before we begin i have a dream that i
had last night that turned out to be
super relevant for this video that we're
making
hannah doesn't know about it yet yeah i
was gonna say i haven't heard this
stream yet i'm intrigued we were setting
up the camera and shane was like
and i was like what he was like i had a
dream last night
it was like what was it and he was like
i'm not going to tell you yet this is a
typical shane
horror dream
uh i dreamed that hannah gave birth to
three babies one after another in a
hotel
being performed by
this like random person that was like i
can help out what the first we really in
this like real sketchy like high-rise
hotel
and we kept getting lost and we were
freaking out because you were about to
give birth three times and i want to say
it wasn't like she was having triplets
i don't in the dream it was like three
distinct different pregnancies
um
but that makes sense they all happened
all at once anyway
the first one
as you began giving birth you told me
that i had to leave the room oh and so i
sat out in the hallway of the hotel and
listened to you giving birth which was
like obviously
scary and loud and terrifying why did i
make you leave no idea you're just like
i don't know if it was like
you were like the doctor or the fate
doctor or whatever but i was kicked out
of the room oh my god second one
like
it happened right after
you were like i'm not doing that again i
want a c-section
so
this is very specific for that one i had
i was in the room but you were like
surrounded by
like uh like medical sheets and stuff
i didn't see the surgery um but you had
the second baby that way did you see the
babies not the first two
uh but the third one you were like okay
for this one i don't want to be put
under a down so i'll get back to that
like non-stop um yeah natural yeah
no that would be i don't know
there we go oh we're gonna get flying
for that let's block that when we edit
uh anyway for that one the third one you
realize i want shane to be right by me
this time okay so you like ripped my arm
with all of your strength and you were
like right now and it was everything
that you imagined of like
you know stressful
birth
and then the doctor the person lifted up
the baby
fresh out
and handed it directly to me and i was
like oh
like happy like happy feelings
were you happy i was happy yeah and then
i will have but i only ever saw that one
i don't know what happened to the other
two
anyway that was my dream weirdest dream
ever that is so
weird
wow i don't know i have had babies on
the mind apparently you do
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all right so today we are talking kind
of related to shane's dream kind of not
sort of not a creepy creepy dream we are
talking about adoption and we are going
to talk about
something that we did
yeah this is i mean this feels like a
pretty big video yeah but it's obviously
more complicated and involved than the
title would you yeah show the title so
please watch the whole video yes before
you comment because we have to explain
everything please watch the video
exactly all right so before we actually
get into the the you know our personal
involvement in this the meat of it we
want to talk a little bit about the fact
that adoption is a very nuanced topic
yeah this is a bit of a disclaimer this
is a disclaimer yeah it's a very nuanced
topic um we want to be careful with that
i
first learned about adoption in a
sociology class in college and that's
kind of when shane and i started talking
about it shane like read all of the
books that i had to read which he did
for every class but we learned about it
together there and
yeah there's like there's a lot of
issues with adoption a lot of terrible
things happen in the adoption world and
so we want to you know be sure to
acknowledge that and not just be like
you know we want to adopt yeah it's
awesome and i think you'll see as we
explain
our involvement that every step of the
way our priority was to be
as
thoughtful and careful and calculated
about all of this as
possible and we are not
being really nearly about anything here
yeah yeah um so yeah definitely so with
that in mind we went into this
thinking about foster care adoption
essentially
and also we weren't trying to become
foster parents we were trying to adopt
from foster care so there's you can do
either you can become a foster parent or
you can adopt kids that are already in
foster care anyway that is sort of the
pathway that we were taking
um this was about a year ago i was gonna
say yeah just like this is a year ago
that's i'm speaking in past times yeah
this was a year ago we started like
actually talking about this around this
time you'll probably remember our videos
from this time about a year ago we were
thinking a lot about having kids in
their future with biological or through
adoption yes so kids were a big part of
our everyday conversation yes
so a year ago we decided to
begin the adoption process and in the
state of minnesota that is a
16-hour course i believe
um it was like a two-full day
course thing and because of covet it was
online so that was the first thing that
we did we learned a lot through that
and
the next step was to
meet or like pick an adoption agency and
meet with them so there were
obviously there's a lot of options in
minnesota um this course gave like five
options of places that they recommended
like the five main ones i guess um and
some of those were for
private adoption like international
adoption they were just like various
various ones um and so we picked one
that did foster care adoption uh we did
the course then we met with this
adoption agency um and we had a meeting
with them we talked for a really long
time about our lives and yeah it was
like a big interview yeah it was
basically an interview for them to be
like do you do we like you and do we
feel comfortable with them yeah going
both ways so we did that we asked a lot
of questions and from that interview the
next step was to
think very seriously about it and then
it would be the home study like that was
like their direction yeah they were like
all right now what we tell every temple
is like take two weeks and think about
it yeah just take some time and thank
you about it yeah and then the next step
would be the home study and that is a
very long and very involved process and
because we live with my parents they
would also be involved in it so we're
like that was a very large undertaking
after that meeting that was
early last summer
right after that shane got the ordinary
joe consulting job yes
and all of a sudden
we realized that this was always sort of
on the table but we realized that we
might want to move yeah in the next
couple of years yeah suddenly you know
this entrance this unexpected entrance
into like the television industry yeah
gave us this new family oh maybe we need
to be thinking more about l.a yeah but
we hadn't really been thinking about
moving anywhere
around this time but suddenly we were
like oh
yeah and that may have spent a lot more
team here a lot of thinking a lot of
thinking
you know and then the fact that all of
shane's family is out on the east coast
there might be a time that we want to
move out there like there were just we
just started thinking about moving and
adopting from foster care specifically
what that would be very irresponsible
because we would have a
child whose family is in this state who
probably has visitation with that family
who obviously has a connection with them
and we can't adopt a child and then take
them out of the state where their family
is so at that point we decided to put
the process on pause the certification
that we received by taking that 16 hour
class that is good for like five years
five years so um we wanted to make sure
we had that so that you know as our life
changes and we figure out what's going
on um
we can explore it when the time is right
yeah but with the possibility of moving
that came about we
decided to pause right now so we're both
still open to biological kids or
adoption um but we just wanted to give
you guys an update on
this that went on in our lives it was
obviously like a big talking point in
our relationship for
uh
for a long time so it was important for
us to share that with you this is an
example of when people are like how do
you decide what to keep private versus
what you share online this is a giant
life development yeah that we just
didn't tell the public about because
it's sensitive and personal yeah um and
now that a year has gone by we feel that
we can you know share it yes but
that's what happened that's where we are
in the
possible future children
toxic process exactly i always did to
have a little
life update yeah