Fox host: "Well, you may be familiar with the single girl any of us watched Carrie Bradshaw on Sex in the City but more women in real-
-life are staying single. So why is that?
Welcome to Trent trending i'm andrea tantaros joining me is Melanie Notkin author of other hood, which is a book
That's sweeping the nation and a lot of women are racing out there buying this book because it's resonating with the Melanie
Why are so many women staying single more than ever before?"
Melanie: "Because we won't settle for a lesser love.
Because we want the right relationship and we're waiting for that right relationship before even becoming mothers
so we now have the financial security and
All of the education and the independence has modern women to wait for the right love and we won't settle for less."
ThinkBeforeYouSleep:" I think the most offensive part of this Fox News clip is that I had to spend 15 minutes of my time fixing their crappy audio.
Listen to this, it sounds like I'm at the airport." Melanie: "As modern women to wait for the right love and we won't settle for less."
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "You would think that a professional studio with millions of dollars in the budget-
-would be able to outdo a random guy on the internet with almost zero experience in audio engineering?
That's just the quality we've come to expect from mainstream news. But that's not the only thing that meets our expectations
Even Fox News, which is supposed to be for conservatives, blames men when women weights their youth."
Fox host:" Talk a little bit about-
-what's wrong with the guys cuz we were talking earlier. What, what is prompting all of these single women looking for love?
It seems to be maybe an issue on the other side of the gender aisle."
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "When I see stuff like this, -
-I think back to my childhood in the late 90s the Oxygen Network had just come on TV.
And my annoying aunt was so happy to finally see a channel just for women.
I asked her why there were no channels exclusively for men at that point Spike TV wasn't a thing, but she responded:
"Because every channel is for men.".
Really? Every sitcom where the husband is a fat loser
And the wife is a genius that can do everything. That show is for men.
Every commercial where the wife has to bully the husband into buying the product like that annoying Sears air conditioning commercial that was on every
five seconds back in the 90s
Wife: "I cannot live another day without air conditioning system." Husband: "It is gonna be hotter." Wife: "Hotter?" Husband:" Like yesterday." Wife: "Yesterday?
Yesterday you said you'd call Sears." Husband: "I'll call them later." Wife: "You call them now." Husband: "I call now
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "If you ever needed more proof that TV is entirely for women then just look at how they never criticize women but always
shit on men. However, that's beside the point because right now we have a very pressing issue.
Women are ending up childless, but have no fear because our Twitter warrior savvy auntie is here.
My god.
Have you ever heard of a more sad Twitter handle for a 45 year old woman who wanted kids but wasted her youth
"I'm the cool aunt." I gotta tell you I had two childless cool aunts of my family.
Both of them are miserable and both of them has severe psychological issues, but let's indulge.
Let's hear what our savvy aunt has to say about the problem of childless women."
Melanie: "I think it's an issue on both sides and that I think the feminist
Feminism as a movement was wonderful and we have so much to be grateful for. However,
I think it became a little confusing for Generation X and that here we are these modern
independent women and we were told that, well, in order to be
equal to men we had to be more like men and
started to literally meet them in the middle for a date and the men were like: "Oh,
I don't want to be called a chauvinist pig
so I'm gonna lean back and I'll let her pick the restaurant and I'll, I'll let her take charge." And meanwhile,
Well, that dynamic doesn't necessarily work for a lot of women
We want a man who's gonna pick that restaurant, be a little chivalrous a lot chivalrous on that date
And that was the number one complaint
I got from women no matter how well-educated they were, how financially secure they were really bottom line with all the women
I interviewed pick the restaurants." ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "Did you guys notice that during this segment?
She blames everyone but women she said both men and women are at fault.
But then proceeds to blame feminism for misleading women and then so that men have to pick the restaurant.
What specifically do women have to do? These dumb news reports always tell everyone to change
Except for the women who are watching who actually have the problem. It's always someone else's fault."
Melanie: "So I think it's a little bit of both women have to learn as we know to lean in at work.
But lean back at night and vice versa for men.
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "Okay,
I get what you're saying here : "Men should lean in at home by doing all the work in the relationship and then
after taking on all that responsibility
when they get to work,
they should lean back to let a less qualified
female take charge" and I say less qualified because if she was good
then he wouldn't have to step back and give her a chance to lead if she was actually more qualified.
She would just be the leader." Fox Host: "Thanks feminism for all this responsibility." ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "Yes feminism,
thanks for giving women so much agency and
responsibility.
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ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "All right back to Fox News."
Melanie: "Um, yes, we have a lot of choices, but the best choice which feminism gave us was to wait for love."
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "That's actually not a good thing.
Having a ton of options is only a positive outcome when you know how to filter out all the low value choices.
When faced with a bunch of different things to choose from,
a smart person realizes that those choices are going to end up as a purrito distribution:
90% of the options are going to suck and 10% of the options will be better than the rest.
So you ignore the 90% and focus on the few choices that are good by making sacrifices.
The problem is you see many women who don't want to make sacrifices
listen to feminists and then try to pick up everything all at once.
That leaves them paralyzed with too many options and then they just end up choosing nothing by the time they hit the wall.
This is how you get tons of unmarried women who are over 30.
Saying they are still trying to find themselves. TheFallenState's host: "And Clementine is in her mid-30s. She's actress and writer."
Clementine: "Okay, I'm still trying to figure out
my place in this world and my purpose." ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "When exactly are you going to find yourself when you're 50, I mean
shit-or-get-off-the-pot.
Or are you just covering up for your failure to make good decisions?
These women always want to make it look like it's their choice to be unmarried and childless at 35 years old.
However, if you listen to this Jesse Lee Peterson panel
you'll hear that Clementine our mid 30s cat lady is unmarried because she is a bad person.
Not because she hasn't found the right guy yet. He wouldn't want her even if she found him.
She is so embarrassed about this that she is the only one on the panel who didn't give her exact age.
These women try to look detached but always get so offended when you call them on it.
It's so obvious that they care they aren't married or childless. Don't take my word for it though. Take it from my favorite evil spinster
Shalin Lester. Shalin:" Like I
Remember somebody saying to one of my friends like : "Oh, you're childless?" and she's like I am childfree,
ok? Key word
there is fraid not less the word is I'm not less because I don't have a child and I was like
Are you thinking this is like kind of a stranger but I was like, oh it was amazing and I'm like, yeah
I'm not less because I don't have something that you have valued as your number one priority, right?"
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "You were only offended because you care. If a stranger walked up to me and said : "Oh, you don't have a Ferrari?
What a loser."
I wouldn't give two shits because I don't want a Ferrari.
But you care so much about your failure to find a man that you're even trying to change the words.
Shaolin's friend isn't the only one doing that. They changed the word to child free in the Fox News clip too. Fox Host: "Only 5%
Adults are child free by choice." ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "Well, it's not their choice. So I guess by doing the reverse math that would make
95% of those women childless.
Very very few women don't want to have kids.
Honestly, I think very few people
want to miss out on having children.
But women in the media are trying to make it seem like it doesn't matter because they don't want to admit that they are, one:
not desirable or two: made a bunch of bad decisions and wasted their youth.
Speaking of wasted youth, remember this interview with Emma Watson? Emma: "I
Never believed the whole I'm happy single spiel. I was like, this is spiel. *host speaking* I know.
It took me a long time, but I'm very happy. I call it being self partnered. Host: "Right, right."
ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "Wow, that's about as sad as a spinster who calls herself the cool aunts.
Actually, I'm surprised that last year when this happened no one pointed out how annoying. This interviewer was the interviewer Paris
feels the need to constantly mention that he is trans during the interview.
Host: "I'm a trans woman so I know my angles. I think that trans women.
Trans women, it's quite complicated." ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "God,
I think that is the most annoying thing that sjw's do. Well, as a woman,
I mean as a person of color, as a vegan.
I just think that's horrible.
If you constantly have to announce your identity before you state your points,
then you are just saying that your point has no validity. If your idea is good
then it should be valid outside of your identity.
But anyway, back to Emma. During this whole interview, she sounds completely naive.
I don't really know how to explain it. It just sounds like she is missing crucial information on how the world works.
Listen to how she describes being almost 30. Host: "Oh, we let's talk about the fact that you are going to turn 30."
Emma: "This was really interesting. So I was like.
Why does everyone make such a big fuss about turning 30? This is not a big deal, but address cut 2. 29.
Oh my god, I feel so stressed and anxious. *Wow*
and I realize it's because there are, there is suddenly this bloody influx of subliminal messaging all around. If
you if you do not have a, if you have not built a home,
If you do not have a husband, if you do not have a baby and you are turning 30 -
- only I knew not is something like incredibly like
secure, stable place in your career, you're still figuring things out -
there's just like this incredible amount of anxiety." ThinkBeforeYouSleep: "You get that anxiety
because you don't have forever to have children. Do you not understand basic biology?
This is why men get pissed.
Women waste all their good childbearing years having sex with chads while they leave the good men the leftovers.
This is why those men are saying fuck it when it comes to women.
Statements like the one Emma just made have no sense of urgency:
"Well, maybe I'll go to college for a few years after maybe I will start a career and then by the time I'm in my
30s I can start thinking
about having kids."
Then it just never gets done and she claims she's still trying to find yourself eight years after being in one of the most
successful movie series of all time Emma feels anxiety because she's already blown past most of her youth while still being single.
She still looks kind of young but in a few years no decent guy's going to want her.
However in her mind, there is no time limit.
So she just sits there in limbo and never decides
which choices are the 90% that suck and which twists of the 10% that are good.
You need something to force you to do that, a life with no stress will make you weak. And
maybe that's why emma sounds so naive as an adult.
She's been a millionaire since she was a teenager and hasn't really been required to do anything in years.
one of the most damaging philosophies that was given to our generation is:
"Don't worry you have time."
No, guys, you don't have time. If you are ever going to get anything done
you need a good plan and then not enough time to accomplish it.
You need the stress to do good work. If you have six months to write a paper for your English class
do you get it all done at the beginning or?
Do you wait until the last week when time is about to run out?
People without deadlines or stress don't get things done. Especially creative people. Do you think I do all these videos ahead of time?
Absolutely not.
I have specific deadlines for each portion of the video and I hit every single
deadline at the last minute. If it wasn't for the deadlines my videos would never get released. Now,
some people are capable of getting something done right away, but most people aren't. Most people procrastinate.
But that's not necessarily a bad thing.
Some of my greatest ideas come to me while I am being unproductive.
Usually great ideas are created by putting in a little bit of work at the start and then leaving it for a day or two
to allow your brain to process the idea.
However, you do have to have some kind of defense against overprocrastination.
Every meaningful goal in life
whether it's small or large needs to have a time limit or you won't do it.
Not to mention if you don't have a time limit,
then it's hard to measure your success or failure. If you are trying to lose weight, you might say: "In 8 weeks
I want to lose 10 pounds."
Well, it turns out that you lost 15 pounds in those 8 weeks so you can say to yourself:
"Okay, I guess 10 pounds is too easy. I know now to shoot for a 15 pounds in 8 weeks".
Maybe you only lost 5 pounds.
So, you say: "10 pounds is too much" and then back it up to 5 or
You spend time figuring out why you missed your goal
so that you don't miss it the next time. If you just say: "I'm going to lose 10 pounds"
but don't give a timeframe
You lose a major tool that allows you to track yourself and make sure that you were on the right path.
When you set a deadline you were defining success so that you were able to tell if you are successful or...
Maybe that's not what you want. Maybe you don't want to find success because success defines failure.
Maybe you want to become like that mid-30s Clementine who is still trying to break into acting and find herself.
If that's the case
then tell me: is it worse to spend nearly two decades as a miserable adult?
Or is it worse to deal with a little failure now so that you could be much better off in the future.
I think I will leave it at that.
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