you discuss leading and maneuvering up and down the chain of command but what
about laterally within your own peer group where the competition for
advancement is fiercest and your ability to set team objectives and implement
some of the tools you discuss is limited okay so you absolutely do have to lead
laterally amongst your peers and since you don't have rank or position you have
to do it another way but wait a second since you shouldn't use rank or position
to lead people below you in the chain of command and since you don't want to be
led by someone that's throwing their rank and position around then guess what
you need to do the same type of leadership that you would use up and
down the chain of command to lead your peers so what does that mean that means
you help them when you can you support what they're doing you try and build a
relationship with them that's what you try and do now this this part of this
that we're talking about their competitiveness like if they want to
maneuver and try and make you look bad and jump in the spotlight and try and
get all the credit guess what it's fine mmm that's fine let him do it and
everyone is gonna see what they're doing and they might not see it immediately
but they will eventually be found out so do your best to support them do your
best to help them do your best to build the relationship make the mission the
most important thing not the little politics that you're about to dive into
and get involved in don't make that the primary thing make the primary thing
accomplishing the mission think about this if you start fighting with them and
you're expending energy on fighting your own team that's what you're doing
instead of fighting the enemy it's this is a blue on blue situation this is a
friendly fire it's fratricide don't do that
disengage from the friendly fire and focus on how to make the team win hmm
take the high ground take the high ground
or the high ground will take you okay another one of those points that we
always say I know I do and I always think this where you for watching man
they see that they see that you see all that stuff but let's play this game so
you know the game when I play what like who would you hire who would you rather
have working for you who would you rather have working for you the guy the
guy oh you got four guys one guy is helping the other guys out trying to
help them with their mission one guy the other end of the spectrum is undermining
people and trying to make himself look good
which guy are you gonna promote yeah all day long you know who you're gonna
promote yeah you're gonna promote the guy that's trying to help the team win
and not just look out for himself yep yeah Philly and then that's it and
consider that with not just your boss but like your peers as well you know
even if there's competition let's say there's everyone's competing yeah and
you're the guy who's jumping in the spotlight always whatever versus the
other guy who's always helping everyone right even even if they're competing
with you for sure guys jump in the spot like he's gonna get the ostracized if
anything is you know so man yeah they see that stuff man that goes socially
you know what no no no answer me this when someone sees the world this way
that means there have a tendency to think that way that means they might
have a tendency to act this way so they get especially cautious if you're
looking at everyone like womp trying to compete with that guy different I might
be getting screwed over if I don't if if I let him you know get the spotlight
right now if that's the way you're thinking that's the way you're acting
and if you're acting that way everybody can see it yeah don't act that way
be a good team member yeah the enemy is outside the wire yeah that's a good one
too where the good news about that is like let's say you are acting that way
as long as you can admit it to yourself even if you do have those feelings
inside but you're like hey I don't want to act like that and you start even if
you know it's kind of against your feelings and then you start acting that
way slowly and slowly your feelings kind of accommodate where you don't feel that
way anymore you'll start to feel that way left or now realize how you should
act as a human yeah as a team member as a leader as a follower yeah you'll
grow up you'll mature you'll be a good person yeah feel the benefits as opposed
to just work it out for yourself screwing over the other team yeah ones
against me check kill or be killed