Hoplessness
Hello there.
The feeling of hopelessness
is the feeling-state that's the result
of the thought that you are trapped
in an intolerable situation
and that you're absolutely powerless to change it.
It's complete despair -
one of the lowest vibrational frequencies that you can find on Earth.
It is in fact, the vibration that causes people to commit suicide.
Why?
If you're trapped in an intolerable situation,
then you can guarantee
(if you can't change that intolerable situation)
and that's pain.
No one would stick around for
If you have experienced trauma in childhood,
especially abuse of any kind,
the feeling of hopelessness is most likely deeply ingrained
and continues to reappear in your life.
And who blames you?
You did experience situations
where you were trapped and powerless to do something about it.
Anyone would struggle with hopelessness if they found themselves in that situation.
And if you currently feel hopeless,
it's important to know that nothing has gone 'wrong'
if you feel that way.
The way you feel is an accurate reflection of the thoughts you're thinking
about whatever conditions you find yourself in.
Anyone who experienced those conditions
and thought those thoughts as a result of it,
would feel the exact same way.
But if you are in a state of hopelessness,
what exactly should you do about it?
Step 1.
Whatever you do,
don't
Don't write a single affirmation.
Anything you try hard to do
to get out of the feeling of hopelessness
will ensnare you deeper ...
It functions like a spider web.
When you feel hopeless,
if you try to get out of that hopelessness
you will only wind yourself deeper and tighter.
You'll get more stuck.
Besides, if you're feeling hopeless
you've already entered into anything you do with an attitude of:
"It's not gonna work".
#2. From this point, you have two options.
The first is
to do anything you can do to distract yourself.
When you're in a Vibration that is as low as complete Hopelessness,
sometimes, placing your attention
on
is enough to raise your frequency
into the range where you can then
deliberately focus your thought
on something that feels better.
So what you should do is
watch your favorite comic,
maybe watch a video,
go do some sort of hobby
that you know demands the full attention within your being,
you could read a book or play a video game...
and when you feel your emotional state improve,
then
or do some other activity that's specifically designed
to improve your mood.
The one thing you wanna watch for with this option,
is that it can be tempting to use distraction
as a permanent state of escapism from life itself.
The second option, which is my personal favorite,
(and the one that is more of a long-term solution instead of a short-term solution)
is that you stop trying to do anything else
and you instead,
focus all of the attention of your consciousness
on the hopelessness itself.
You allow yourself to sink deep into that feeling-state
and be completely unconditionally present with it.
Instead of resisting it,
invite it to consume you and flow through you.
Allow the hopelessness fully.
The feeling of being hopeless and trapped
is a reflection of childhood experiences of helplessness.
To understand this process fully
you can watch my video on YouTube titled:
"How to Heal the Emotional Body".
#3:
Disidentify with your thoughts and feelings.
You wanna step into this state of being the Observer.
If you are able to observe your emotions
and observe your thoughts,
then you must not only
you must be
This is a really, really critical thing to do
because when you're in a state of hopelessness
your thoughts are very 'grabby'.
They convince you, essentially, that they're accurate and true.
And then, your emotional-state reflects that belief
(that those thoughts are true) instantly.
The best way to imagine this
is to think of yourself as a deep, still lake.
Your thoughts and emotions are like the ripplesin the surface of that lake.
They are still part of the lake, but they are not the whole lake.
By sinking beneath them you can experience yourself
as the stillness underneath
who is now observing
the feelings and thoughts on the surface of you.
You can experience them
without judgment about whether they're right or wrong
or about what they mean.
This disidentification is an amazing way to stop the momentum of thought,
which is critical when it comes to downward negative spirals.
I have a meditation that will help you to do this.
To try it out, watch my video on YouTube titled:
Mindfulness Meditation (The Observer Self)
#4:
Once the 'doom' that is the by-product of this hopelessness
begins to dissipate like the fog dissipates from the mountaintops,
I want you to sit down
and either make a list, or think of a list,
of things to look forward to.
If you're in a state of hopelessness,
you feel like you have nothing to look forward to.
Except for pain.
So, making a list of things to
and keeping it somewhere in plain view in your room,
is a really good way to counteract that particular belief.
Just remember, if you're trapped in hopelessness still,
trying to do this step (or the next step I'm about to give you)
is a
It will only make you feel worse.
#5:
Every day, I want you to do a scavenger hunt
for Positive Aspects.
These are things in your reality
that feel good to look at.
Things you appreciate or feel gratitude for.
You can do this either in your head,
or, like I like to do it,
by writing a list.
The vibrational frequency of appreciation
is the exact opposite
of the Vibration of powerlessness.
And hopelessness is an aspect of powerlessness.
Not only that,
it is not possible to feel like a victim
and to focus on things going right for you
(appreciation),
at the
Those vibrational frequencies cancel each other out.
In other words,
focusing on things that are going right for you
or things that you like about your life
(no matter how small or large they may be)
is an antidote to hopelessness.
#6:
Face the issue by directly addressing the situation at hand.
And the situation at hand is this:
You feel trapped.
So the question to ask yourself is:
"What do I feel trapped by?"
"What do I feel trapped between?"
Keep in mind that it might be negative thoughts, themselves,
that you feel out of control of
and trapped by.
"What situation feels intolerable?"
"How am I holding myself back, or holding myself prisoner, right now?"
If there are any changes you can make to this intolerable situation,
make them!
Involve other people, including professionals,
to see options that you most likely do
in this seemingly futile situation.
Those of you who remember the video that I did on meaning...
I think the video is called:
Meaning (The Self-Destruct Button),
know that the minute that you decide something is hopeless
(meaning you have absolutely no control over the situation),
that's the 'meaning' you assign to an experience.
So it's like you put those 'glasses' on
and now, you can only see the world through those lenses.
And those lenses,
if you're in a state of hopelessness,
they obscure the world to the degree that you are no longer seeing any options
to get out of the circumstance that you're in.
Even if you cannot control any aspect of your external circumstance
that you find yourself in,
you still have control over what you're focused upon.
The more futile the situation seems,
the more important it is to embrace uncertainty.
For more on how to do this you can watch my video on YouTube titled:
Uncertainty (How to Deal with Uncertainty)
Because you are interpreting
the circumstances and events in your life through lens of meaning
that you are 'Helplessly Trapped',
you need to be willing to ask yourself:
"Is it 100% true that I
All too often we are endlessly focusing
on the things we can't change about a situation,
instead of on the things we
#7:
Get out and do activities that you enjoy
or that you
When we feel hopeless
we give up on doing the things in our life
which might possibly change the way that we feel
for the better ...
So I want you to think about those things in your life
that cause you to feel better, and do them
and if there's none of those,
think about things you used to love to do,
and go do them!
#8:
Hopelessness is indicative of the fact
that we feel powerless to meet a specific need.
All too often, we are not consciously aware of what that need is.
The circumstance that we're experiencing is causing us to experience
a deprivation for that need.
So, once you look at your situation of hopelessness,
and discover what need it is
that you feel absolutely powerless to meet or have met,
brainstorm alternative ways
that you could get that need met
#9:
Let yourself cry.
Crying is a
It's absolutely amazing when it comes to hopelessness.
Because, if you think about yourself being 'trapped',
crying is an expression,
it's a release of energy,
it's the opposite of that feeling and that vibration of 'Trapped-ness'.
As it applies to Hopelessness, crying is magic ...
It may just be what you need
to clear the fog of helplessness from your mind
and thus allow clarity to return.
#10:
Allow yourself to consider that Life actually
and then you can give up ...
This means: fully
This may seem completely counterproductive
but yet again,
hopelessness on a vibrational-level,
functions like a spider-web.
The harder you try to get out of it,
the deeper you will wind yourself
Sometimes we have to release all resistance
by just giving-up on the situation we are so desperate to get out of,
or fix, or change.
This is the Practice of Surrender ...
Then we are left with the question:
"If it really is hopeless and there's nothing to do but give up on this,
what can I do instead, to feel just a little bit better?"
If you feel hopeless,
it is tempting to think that you have given-up
and that you have completely surrendered to the situation.
But if you are in fact, feeling Hopelessness,
this is not the case ...
All you are doing in your life
is resisting the situation
that feels futile.
You are slamming your head up
against the wall ...
You are in a state of resistance,
stuck in a kind of futile desperation to change
what you want to have change ...
We have been told for all our life that the strong never surrender,
but I am proposing the opposite ...
I am proposing
that it takes even more strength
to willingly surrender.
I am proposing the idea
that the minute that we are willing
to let go of what
we allow the Universe
to open doors to what
So consider,
that by surrendering to your own hopelessness,
the jail bars might actually swing open.
Have a good week ...
Subtitles by: Tanya Duarte www.tanyaduarte.com