Hi, I'm Kristen Bell, and I've had sex--
a lot of sex.
Am I bragging?
Maybe.
Today, me and my friend Andy Lassner
are going to find out what kids know
about the birds and the bees.
Hey, Andy?
Hey.
Come on in here for a second.
I got a question.
Yes?
Do you know where babies come from?
The area of a woman and from--
and into a family.
Oh, well, this is going to be fun.
[MUSIC PLAYING]
(SINGING) To all you moms out there who be doing it right!
I find this whole topic to be wildly uncomfortable
but important.
Well, lucky for us we have a professional here.
This is Dr. Chris.
He is a sex therapist and an author.
Do you think that the way that you're told about sex
can impact your whole life?
100%.
I work with adults, like yourself,
who come in with a lot of sexual anxiety or sexual fear.
And the way we as adults talk about sex and body parts,
and the language that we use, is going
to either make our children very confident or anxious
and insecure.
Bingo.
When is the best age to do it?
As soon as your kids can start to talk,
you need to start to have the talk.
And it's never a one-off conversation.
It's got to be an ongoing conversation.
Because my husband is also very sex-positive.
What is sex positive?
Like when you're talking about sex,
you're not sitting like this.
My daughters once asked, how do babies happen?
And we were eating dinner.
And my husband said, well, there's a sperm and an ovum.
And by the word "ovum," they were so bored
that they went outside.
So I don't if that's--
And that's the key.
--good or bad.
Follow your child's lead.
You don't want to make it intrusive
or overwhelm or flood them.
Right.
So answer the question.
And if you just pay attention, they'll
let you know when you've said too much or gone too far.
What is the best way to tell them?
As a parent you want to get confident and educated.
Because it's not just what you say, it's also how you say it.
Well, here's two options, you tell me.
So you go, penis.
Or you go, penis.
Just try it.
Pe--
Just try it for your kids.
OK.
Penis.
Much more confident.
Better.
I tell people, if you can say elbow and leg and ankle,
you ought to be able to say vagina--
Right.
It's just another part of the body.
--penis, scrotum.
Burn.
That's good.
Use what we've learned, the anatomically correct word.
No wee-wee or ding-dong or trouser trout or twig
and berries or--
I used to call mine Little Orphan Annie.
Because my nickname is Annie and I love musicals.
Would you be willing to try giving me the sex talk
right now?
Like, I didn't know a darn thing--
and feel free to use any of these props Daddy, what's sex?
So this is daddy.
Mm-hmm.
And let's say this is mommy.
Yeah.
Yeah, sometimes Mommy and Daddy have come out of the shower
and they haven't gotten dressed yet.
And I know it sounds silly, but sometimes they hug.
But here's the thing.
You know Uncle Mike and his husband Steve?
Mm-hmm.
They too are in love--
What are the bases?
Who told you about that? --and things happen.
Who's lucky Pierre?
I don't even know that term.
What's a wobbly H?
You are definitely knowing a lot.
What does girth mean?
Have you ask asked your mother about this at all?
What's a hummer?
Uh, that--
What's a gorilla mask?
Those are very-- those are really bad words for things
that are--
What's the Houdini?
Sometimes you kiss the body parts.
OK.
I appreciate the effort.
But I think we're going to need a much longer session with you.
So I don't know--
I think so.
--if you have time today.
I was overwhelmed.
You were going way too fast.
But I think I got the early naked stuff.
Dr. Chris, I think we're going to try to talk to some kids
and figure out--
You're going to take the lead on this, because I don't want to--
Ruin them.
--say the wrong--
I know.
I get it.
And I don't want to say the wrong thing.
I'll take the lead.
Take this one.
We can share.
Knock-knock.
Hi.
Hey.
Hi, guys.
Hi, kids.
Fun fort.
Ow.
Oh, jeez.
Hi, children.
I'm Kristen.
This is my friend Andy.
We're parents.
Yeah, so we've made babies.
Right, but not parents together.
No, not together.
But we've done baby stuff.
What are we talking about?
How many kids do you have?
First of all, chill, man.
(QUIETLY) We talked about this.
You've got to have confidence and chill.
Just you need to ease into it.
How many kids do you have, Andy?
I have three kids.
That he knows of.
Right?
She's being silly.
We wanted to meet with you guys today
because we wanted to get a sense of what you guys think about.
What do you and your friends like to talk about?
Friend stuff.
Soccer.
Soccer?
Soccer.
Doing flips.
Princesses.
Princesses?
Have you guys ever thought about,
would you be a parent one day?
Yeah.
You have?
I don't know.
You don't know.
Leave your options open.
But where do the babies come from?
The parents.
No, the mom.
How does the baby show up?
The mommy makes it.
The mommy makes it?
Mommy grows it, right?
Yeah.
It's kind of inappropriate, but it comes out of their private.
Comes out of her vagina, right?
That's not inappropriate.
Not inappropriate at all.
That's how it works.
OK, I'm going to point to a body part,
and I want you to say the name of it.
Elbow.
Hand.
Palm.
Nose.
Eyes.
OK.
We want to get to a point where everybody can say all the body
parts with confidence, because none of it
should be embarrassing.
And you see it as our role to teach them this.
Will you say with me, penis and vagina?
(ALL) Penis and vagina.
That's right.
That's exactly right.
Vagina!
They're all just normal body parts right?
Yeah.
You guys are doing a great job.
They are doing a great job.
Well, you know the thing that's interesting about babies
is there's a--
it all starts-- you know what your body is made up of?
Have you ever heard a word cell?
A cell?
No.
It starts with just two cells getting together,
one from a male and one from a female.
And that doesn't mean that the baby then ends up
with a male and a female.
It could end up with two men or two women.
But the way it starts is from a male
has a cell, and a woman does, and the man--
the male cell goes up--
Mm-hmm.
Do you guys know what love is?
Yeah.
I love my mom so much.
I just want to cry because she's so sweet.
You know, that's how I feel about my kids.
And I bet that is exactly how your parents feel about you.
Since we definitely know what love is,
do you guys want to draw a picture
of what love feels like to you?
Yeah.
Your abstract interpretation of love.
I never fully got to explain the cell thing.
Do you want me to ask them to stop drawing so you
can give them a science lesson?
No, no, no.
While they're drawing, I can just
explain that the two cells get together through juices.
Mm-hmm.
And then the baby grows.
Yep.
Does that make sense?
Yeah.
Mm-hmm.
(WHISPERING) That does not make sense.
Now I feel like we've at least done our part.
I'm sure their parents are going to be very grateful.
You're welcome, kids.
Abigail, would you tell me about this picture of love?
I love my mom and my mom likes me.
That's fantastic.
I like that.
Elijah, would you tell me about this picture of love?
I love my mom and dad.
Your mom and dad?
Is that your mom and dad?
They love each other.
That's really good.
All right, I'll do mine.
This is a bowl of pasta, because I love pasta.
How does that teach them anything?
That's why we wanted you to draw pictures
and we wanted you to tell us what your feelings of love
were.
And yours is just a bowl of pasta?
Well, I like pasta.
OK.
In fact, I love pasta.
OK.
If that's the message.
Andy, would you like to go?
OK.
I'll go now.
So this is, to me, what love is.
A woman making milk for a baby, and then the baby
drinks the milk.
Thank you, Andy.
Well, this is very impressive.
This was fantastic.
I feel like I've learned more from you
than you've learned from us.
That is understandable and realistic.
And if your parents ask you who taught you about penis
and vagina, Kristen Bell.
OK?
OK.
I'm genuinely concerned we messed up those kids.
You know what?
Everybody needs something to talk about in therapy.