Focus on yourself… get on your purpose… chase money because
women come with it… don’t chase women… chase success…
You hear this advice so often from guys in the dating and self help phase it must be true, right?
WRONG.
There’s a nugget of truth somewhere in there but this
sentiment is generally wrong for lots of reasons.
For starters, if you focus 100% on making money and chasing success,
it won’t automatically make you good with women. The lamborghini dealership doesn’t
give out girlfriends along with the keys to your lambo.
Repressed lonely guys have been sold the idea that once a girl sees money she’s immediately
gonna fall in love. This meme guys have in their head about women and money is just cope.
They say girls only love money and success because then they
have an excuse as to why they can’t get a girlfriend. But the truth is,
women don’t love the money and success, they love what it takes to make money and be successful.
The type of man you have to become in order to be successful is what’s really attractive.
You have to be resourceful, smart, driven, ambitious, and willing to provide value.
That’s what’s attractive. Those character traits give women a sense of security.
And besides, there’s plenty of beautiful girls dating broke guys.
Those guys are just better with women than you are.
Another often overlooked aspect of this is that once you’re successful,
You still have to do the work of building and maintaining attraction with women.
It’s just generally a lot easier to do when you’re already successful because you have valuable,
interesting things to talk about with women, and you’re a man of
higher substance than the average dude with no goals and no accomplishments.
Once you have success in one area of your life, it gives you the tools to
be successful in another area, or at the very least it makes it easier for you.
And I mean c’mon. You don’t wanna be a rich nerd with no dating skills
Now to get at the core question.
Should You Date Girls or Focus on Yourself?
I’m about to drop a hard truth that’s gonna get everyone in the comments mad.
Guys who ask this question don’t get girls.
Because if you did get girls, you wouldn’t be asking this question.
You’d have your dating life so well under control that you could focus on other things,
or just decide to yourself, “hey, i don’t feel like seeing all these girls,
so I’m just gonna stop, worst case I’ll just go get more later on!”
The truth is, You can do both.
In fact, if you have time to watch youtube videos like this, you DEFINITELY have time to do both.
I don’t know anybody who is truly so busy 24/7 that they literally
don’t have a few extra hours a week to go on a tinder date, or have a girl they see occasionally.
The guys who say “i’m grinding hard 80 hour work weeks, hustling bro” are never
the people who are actually making big things happen. They’re just saying that to look cool.
I mean even Elon Musk always has a girlfriend. And he’s DEFINITELY doing more than you.
So if he can do it, you can’t go on a date or two every once in a
while while you’re in school or working a job?
The real question is, is that what you want to do?
Because all that being said, the real question is - What are your priorities?
When you ask “should i date or focus on myself” in a youtube comment,
you’re asking SOMEOBDY ELSE to decide your priorities for you.
Only you can do that, bro.
If your focus is to be successful but you also wanna date and have
fun experiences with girls, that’s fine.
That’s the path I took when I was young and it’s the path I still take.
If I have a date later but I have a ton of work that I haven’t finished,
I’ll cancel the date if I have to in order to get my work done first.
My number 1 priority is my physical and professional goals AKA Get the
bag first. Women come 2nd to that. Or 3rd, or 4th whatever order it is.
You have to think about that for yourself.
Maybe you have 1 night a week designated for dates and improving your dating skills.
Maybe you just dont wanna date. Great that’s awesome. Do that.
But most guys say, “i’m not dating right now bro,
i’m just focusing on myself” and it’s like bro, c’mon!
Stop lying to yourself, you couldn’t even get girls if you wanted to!
So ‘just focusing on yourself’ is cope because that’s all you can do!
Be honest with yourself. Be honest with your goals. And then chase them like a madman.
Yes being successful in life and having money will
increase your sexual market value and make dating a little bit easier.
But dating is about attracting and making emotional connections with women,
and no amount of money or success can make up for that.
You have to learn how to have game too.
And in facct.
If you’re ambitious, goal-driven, and have a purpose you’re chasing in your life BESIDES women,
it will make you more attractive than if you had no goals, and nothing else going on in your life.
A big reason girls really liked me before I was successful was
because I was driven and on the path to success.
They knew I’d be successful in the future just by talking to me and seeing what I was doing.
And having that ambition and drive is just as good as having already made it, because
it makes women respect you and feel safe.
If you wanna learn how to date gorgeous women WHILE pursuing success and your own goals,
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Zeus out.