she showed up to my place unannounced and she knocked and do you know what i did i went ahead
turned on my tv to show her that i was inside and i was not gonna open up welcome back to Neemah
Speaks a place where i empower women throughout the diaspora remember; "don't you know that a
man being rich is like a girl being pretty. you might not marry a girl just because she's pretty
but my goodness doesn't it help?" with your host Neemah Speaks. Hey lovelies welcome back to Neemah
Speaks. Today I want to come back and talk about how to protect your feminine energy
in order to become the main character in your life. So, without further ado let's go!
the first point is that: you gotta put yourself first this is something that I always say and I had
some people said, "Neemah you're very selfish". "How dare you say you're putting yourself first. That is
not to you being feminine. That's just you being selfish!" and to those people, I tell them I don't
care. I don't care what you think. it's extremely important to understand that when you're trying
to protect your feminine energy, understand that you come first. I talked about this before that
you always put the oxygen mask on you first. So what is the action plan for putting you first?
the first thing that I'm gonna tell you to do is, unfollow people who don't bring joy into your life
and unfollow people or things that makes you feel terrible about yourself.
now I know what you might be saying Neemah, if you feel terrible about what I post on my page,
you need some self-esteem. For me, it's pretty simple. I don't like watching things that bring me
down. So for me, it was extremely important to only follow the people who lift me up. Now this is one
of the things that I had to do, two times, now in my life. The first time the reason why I don't
have any personal social media and most people think I'm lying when I say this but it's true. i
deleted my social media back in the day because it became way too much. I was living my life according
to other people. I was looking at all these other people comparing me to them while I was
putting myself second, into my own on life! So I went ahead and deleted all of my social media.
I deleted Facebook, I deleted Instagram y'all i had Instagram back in the day when Instagram was
popping. When it first came out I was all up in that Instagram but I had to go ahead and delete
that to protect my energy. I had to put myself first so I'm telling you to unfollow people. Now this maybe
little bit extreme for me the way i did it i just said screw this i just deleted all everything but
for you, you can do what I did last year in 2020 when all the BLM movement was going on and all
of the things it was way too much for my soul so on Neemah Speaks Instagram page i went ahead and
I unfollowed everybody, I don't follow anybody back is because I am putting myself first I realized that
people were triggering me and i know that people need to work on themselves and i'm going to talk
about that there's a lot of thing that you got to work on but the first thing that to eliminate
is loving you so much that you put you first now if you want to learn more about putting you first
please go ahead and watch my video on the art of giving zero f my level of giving zero f is out of
this moon and that does not come overnight that is something that i slowly but surely worked on
i did not just wake up one day and say i don't give an f about you what you think i don't give
an f about your opinion is irrelevant i did not start that way that is something that
you ladies out there you can learn if you want to be the main character in your life and stop
giving your power away is the first rule of business is put you first as i always say
in the plane they tell you put that oxygen mask on yourself first it is what it is
once you learn to put you first this is the second thing that's gonna be happening people are gonna
start to challenge you and this was the second tip comes in is that no is your new best friend
repeat after me ladies no is my new best friend one of the thing that i had to learn
the hard way is that first of all no is a full sentence when i say no in the english world
no is the full sentence so for me no became my new best friend what exactly does that mean when you
put you first people are gonna start judging you people are gonna start calling you names
making fun of you say oh you think you're all of that in a bag of chip you're not even that cute
and you gotta learn to say no i have become so comfortable in my life that if i'm not comfortable
doing something the answer is no if i don't want to go somewhere the answer is no i don't want to
see you the answer is no no is my favorite word in the english vocabulary no is the full sentence
why is this so important when you're trying to protect your feminine energy put you first
and you're choosing you say no more often let me tell you about one time where somebody thought
i was so petty i have this rule where i don't like when people show up to my house unannounced
this happened i think back last year was that 2020 if you're gonna show up to my house please
let me know don't just roll up come to my house unannounced and expect me to open the door why
am i telling you this story i'm going somewhere with this my aunt she has a habit of coming to
your house showing up and announced and expecting you to open the door it's an african tradition
where family is family the more the family the merrier blah blah blah blah you're not gonna come
to my house and announce that it's just a respect factor that's how i personally think it's my value
system my personal belief if you drive seven hours to come to my house you should have the courtesy
to be able to tell me hey nima i'm driving i'm coming there i'll be there at 3 p.m just letting
you know i won't be mad but she showed up to my place unannounced and she knocked and do you know
what i did i went ahead and i turned on my tv okay to show her that i was inside and i was not
gonna open up she ended up calling me she said nima i'm outside the door open up i told her no
to this day she's very salty about it but to me it's a respect factor to me is putting me first
i told her no and she was shocked she could not believe it she was like i want to tell your mom
it's very disrespectful to me and to some of you my say nima that is extreme of course was it petty
for me to turn on my tv and put it loud so they can hear me that i am inside the door and i'm
i'm not gonna open the door was that petty okay it was petty and this is how i slowly build up
that backbone to become the main character in my life i stopped playing the supporting role in my
own life i stopped giving my power away to people because i was afraid to say no especially to
family and friends they feel so comfortable sometimes that if you tell them no you might
feel like you're hurting their feelings but i had to learn it the hard way that it's okay to say no
and no should become your best friend and that's on period so next time somebody asks you something
that you don't want to do the answer is no if they ask you why not say no is a full sentence period
the third way on how i became the main character in my own life is i now have a feminine activator
it may be like nima what is a feminine activator what is the femininity activator
to me a femininity activator is a thing it can be a physical thing that tells you it's time
for you to be feminine how does this tie back into me becoming the main character
in my life i believe as women you can benefit from being in tune with your femininity i think
it's extremely beneficial for you to be feminine but sometimes as ladies nowadays we don't just sit
home and cook clean take care of the kids and go to sleep as ladies now there in the 21st century
we have to go to work where we have to be more in tune with our masculinity it is what it is when
i'm at work sometimes you might need to tap into the masculinity to be that lioness at work okay
to get things done you don't want people to mess with you and that's okay i personally believe
that is absolutely fine but the issue becomes when you cannot turn off that masculine energy
when you bring the masculine energy from your college university school from work from whatever
you are during the day and when you come back at home bringing that energy back to me that
is not you being the main character in your life bringing the stress to your own humble abort to me
that's not you putting you first and protecting your energy what can you do about it you can get
a thing called a feminine activator it can be a bracelet that you put on once you get off work
you wear this bracelet that reminds you it's time to be feminine maybe i should make this bracelet
where it says this time to be feminine where you put it on once you get off work for me since i
wear a watch every day i don't have a space to wear a bracelet so my feminine activator is this
either a victoria secret or a bath and bodywork body spray it's called teas it smells so nice and
sexy and extremely feminine it smells so good so every single time i come back home in my room i
spray the t's body spray all around my room and why i do that that's my signal to tell me that
nema it's okay from now on to be feminine it's time to let go of your masculinity and be feminine
and i remember that video the reality of pick me women and one of the things that i told you in
there that you are too masculine when you're too masculine please use the feminine activator again
i love the bracelet idea should we do something about the feminine activator where we can make a
bracelet where it says it's cis it's time for you to be feminine it's something cute like that okay
but for me right now i use a body spray that i spray into my room into my whole space once i open
the door i take my little body spray spray spray my house the door breathe in that beautiful scent
and that scent in my head it reminds me it's time for to become feminine when i become feminine when
i'm resting in my femininity when i'm protecting my energy it means my feminine energy it means
i'm putting me first it means that i am becoming the important person in my own
life you need to become the lady of your dream and embody the main character energy
after you have your feminine activator you learn to put you first and you know how to say no this
way this fourth point is extremely important and that is having a safe space to express yourself
and release the masculine energy that we have to deal with during the day now why is this so
important when you're learning to become the main character or putting you first and finding you as
the important person in your life we cannot avoid stress we cannot say i don't want no stress in my
life that's not realistic stress will come and go in our life but how we handle stress
that's the most important part of it one of the things that i might suggest for you
therapy i study therapy back last year in october why i personally love therapy because i get to
deal with some things that i need to deal with if you have anger issue if you are stressed out
if you don't know how to manage yourself if you have gone through a loss in your life and you
have not dealt with that therapy can help you being able to deal with that i believe that you
cannot to go into relationship without you dealing with your demons first that's one outlet that you
can use to express yourself now i might be like nima i don't want to be sitting down talking about
my feelings maybe the gym can be your safe space another thing if you feel overwhelmed
you go for a walk if you're stressed out you journal i haven't journaled in a while
i love my journals because they have luck i can write whatever i feel like in that journal express
my feelings cuss people out say whatever it is what i want to say lock it up and put it away so
i'm gonna leave the link down below for the amazon for you if you wanna get the same journal as me
but ladies remember to become the main character in your life you need to find a safe way and a
safe space to be able to express your feelings where you're not gaslighted you're not make
feel uncomfortable where you're not people are not belittling you for feeling the way you feel
because for me my feminine energy it's extremely valuable and scary that i don't want nobody else
messing that up i am extremely crazy about protecting my feminine energy so as always
again remember the fourth point is that find a safe space and a safe way to express yourself
y'all know me i can talk forever i just wanted to come back today and talk about the importance of
how you can become the main character in your life step by step how i did it how you can become it as
well how to protect your feminine energy because it's time for you to be selfish and choose you as
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