Hey everyone, and welcome to TopThink. Today, we are going to find out if you are attractive.
Now, let’s begin Attractiveness is a difficult thing to judge.
Many online tests grade your attractiveness with a rating out of 10, but these tests
only measure physical characteristics, like the color of your eyes or the shape of your face.
Physical traits represent only one kind of attractiveness.
If you only look at someone’s physical features, you may miss their most attractive qualities.
Why? Because physical traits do not offer a complete picture of who you are.
The size of your nose or the style of your hair may be good-looking, but physical traits
are often less important than qualities like confidence, charisma, and emotional intelligence.
Everything about who you are, how you act, and the way you carry yourself influences the world’s
perception of you. For example, a decent-looking person with natural charisma is usually more
attractive than someone who’s good-looking but painfully dull. Even though the second
person looks better on paper, the first person receives more attention from potential partners.
For this reason, we’re going to use a different approach than most attractiveness tests. We’re
not going to assess the symmetry of your face, the shape of your body, or the sharpness of your
features. Those traits are important, but they may not represent your most attractive qualities.
Instead, we’re going to focus on your social appeal. In other words, one of the best ways
to judge your attractiveness is by analyzing how the world reacts to your looks and personality.
This approach captures many different kinds of attractiveness. If you receive attention from
others, it may be because you’re physically good-looking, but it may also be a product
of your charm, your passion, or your sense of self. By accounting for all of these variables,
you will finally understand how the world perceives you. Because we all want to know
the truth: are you actually attractive? Before we get into real-life situations,
take a moment to think about your romantic history and your social life. More specifically, think
about the attention you receive from potential partners, or anyone else you want to attract. If
you are an attractive person, you likely receive meaningful attention from potential partners.
But wait — meaningful attention may not mean what you think it means. Many attractive
people don’t receive as much obvious attention or affection as they expect from potential partners.
In fact, you may feel ignored or overlooked in favor of more physically attractive people.
When you think this way, it’s easy to convince yourself that you are not attractive.
But here’s the truth. You are probably receiving more meaningful attention than you realize.
You think you aren’t attracting potential partners, but chances are, you are missing
the subtle signs of attraction happening all around you. Most people miss these important
signals because we grossly overestimate how real attraction looks and feels. We see how
attractive people are treated in movies and TV shows, and we expect the same kind of attention
every time we walk into the room. Unfortunately, that’s not how it works.
Even if someone is very interested in you, their attitude or body language may not change
in any significant way. You won’t see their heads turning or their mouths falling open.
Most of the time, it’s difficult to identify when someone is even remotely interested in you.
In other words, you’re being noticed, and you just don’t realize it. You may
be getting attention from all kinds of potential partners. You may be catching people’s eyes at
the grocery store. You may make your coworkers’ hearts flutter. You may be leaving favorable
impressions everywhere you go, but people rarely ever express their feelings. So, you’re convinced
you’re not as attractive as you are. This misunderstanding affects countless
people in the world, even people you find irresistibly attractive.
You might look at them and think: “how could this person possibly think they are unattractive?”
But they’re asking the same question about you. Neither of you recognize the attention you’re
receiving. Luckily, there are several, meaningful signals that can help you
identify when someone is drawn to you. If you spot these 5 signals out in the world,
you are grabbing the attention of others, because you are more attractive than you think.
1. Wandering Eyes
When you see an attractive person, there’s one thing you always do:
you stare. For some reason, you cannot take your eyes off them. The moment they enter the room,
you stare in their direction, and your brain experiences a rush of happiness and excitement.
Just like you stare at attractive people, people who find you attractive will stare at you.
When you pass people on the street, follow the direction of their gaze.
When you walk into a room, watch if anyone looks in your direction.
If people are looking at you, you are more attractive than most.
Sounds obvious, doesn’t it? Most people ignore or misunderstand this meaningful piece of body
language. In the moment, it can be embarrassing or nerve-racking to be looked at by strangers.
You may worry that you’re doing something wrong. You may panic that there is a big coffee stain
on your shirt. But that’s not why people are looking at you. No matter how hard they try,
their eyes keep wandering in your direction. They’re staring… because they find you attractive.
2. Behavioral Change
If someone is attracted to you, their desire is going to affect their personality and behavior.
Think about how you act around people you find attractive. You want them to like you,
so you may overthink or overanalyze everything you do. Sometimes, you try too hard. Other times, you
say the wrong things and create awkward silences. But these are perfectly normal reactions, which
almost everybody shares. Even the most confident people lose their nerve around attractive people.
So, don’t be surprised if people get awkward around you. Potential partners may become nervous
or uncomfortable in your company. When you’re not around, they’re confident and funny. They have no
problem putting themselves out there. But as soon as you enter the room, their nerves go haywire,
their confidence crumbles, and they become awkward in the blink of an eye.
It’s during this awkward phase that many potential partners make bad dating decisions.
For instance, they may keep you at a distance, thinking their cool, quiet demeanor makes them
mysterious and attractive. From your perspective, they seem cold and uninterested, even though
that couldn’t be further from the truth. If you want to know how attractive you are,
pay attention to those awkward or suddenly quiet moments. Even though they feel uncomfortable,
awkwardness is a common sign of interest and desire.
3. Attractive Gravity Attractive people have their gravitational pull.
Without realizing it, you unconsciously drift toward people you find desirable. You may sit
or stand in their personal space. You may use your body language to point in their direction.
In other words, you close the physical gap between you, because you find this person irresistible.
If you are attractive, you may notice the same thing happening to you.
Slowly but surely, friends, coworkers, and even strangers gravitate toward you.
Some people may get too close or invade your personal space,
but they may not realize what they’re doing or why they’re doing it. They’re unconsciously drifting
toward you because something about you draws them closer and closer. For whatever reason,
this person is caught in your gravity. They may not realize it, but they find you irresistible.
4. Absent Compliments This one is surprising to many people. We
expect beautiful people to receive compliments all the time, but that’s rarely the way it happens.
The truth is… the most attractive individuals are complimented far less than we expect.
Why? Because we assume they hear compliments all the time. When you meet a beautiful person,
you might think to yourself, “I’m sure everyone tells them how attractive they are.” So, what do
you do? You keep your compliments to yourself. Maybe you’re afraid of telling them what they
already know. But that’s the way everyone thinks. Attractive people rarely hear good things about
their looks or personality, because people assume you know just how beautiful you are.
5. Accidental Intimidation Attractive people are not fending
off suitors 24/7. We assume attractive people are constantly being asked out,
but that’s rarely the case. Surprisingly, many attractive people are ignored and overlooked.
The truth is… most people find attractive individuals intimidating. If you’re an attractive
person, people may be scared to approach you. You make them feel nervous and insecure,
so they assume you are out of their league. Instead of approaching you, they go for
someone who is less intimidating, leaving you wondering why no one is paying attention to you.
If you want to know how attractive you really are, use any of these 5 signals
to gauge how others respond to you in a variety of contexts. You may catch people staring when
you walk into a crowded room. You may notice people get awkward when you start talking.
You may discover strangers gravitating toward you when you discuss your goals or your career.
We all have a different list of things that make us attractive, but the response we receive from
the world around us is generally the same. If you have something — or many things — that make
you attractive, you may notice these 5 subtle giveaways everywhere you go.
But keep this in mind: you probably won’t experience the exaggerated gestures you see on TV.
Instead, you will notice small changes in people who secretly find you irresistible.
After watching this video, go out into the world and see for yourself how people act around you.
If you notice any of these 5 signals, the truth is out: you are more attractive than you realize.
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