- [Amanda] Hey, Psych2Goers, welcome back to another video.
Do you have a close friend?
Someone you've confided in for months or years?
Someone in your life who you can truly trust?
Perhaps you two are friends
but you think you're starting to develop feelings for them.
After all, being close friends can be the perfect foundation
for a potential relationship in certain situations.
Let's take a look at a few telltale signs
of whether your affection
for this special person is actually attraction.
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Number one, you spend the majority of your time with them.
Spending a lot of time with this special person
in your life really allows you
to understand who they truly are.
The different aspects
that make them the person you care about so much.
If you're starting to develop feelings for this person,
you may go out of your way to spend time with them,
getting to know them better
and understanding their personality more.
This level of closeness
has a notable impact on relationships,
whether they're platonic or romantic.
According to "The Introduction to Social Psychology"
written by professor in psychology Dr. Jennifer Croyle,
"Proximity or physical nearness has been found
to be a significant factor
in the development of relationships."
So if you find yourself spending more and more time
with this friend of yours,
it's likely that they could be more than just a friend.
Number two, you think about them often.
When you spend a lot of time with someone,
you think about them often.
This could be in the form of daydreaming
or thoughts about them that keep coming to you
during your day-to-day activities.
Constantly thinking about your friend,
reflecting on your conversations
and time spent is a pretty worthy sign of attraction.
Most of the time,
these thoughts could just be running through your mind
without you really noticing them.
But even when you're not hanging out,
you may feel a sense of connection to their presence.
So the next time you find yourself mentally drawn to them,
just think about whether they might be more
than just a friend to you.
Number three, you care about them deeply.
Real attraction comes from genuine affection.
You care about this person
and try to be there for them when they're in need.
You help pick them up when they fall.
You're aware of the little things that bring them joy,
and know how to make them smile on a bad day.
And they most likely would do the same for you.
You have an inner intuition
about how they may be feeling at any time,
and you've built a great bond between the two of you.
If you really, really care about your friend
on a different level,
it could mean that you're falling
for this special person in your life.
Number four, you're comfortable
being vulnerable around them.
Is this person your go-to during rough times?
A shoulder to cry on?
When you're really close to someone,
you feel comfortable being vulnerable.
You feel that they're your safe zone
to vent out your feelings in the most honest way
and express your inner concerns
about basically anything under the sun.
According to Carrie Krawiec,
a licensed marriage and family therapist,
"Feeling safe, comfortable, accepted,
and understood as a person is the root of attachment,
connection and intimacy."
This deep level of intimate understanding
can be a huge sign of something
that goes beyond a platonic friendship.
So pay closer attention to your vulnerable moments together.
The way this person takes the time to listen to you
and provides you guidance
can mean a lot more than you would think.
Number five, you care more about your appearance
when you're with them.
Do you find yourself being more conscious about how you look
when meeting this friend?
It's completely normal, a part of human nature even
to care about your appearance
when you're attracted to someone.
The level of attraction you feel towards someone
can significantly impact this desire
to appear particularly well-dressed.
So if you find that you're especially concerned
about the way you look when you're around this friend,
you're likely more attracted to them
than you would have thought.
Number six, you feel possessive over them.
Humans are very territorial species.
When they're is any person, place, or thing that we value,
we find the need to protect it at all costs.
You may be interested in who they hang out with
and what they're doing.
Of course, this is only acceptable to a certain point.
But if you feel particularly possessive about someone,
you likely care about them.
And if you care about someone to the extent
that you feel so possessive about them,
they're probably more than just your friend.
Number seven, you dream about them.
Dreams often signify or reflect your real life experiences.
Although scientists, researchers,
and philosophers alike have tried to crack the code
on what they mean and why we dream,
most agree that there is a relationship between dreaming
and the subconscious mind.
According to the late Dr. Charles McPhee,
"Dreams are practical reflections of feelings
and concerns that were present in your mind
at the time you had the dream."
He also adds, "Dreams are selfish in the sense
that they always concern issues and events
that were weighing on your mind
at the time you had the dream."
So if you catch yourself waking up from a dream
involving you and this good friend of yours together,
it's your subconscious mind having fun with the inner truth.
And number eight, you're very involved in their life.
Last but not least,
a huge sign that you're falling for your friend
is if you're highly involved in their life,
and no, not in an overbearing way
but in a way in which you just know what they're doing
and going through at the moment.
Their ups and downs, their past struggles,
their current joys.
You're usually part of everything,
or at least aware of most of it.
You go out of your way to make time for them,
and you would drop everything
to go see them if they need you.
This could go beyond a platonic friendship.
It could be a great start
to a beautiful, sustainable relationship.
So did you relate to any of these signs?
Remember, it's completely up to you
regarding how you go about your personal relationships
in life, friendships, or others.
Make the best choice for yourself
because you know yourself best.
As always, good luck with your journey.
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