugly, too fat or just not enough.
It caused me to think I had no right to have a choice
or have boundaries."
I'm sorry that you feel that way, but that's not true.
You are good enough.
Now just because you've never been asked on a date,
welcome to my life.
I've never been asked on a date either
but I don't think that I'm not good enough.
I think that everybody is different
and everybody expects something different
but you are good enough.
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- Hey guys, thanks so much for checking out that episode.
I really enjoyed getting to be a part of it.
I hope you guys enjoyed it too.
- Yeah, Bonnie,
it was super awesome to see you in the episode
reading secrets from people who are just so brave
to put themselves out there.
And talking about bravery,
we're coming up with a series called "The Leap"
#theleapchallenge.
We wanna challenge you to reconnect
and reach out to maybe a family member
you had a falling out with,
an old friend you maybe have to ask forgiveness
or even call your parents to say a simple, I love you.
- So if you're interested in taking the leap challenge
go to the link in our description, fill out the form below
and maybe yours is a story that we'll be telling
in some of these upcoming episodes.
- Yeah. Thanks for watching and see you guys next time.
- Bye guys.
- Bye guys. Be safe.
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