- So why is it that good women tend to attract bad guys?
Well, it's kinda like a moth drawn to a flame,
except in this analogy,
you are the flame burning bright into the evening sky,
and the moth is a bloodsucking egotistical, maniacal,
maniac narcissistic man who wants to take you for everything
that you have and suck all of your emotional energy dry,
making you want to say, beep all men, I becoming a lesbian.
And of course there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian,
I welcome that if that's what you want to do,
but if you do want to attract a good guy
and you are a good woman then keep watching
because I don't want you to make these mistakes.
Hey there, Adam LoDolce from LoveStrategies.com,
where we help successful single women get out there
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So let's jump into the three reasons why it is
that a good woman can sometimes attract a bad man.
Reason number 1 is that good women
tend to be givers by nature.
And you know what givers tend to attract? Takers.
So I can actually relate to this
because by nature I tend to actually be a giver,
not only just in my romantic relationship,
but also in professional relationships.
And that is kind of by nature a good thing, right?
To want to give and want to help other people.
But at times in my life, I had to be aware of this tendency
because this did at one time attract a taker
in my professional life.
And it wasn't until that happened
where I realized that this one lesson
that was very, very important,
and that is that I will only give in my relationship
so long as it's being reciprocated or matched.
And that's the beautiful thing
about a healthy romantic relationship
is you give, you put in your emotional energy, your time,
everything in you got
and the person that you're in a romantic relationship with
is also doing the same.
And by doing that, the sum of each part
is greater than the whole,
which is what makes a romantic relationship so incredible.
But be aware of that.
If you're a good woman,
you find that you're always the giver,
being very intentional about where you're putting
that energy and to whom you're giving it to,
because I promise you, there are a lot of takers out there
that will suck you drive all your emotional energy.
Number 2 is that good women tend to hate the word no.
It's easy to think that you're being a good person
by going around and saying yes to everything.
Yes to when people ask you for favors.
Yes when someone asks you out.
Yes to continuing to see a guy
even if he's not treating you well.
But I've actually found over the years
and when we coach our clients that the most powerful word
in the English language is actually no.
And it's unfortunate because I think a lot of good people
just don't like the conflict that comes along with no.
They are people pleasers, they like to keep the peace
and they don't want any conflict.
But as you go through this process
of raising your value as a woman,
going through this process of attracting a high value man,
you have to learn how to say no and push away the people
and the opportunities that are not going to serve you.
And reason number 3 is that good women tend to assume,
I think naive in many ways,
that all people are inherently good.
Look, I think it's a beautiful thing to inherently assume
that all people are good natured,
but the reality of the world is that it's just not true.
That's not to say that all people are inherently bad,
of course not, it's that there's a mixture.
And I want you when it comes to your life,
not only your love life, but your life,
I want you to have a healthy dose of skepticism
when you're meeting someone new.
And the only way to really know if you can trust a person
is how consistent they are being over a long period of time.
You need to know a person for a decent amount of time
and whether or not they follow through on their word.
And the longer that you know them,
then the longer that they're following through
on their promises, the words, the more that they show up,
the more they invest in you, okay,
then you can start trusting that person.
But don't go around assuming
that everyone is just inherently good because they're not
and they'll take advantage of you.
And look I know I sound like your big brother here
trying to protect you and in many ways I am,
I mean, I find that there has been a lot of our clients
who will say that I'm kind of like the big brother
watching out for them,
I just want you to be successful.
I want you to set yourself up for success.
And sometimes that just means
you need to defend yourself out there.
You are the greatest protector of your heart
and it's very important for you to in many ways
be able to say no, to be able to push away people
who are trying to take advantage of you
or take things from you.
And you know what's crazy is once you start raising
your standards, suddenly you start attracting
the type of men who are on that level.
So go ahead, raise your standards
and let's help you attract long lasting love.
And if you'd like a little bit of help
raising your standards and attracting a high quality man
on a deep emotional level,
then I recommend you check out our free training
where we teach you what we call
the emotional attraction formula.
We'll leave a link right there below
and it's gonna teach you how to tap into a man's
most primal instinct to make him want to pursue you
on a deep emotional level.
You're not gonna wanna miss it, go ahead and check it out.
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if you have traditionally been a good woman
who's attracted bad guys.
Thank you so much for watching
and I'll speak to you very soon, you sexy single lady.
Bye-bye.