A lot of clients and women who come to me come with one simple problem. They fall in
love too fast. This is a beautiful sentiment and it causes real problems in their dating
and even their relationships. It leaves you tempted to prioritize your new man over
things he shouldn't yet have priority over - friends, hobbies, fitness, even your work.
It leaves the man feeling misunderstood. After all, you don't know him that well
and you're already in love with him. Worst, it leaves you less willing to walk away and
hold the guy to your standards. Ultimately, these all have the same effect.
They make the guy less attracted and unlikely to continue chasing. Think about
it like this. When you meet a guy, he opens up a bank account with you and various
factors increase his balance or decrease them. The more balanced he has,
the more credit you gave him and the more you invest back in him.
Now, this next concept is one of the most important I will ever speak about on this
channel. The factors you use to increase or decrease that bank account determine
if a man continues to chase you and how high he perceives your standards to be.
The first factor is what most women use - chemistry.
The problem with relying on chemistry to adjust your bank balance up and down
is that chemistry can hit you hard and it can hit you fast. Women who rely
on chemistry to make decisions about where a guy's bank balance is at tend
to have a lot of problems maintaining attraction and keeping the guy chasing.
The reason is, as I said, chemistry can change so quickly. You can have amazing
chemistry. I've had phenomenal chemistry after just one date, even less time
because your bank balance shoots up so quickly while his is still floating up
slowly he feels he doesn't have to prove himself anymore and he loses his
willingness to chase.
The second factor is effort. Women who don't just take into account the chemistry,
but the effort from the guy will do significantly better. Effort is attractive
and a man's ability to be a good partner is directly proportional to the amount
of effort he puts into being one.
However, even women, and I've even had clients who take into account chemistry
and effort have had problems with keeping the guy attracted and keeping the guy chasing.
The reason is that effort like chemistry can happen over the short term. You feel great
chemistry, the guy puts in heaps of effort and the bank account again shoots up
disproportionately to his and he stops chasing. There's a third factor that the
quality high value woman always takes into account and it's what keeps the guy
truly chasing - time. Great chemistry is not enough. Great chemistry plus effort
is okay. The problem is it can happen very quickly. It doesn't matter what you put into
a cake. It doesn't matter what ingredients you put in, no matter how good they are,
you still got to let it bake. There's no getting around the baking process. There's no getting
around. The fact that you must give the allotted time or the cake is a mess.
It's exactly the same in dating.
Way too often I see women go on dates where the chemistry is great and the guy
puts in a lot of effort. They shoot his balance up to a million dollars,
close their eyes, say, this is the one and that's that. Within a month, the guy has
lost interest and stop chasing. Compounding isn't just for bank accounts.
It's a very real factor in dating. We're all so keen to get to an end point and kill the
uncertainty that we rob ourselves of the most significant factor that allows us to
select a great prospective partner - time.
We think that our ingredients are so good, that we can shorten the baking process or
even skip it entirely and it's just not true. You can never shorten the baking process.
Even if his effort has been great. If it's only been a few weeks, his bank balance should
only be starting to grow. It's that compounding effect. That's what's going to be the biggest
deposit. That compounding effect over time, as he consistently consistently increases
his effort into you and warrants you putting that effort back into him. When you think
like this, when you're always allowing that baking time and measuring men with that
key third factor, T. I. M. E. time, you know you're
going to make the right decisions in love.
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