- When it comes to dating, I'm sorry to say it,
but life is just not fair being a woman.
You want to go out, you want to meet men!
But you are told by society that you shouldn't be easy,
so you do end up going out and then you stand in the corner,
and you hope that guys come up and talk to you,
and if they don't, you end up going home spending the night
with a bunch of Ben & Jerry's wondering
what the (beeps) is wrong with me.
Well I'm about to empower you
sexy single ladies in your dating life
because society is dead (beeps)ing wrong,
and you have way more power in your love life
than you really think, more power, by the way,
than men even have.
Keep watching.
Hey there I'm Adam Lodolce from Sexy Confidence.com
where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
And this video is all part of this new format
where I have a part one of the video which is all about
The Seven Tips to Meeting Men,
which is the video you're watching right now on YouTube,
and then part two of this video is only available
to my Sexy Confidence Club members.
You can watch this video in the membership area,
you can clink the link in the description if you want
the whole video, and that's all about where to meet men,
seven places I highly recommend.
So let's jump into how to meet men.
Here are seven tips to make it happen.
Number one, wear a comfortable but attractive outfit.
There is nothing more entertaining, I'm sorry to say,
but there's nothing more entertaining as a guy
than going out at night and seeing women walk around
so uncomfortably in heels that are so painful,
and you wanna just go up to them and tell them, seriously!
We are more attracted to you when you just have
a ponytail and you're wearing sweat pants at home.
Like that's more sexy and cute than a woman who looks
completely uncomfortable in high heels.
Now that doesn't mean that you should go out
in your comfs from home, okay, it doesn't mean that.
However, what it does mean is wear something
that is sexy and attractive
but you still feel very comfortable in it,
you can kinda walk comfortably,
and also you feel comfortable with your own body, right?
Wear things that emphasize the parts of your body
that you want to emphasize.
Like as a guy for example, I'm not comfortable,
I'm a bigger guy, I'm not like totally over it,
but I'm a bigger guy, and I don't like
to wear super thin tight shirts.
That doesn't work for me because I'm not comfortable in it.
So maybe I'll wear a little bit bigger shirt
but I'll wear tighter jeans, right?
'Cause I'm comfortable with my legs, right?
And I'm also comfortable in it.
So these are the types of things that I think about
when I'm going out and for you sexy single ladies
I want you to be thinking the same way.
Number two, use your best perfume.
There is no easier way into a man's heart
than through his sense of smell.
Number three, make yourself look kind
of unoccupied when you're going out.
Back in the day when I used to coach men
on how to go and approach you, you sexy single ladies,
we would go ahead and scan a room for the type of women
who would be least likely to reject us, right?
I wanted my clients to get practice talking to women.
So I wouldn't just have him go up and talk to a woman who
looks like she's in the middle of doing something, right?
Let's say you're at a coffee shop, right?
And you just kinda want to hang out for a little bit.
Don't add a whole ton of stuff to your table
and make it look like you're in the middle
of a million things and expect
that guys are gonna come up and talk to you.
Sure, maybe you can be just reading a book casually
and sipping a coffee, fantastic,
that's going to make it a lot easier
for a guy to come up and talk to you.
Same thing goes when you're going out at night.
Ladies, please put the phone down.
If I sense that any of you sexy single ladies are on Tinder
or on Bumble or on any dating app
when you are going out at night, then you know what,
I'm gonna lose it.
I'd be very disappointed.
So make yourself look available for conversation,
and guess what, conversation will come find you.
Number four is use body language to attract the guy
that you want to come talk to you.
We all know about the resting bitch face.
And you don't wanna have that resting bitch face
if you want any guy to come up and talk to you.
There is kind of a come hither type body language
that you can present when you're going out at night.
It doesn't mean being just totally floozy,
and totally available to everyone,
but on the other hand it doesn't mean just
looking at your friend and just talking to her all night.
You can be looking around, smiling,
kinda just enjoying yourself,
dancing to the music a little bit,
making eye contact to a few guys that you're interested in.
Bam, that's going to drastically increase your chances
to meet men and have guys want to talk to you.
Number five is make eye contact with him, please!
I'll tell you this much, from a guy's perspective,
there is nothing more exciting than when you're out
with a group of your guy friends, and you're just talking,
and then out of nowhere, a woman makes eye contact
with you for like a millisecond longer
than would be normal, right?
Than a normal woman would make eye contact with you.
She just holds it for an extra second
and gives you that signal that says I'm interested,
let's have a conversation.
Number six, be ready to engage in fun conversation.
When you meet a guy for the first time
it's not an interview, it's not a time
to blast him with 1,000 questions,
ask questions that are fun, that are interesting,
that are engaging, that get him to talk about things
that he's actually interested in talking about,
and same goes with you.
Please, please, you sexy single ladies,
don't start a conversation with
what do you do for a living, where do you live?
Or if you're in college, what do you major?
I couldn't, when I was single back in the day,
that would immediately just turn me off.
Now especially, I'm a dating coach,
so I didn't always want to talk about my profession
when I was single at the time,
but still please avoid those questions.
Instead, ask him what are his
favorite places to go out at night?
What is his favorite restaurant in town.
What does he like to do for fun.
Where does he like to travel.
These are the types of questions that at least
get you talking about things that are going
to up the whole mood of the conversation.
And finally number seven, if he doesn't come to you,
don't be scared, go ahead take the initiative
and go talk to him.
The dude is out because he wants to meet women.
If he's out with a group of guy friends,
that's it, go ahead, be that woman.
It doesn't mean you're gonna come up to him and approach him
and start just like, seducing him,
you're just being a friendly person.
And if he doesn't wanna have a conversation with you,
it doesn't mean that he's rejecting you,
he's just rejecting the conversation, and that's okay.
So I want you women to kinda push yourself,
to get this practice, and go make it happen.
I believe in you to go make it happen.
So thank you so much for watching,
and if you enjoyed this video,
I want you to leave a comment right there below,
say yes, I'm ready to get out there, and meet guys.
And tell me how you're gonna go ahead and make it happen.
Also don't forget to give it a like,
don't forget to subscribe on YouTube,
and also if you wanna see part two of this video
where I'm gonna show you the seven places
where I recommend you go to meet men,
part two of this video is in the Sexy Confidence Club
membership, go ahead and click the link there,
or click in the description,
or go to sexyconfidence.com/club
and I look forward to seeing you
and meeting you in the club.
Thank you so much for watching, and I'll speak to you,
you sexy single lady, next week, bye-bye.