mike it's the mike show still here it's uh part four of mike's guide to working with your husband
in your business welcome how are we all doing uh i'm doing great and we've decided that i'm
just gonna finish martha was uh so happy with me embarrassing myself here for the last four days
that i'm just gonna finish out the week so i'm going to also do something on friday so stay tuned
i'll tell you what's going to happen tomorrow at this time hey if this is your first time here
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baby onesies uh probably phone cases i i'm still wanting to get a baby onesie and put it on our
dogs and stuff that would be great hey heather how we doing how's everyone doing okay so as you know
as you know for the last four days here we've been going over this little guide because
over the years people uh a lot of people a lot of martha students have asked me how martha and
i work together so well because martha and i have been doing life have been married have
been doing business for gosh like going on 10 years now and we do it with harmony and grace
and we don't uh we don't drive each other that crazy i don't think so hey good morning from
sunny alberta i love alberta we were in alberta uh a while back couple years almost a year and a
half ago it was fun i love that i love your your food there okay so hey let's recap this thing
so on day one we talked about the first key on how martha and i worked together so well
and that was that we align our goals okay we do that first of all by writing our goals and you
can do this too yes you both have to write down your goals the next step in that process is to
find alignments in your goals see where those goals match up and then you commit to the goals
together okay so that was part one that was day one of this video series in the
next video we went over the next key which was the hard one which was the scary word which was
accountability right no one wants to hold each other accountable because it's scary it's the
source of a lot of conflicts and marriages and whatnot and i don't blame you but this was what
martha this is what martha and i do so this is what i i talked about uh the philosophy is
your spouse is never the problem never attack your spouse never say uh hey you're not doing enough
hey you're not taking this seriously the problem is deviation from the goal never attack the person
instead address the deviation from the goal right address the concern don't confront your spouse
and then you hold each other accountable by reinforce reinforcing reinforcing reinforce
reinforce them goals reinforcing your commitment to the goals because hey you know what
your aligned goals are a road map to your mutual success that's right day three
it was about celebrating the wins i think as uh as entrepreneurs and especially in a
lot of cases here where you're doing your own thing and your husband's doing something else
maybe still working at his nine to five i think there's this preconceived notion we may have that
the winds are transparent and yesterday this video was all about saying you know they're not
okay those wins need to be celebrated they need to be communicated so your partner you
know it inspires your partner it certainly did me as i went into the story of how
in those early days when we started our digital marketing agency years ago i was doing my own
thing you know um i you know martha and i both owned the agency but i was out walking dogs and
if she wouldn't have told me the winds even the little winds i don't know i don't think we would
all be here right now so and then i gave you a little extra credit too which is get him involved
and uh we're actually gonna be talking about that in tomorrow's video so stay tuned for that today
is about q a all right so uh let's see what some of you guys are saying here
good morning andrea hi carrie hey devery how are we doing so i asked on facebook two days ago i
think to uh give me some questions and i would answer them here to the best of my knowledge
because again you know you might be tired of hearing me say this but i can't fix your husband
but i can explain to you what martha and i have done uh to be able to work together so i have
questions and also uh we can we'll probably have time to take some questions on the fly
too if you want to put them in the chat and i'll look for them after we answer these questions so
the first one was from and i just took these kind of first come first serve uh was amy amy says
what would you say you do that is the most helpful slash supportive in your partnership okay so this
is going to be kind of a surprise answer but this is a hard this is a hard question to answer for me
and i'm not sure if all of you have kids i'm sure most of you
do have kids martha and i have a six-year-old daughter named nora
and um that was really the when she took her first steps and martha wasn't there to
see it with her own eyes that was really the catalyst for everything we do now so
the best answer i think i have for this and the one that i would want to share is that
so in these cases where we're starting this business from home these businesses from home
and this is definitely our case martha and i's is that there isn't really a separation between
business and family okay like we've worked from our home for years and the things are basically
one family and business is basically the same thing so the most supportive thing i think i i've
been able to do um for our family is that i just parent i just parent and i take care of the home
uh that was a lot more so in the old days uh now we're blessed to have people that help us with
like washing dishes and doing laundry and stuff but yeah i certainly did that back in the day
um you know so martha could execute on vision and everything um but there's this old idiom this old
wives tale that uh i i think is true is that parenting is 80 20 right that one parent has 80
of the work and one parent has 20 percent of the work but and that's true but the thing is is like
sometimes martha's got 80 sometimes i have 80. sometimes martha has 20 and sometimes i have 20.
and i think the most supportive thing i've done is uh i've took ownership of of doing
everything i can to raise our daughter and to take care of our home because i really don't
believe those things are separate i don't think our business and our family we've never looked at
our business and our family as separate things so in essence by taking care of home the home and by
helping raise our daughter not saying that husbands don't raise daughters um but like
i guess i i do a lot of the things that maybe a lot of a lot of a lot of males don't do for you
know their daughters but so i think that's the most supportive thing i don't know if that was
the answer you're looking for but that's certainly what i feel i've done um yeah i could say hey i've
i've uh i've been the integrator to martha's visionary and have executed on her plans
and everything but i don't know i don't think that that answer would carry as much weight as
i just parent i try to be the best dad i can be all right so again yeah if you have other
questions put them in i'm going to go to the next question and that's cindy love this idea question
how can we help our husbands when so much of their identity is tied up in their work for someone else
how can they shift to find their identity in creating their own things and not the easy way of
the nine to five hey has your husband been through hbr has he been through bat signal i mean um our
video for tomorrow is also gonna maybe help with this i think definitely the next question i have
but i would i mean i would encourage him to at least go through the bat signal training and
um maybe maybe his identity is tied up in that because he he hasn't yet discovered how
to speak to that person he was in the past and realized that like the knowledge he has
people will want that right so i would say that um cindy if you have any further
questions feel free to reach out to me but i'm going to move on here so
sherry my husband is on board 100 but reminds me of my physical and emotional
limitations how can i best put him to work to help me be the version of the person i want to
be where i can retire him to my assistant okay so hey cindy or i'm sorry sherry uh sorry sherry um
i was trying to figure out a topic for what i would do for tomorrow's video right because
martha's gonna stay sequestered for until sunday so therefore i'm doing the live tomorrow too but
i think that your question sparked the whole topic
for tomorrow's video which is going to be three ways to get your husband
involved in your business that's going to happen tomorrow same by time same bat channel
i think
if you watched yesterday's video too where i explained uh the visionary and the integrator that
every small business has those two precursors to like the c-suite where one person is the visionary
dreams the ideas dreams the dreams and when one person executes on those ideas i would like i
would look at that and how he could maybe assist maybe he could he could be an integrator for you
for certain for certain things but definitely tune into tomorrow's video because i'm gonna get really
granular i'm gonna give you three ways you can get your husband involved in business
and uh they're really three ways that uh there are three things that martha and i have done
so stay tuned for that do we have questions from the the live chat here morning mike
thanks for answering my question no problem hey two uh two also you know
even though martha's sequestered in a room until sunday
we're still doing this we're still changing lives um you know we're on a mission to
create co-create one million invincible families by 2026 that's right that's our five-year
goal we want one million families that are not dependent on corporate america for their income
that can do what they want when they want with who they want how they want okay the way
that happens our road map to success is hbr you know what a lot of you are in it
if you want to create sustainable multiple income streams from home for your family
and be invincible
we're still having these conversations message living the dream with martha her facebook business
page let's do this rainbows and unicorns what have you and we're going to see where you fit in in the
programs okay so definitely don't forget to do that we're still having those conversations even
even though martha's recovering uh did we have questions in the live chat my husband is an
amazing daughter daddy he brushes and braids her hair and is way more creative with them than i am
that's great i love brushing my daughter's hair i do it twice a day gotta get the tangles out right
if you weren't interested at all at what would martha have done to sway you to get involved
oh jeez you know
that's that's a tough question because like i think i think martha did sway me to get involved
you know because like she shared the wins i mean i don't mean to keep coming back to that answer but
she kept me in the loop i mean every day when she was out so with our digital marketing agency
i was out walking dogs as a separate business that we had but still exists
and she was at a co-working facility running our agency and um i mean i really i
i don't think i would have been on board if she wouldn't have told me about the wins like eat
anything like hey we got a client here today this is what we're doing for him uh i wrote a blog post
for a client and it's like it's got them like on the first page of google like in a week you know
it was that stuff that's that's really what swayed me because going back to yesterday's video is
that stuff's not transparent we we tend to think it is that everyone can see our wins and
sometimes you just have to stick them right in front of people's faces right but i'm going
pretty long all right if you have any other questions ask them ask them in the comments
section of this video not the live chat but the comment section on youtube and i'll see if i can
get around to answering them but stick around for tomorrow we're doing three ways to get your
husband involved in your business it's gonna be magical all right god bless you all thank you