Hey, this is Mat Boggs, and today we’re going to talk about a pretty serious question
that gets asked in my community in a lot of different ways actually.
And it was recently asked by one of my coaching clients and it pretty much boils down to this:
“Will I ever find love?
Will I always be single in my life?”
And it can rise up in this feeling of this hopelessness or depression because of how
long you may have been single.
In a lot of my online webinars, I’ll say, “How long has it been since you’ve had
a great relationship?”
And women will chime in and they’re write, you know, “20 years,” or, “My whole
life,” or, “For five years or ten years.”
And when there’s that much time that’s gone by since you’ve experience something
good, the hopelessness can definitely start to creep in.
And I want to share a story with you that always inspires me whenever I feel like I
want to create a change that I haven’t seen in a while.
And it’s the story of the Chinese bamboo.
Perhaps you’ve heard this story.
And the way that Chinese bamboo grows, when you plant this seed, if you take really good
care of it and you carry the water and you water this seed and you give it the right
amount of light and dark, after the first year, it will grow two inches, just this tiny
amount.
The second year, if you take really good care of this plant, bringing the water, watering
this plant, giving it the right amount of light, the right amount of dark, the second
year it will grow two inches.
And you’re looking at this growth over two years or work and you’re thinking, “This
isn’t working.
This sucks.
Like look at that.
I’m only getting this little four-inch plant.”
The third year, if you keep the faith, if you stay with this and you carry the water,
haul that water, water it, give it the right amount of light and dark, again, if there’s
any growth at all, it will grow about two inches.
The fourth year, you haul that water, you stay focused, you pour the water in.
Again, if there’s any growth at all, it’s about two inches.
And so now you’re looking at this tiny plant saying, “I’ve invested four years into
this effort and this is what I’ve got.”
And for anyone, that would be discouraging.
For anyone, that would feel like this hopeless effort.
But when understand the law of how this growth works, it can fuel your desire to ultimately
create the result that you want because, on year five, if you keep hauling that water
and you keep nurturing this plant, in year five, within six weeks, this plant will grow
80 feet.
It will skyrocket up.
Now, most people leave the story there when they’re telling the story, they’re understanding
the story.
Most people don’t understand what’s happening with this plant all along the way.
Most people think that the plant actually accelerates its growth in year five.
But after researching this, I’ve discovered it doesn’t.
In fact, the plant is growing at the same rate the entire five years.
“But how could that be?”
you might be thinking.
Well, that’s because the plant is growing at a rapid rate under the ground.
The plant starts with its root system, its rhizome system, shooting out those rhizomes,
creating a solid foundation, anchoring itself in the earth so that, in year five, when it
shoots up, it can withstand the storm, it can withstand the wind that’s going to hit
it, it can withstand the rain that’s going to come its way, it can withstand the challenges
that it’s going to face when it’s 80 feet in the air.
And often, you and I are the same way.
We will be working toward something, we will be growing ourselves and we will look around
and we won’t see the results that we want and we’ll have this thought like, “Why
isn’t this working?
What’s going on?”
all the while not realizing that it’s our rhizome system that’s growing, it’s our
foundation becoming strong so that when we achieve the dream that we want, whatever that
might be for you, that you will be strong enough and solid enough in who you are, in
your foundation, that whatever might come your way, the wind, the rain, the storms,
the opinions, the breakups, whatever it might be, that you’re going to be strong enough
to live your life on purpose, in alignment with who you are and the greatness that you
came to be.
So know this: Just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it’s not going to happen.
And when it does happen for you, when the love of your life comes into your life, your
life will change like this.
One day, you won’t have met him, and the next day, you’ll bump into him in the grocery
store and then, from that moment on, you’re in this incredible relationship that’s thriving
and alive.
So know that to be true.
Hold that in your mind and know that you’re growing yourself.
As long as you’re growing yourself and moving in that direction, keep doing that because
that will lead you to an amazing life that you’re living.
Now, if this inspired you, I encourage you to share it with someone else who may need
to hear this message on this particular day.
So I have a question for you.
What challenge are you facing in your love life that you would love solved?
If you could solve anything, what would you love solved?
Go ahead and post that in the comments section below.
I love reading your questions and that helps generate great content that I can record a
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