One question that I get asked all the time,
how was I able to stay positive and motivated
in what was certainly the worse time of my life.
I had lost my money.
I had lost my freedom.
I had lost my children for a time.
My wife, bottomed out, right.
And I think about it, and I say,
you know, here's the secret,
when I was in jail, in those moments,
and the worst moments of all were at night time,
when you're in your bunk and people are sleeping
and you're alone with your thoughts
and you could just really get negative.
And the answer was that, in bed,
when I was alone with my thoughts,
I would close my eyes and I would visualize
the faces of my two children.
And I close my eyes, I see their faces,
I knew I had let them down so badly,
and caused them so much pain, and I said,
there's nothing I won't do, there's no length I won't go to,
to prove to these kids that their Dad can do it right.
That their Dad's going to come back even better than before.
And it was all about proving to my children
that you could come back from failure,
that you could make the world right.
I could be an example and make them proud of me.
And that was my why.
It was all about my kids.
And that's the secret.
Your why, it's never about you.
You meet somebody wealthy,
their family at one point was not wealthy.
And then the one shows up.
The one.
One person changes the family tree forever,
in my family, I'm the one.
And it wasn't 'cause I wanted it or I hoped for it,
I fought for it.
I wanna win.
I wanna fight for my family,
I want my mom and dad proud of me.
I want my kids proud of me.
I want me proud of me.
I wanna look in the mirror
and be happy with the man I look back at.
That he gave it everything, that he went for it.
That is you.
That no one can do it for you, but you,
and even though you face disappointments,
even though you will experience some setbacks,
it goes with the territory.
You must understand that.
But here's the truth,
most people's dreams can be bought.
With enough failure,
with enough rejection
they will sell their dreams.
They can't still fight.
They can get a little bit,
but when it gets a little too hot, they go boom, sold.
Buy the dream. You can have it.
It's not worth it to me.
And their will to win is buyable.
You can buy it.
But if you decide my will cannot be bought,
I don't care how long it takes,
you can't buy this dude out.
I'll keep fighting for my family,
I'm the one.
I'm gonna change my family tree forever.
That's the decision.
Decide now,
are you gonna keep negotiating the price
or can you not be bought?
When people die,
when people get sick,
or something happens in your life,
if all you're doing it for is a car
and a house,
that can stop you.
But if you're doing it for your mom,
for your siblings,
for your family,
for your community,
nothing can stop you.
You cannot be broken.
When you have an intrinsic goal,
when you're doing it because you value it,
when you're doing it because you can,
when you're doing it because
it represents who you are,
when it's internal,
nothing can stop you.
When you leave this room,
you take care of doggone every single thing.
I don't care where you come from,
I don't care what your background is,
don't let nobody fool you,
if you're willing to grind on Monday,
if you're willing to grind on Tuesday,
they can't stop you.
I don't have to accept the life that was given to me.
I can create my own reality.