have you ever had a moment of chaos come
at a time when you're just trying to get your life together?
and you're thinking to yourself I know I could deal with this much better
if it wasn't in the middle of such a horrible stage in my life
because I just got laid off my job they're downsizing at my company
I got creditors calling me I'm going through a divorce
my mama just died my kids are sick
I got cancer I'm going through depression
in the middle of all that chaos you got to remember
that it's those low moments that will define who you really are
the true character of a person is shown when your back is up against the wall
these are the moments that separate the successful
from everybody else but how do you keep going?
why do you keep going? what is it
that will make it worth it for you? when you want to give up
and life is fighting against you to take the hits?
what makes you get up when you fall down?
you're gonna have so many moments where you doubt yourself
where you think you can't go on but I want you to remember
these rough times haven't come to stay they've come to pass
so you've got to write down at least five reasons on why you deserve your dream
because you're going to be thrown to the ground again and again and again
and life will keep beating you down
so you got to have some reasons that are so strong
that you'll never stop getting back up and trying again
what is it that can make you unstoppable?
what reasons can you think of that will keep you strong
through these rough times? you've got to be unreasonable
because logical, practical thinking says it cannot be done
but if you want to do something that is unreasonable
to most people like living your dreams
and taking charge of your own destiny then you've got to become an unreasonable person
you've got to be an uncommon person because see, pain is tricky
if you don't control pain it'll control you
until you learn how to figure it out until you learn how to tap it on the back and say
I know you're there but I'm built
to deal with you you must find a way to push through pain
because there's always something greater on the other side of it
see, there's some people listening to this right now
you've just gone through the worst situation of your life
you're in the hardest season of your life something's happened
and maybe you failed but I need you to know
that failure is not final it's formative
it is not final it is formative
it is part of the process it's part of the journey
your failure matters as much as your success how do you think you're gonna
grow if you don't ever fail? and yet there's some of you right now
you failed and you think, well I guess I'm a failure
no failure is an event
it's never a person when you fail
that doesn't make you a failure as long as you're still breathing
you have the chance to try again failure is nothing but fuel for your future
failure is a research project failure is what you use to know
how to do it right the way that you grow
you have to fail in order to succeed just because you failed
doesn't mean that the universe doesn't have a bright future in store for you
you must keep going no matter what happens
it's always too soon to quit you need to realize
that the growth of a person is not in the success it's in the process
it's in the trying it's in the journey that we discover
who we really are every one of my successes
is stacked on top of failures when you keep working
when you keep going at it you are allowing your pain
to form your future you are allowing it to frame up the story
of your success you're using it as
a peg in the ladder to go higher you got to declare to yourself
that no matter how hard it gets you will not stop
you will not be defeated you will take every single pain in your life
and you will use it to push you to greatness you will not allow it to hold you back
even if no one else thinks you can do it even if the odds are stacked against you
even if your chances of survival are slim to none
say to yourself no matter what it takes
I will find a way through this or die trying
I refuse to quit this too shall pass
you're gonna get through this thing so don't stress out about it
and don't you dare turn around and go back home don't back down from the pressure
you are not a victim so stop talking like it
stop acting like it it's your trial
it's your tribulation that's gonna get you out your comfort zone
it's your trial it's your tribulation
that's gonna take you to the next level so there's no shame in thinking about quitting
there's no shame in getting tired there's no shame in feeling burnt out
but what you've got to do is consciously remove
that thought out of your mind why?
because the shame is in quitting so if you've thought about quitting
that's okay but whatever you do
don't let that thought become your reality in spite of what's going on right now
in spite of the hardships I've experienced it's worth the effort
of going out and giving it everything I possibly can
it's worth giving every fiber of my being to bring it into reality
to express who I am I've got to do the work I'm supposed to do
I've got to become who I'm supposed to become
it's possible you can have it in spite of where you are right now
that doesn't matter and it's necessary that you go out
with everything in you that you don't take it lightly
you go out and you take responsibility for making it happen
and you own up to the fact it's going to be hard and you'll do it hard
sometimes you might feel defeated you might feel broken inside
you might be barely holding on with tears running down your face
but to you it's worth it
it's worth whatever you got to go through I want to encourage
somebody out there who's thinking about quitting somebody who's thinking about giving up
this message is for you
maybe you're here today and your marriage is falling apart
maybe you're here today and you're dealing with anxiety
on a daily basis you know what it's
like to be in a lonely, dark place you know what it's like to want to quit
you know what it's like when the pressure is overwhelming
when people expect your best
but you're at your worst it can be devastating
life will strip you to your core that's a moment of choice
that is a moment of decision but what will your response be?
will you give up or will you get up?
will you throw in the towel or will you keep moving forward?
don't give up don't give in
stay in it stay focused
adversity creates the perfect moment
for audacity life will beat you to your knees
and it's not personal it happens to everybody
sure, you might lose comfort you might lose sleep
sure, it might be frightening but if you keep moving forward
and don't let any of those struggles turn you around
you will eventually have a breakthrough and the darker the night
the brighter the morning you will fail your way to success
it doesn't matter how many times you fail it doesn't matter how many times
people tell you that you can't do it
when you want something bad enough you will find
a way the thing that's causing you pain today
actually has purpose in your life every season you can learn
every challenge is developing you you can use your pain to make you greater
that which does not kill you will make you stronger
it's the obstacles in our lives it's the hardships
it's the mountains that we climb that make life worth living
but those mountains aren't supposed to stop you your mountain has the materials for your miracle
your conditions are not always in your control
you don't always get to decide what kind of skies you face
there are some things that are outside of your control
but your courage that is always in your control
take that leap of faith trust yourself
and know within yourself that everything is going to be alright
life's gonna punch you in the mouth life's gonna bully you
there's no doubt about that but the question is
can you give 120% regardless of the pain you're going through?
can you muster up enough strength to hold on and hold out?
to make it to the other side? because that's what will make you a legend
life isn't fair never is and never will be
and you can't stop it but the choice you have now is
are you going to get angry? frustrated?
are you going to lash out at people? are you going to start going down the spiral
of negativity? are you going to let the horrible situation
dictate the way you feel and the way you handle it?
are you going to fall over and fall apart?
or are you going to step up? are you going to face this issue with courage
and resolution? are you going to find
a way to make it work in your favor? be the one who people look up to
absorb the pain and turn it into power
no matter what is happening no matter how hard the fight is
as long as you keep fighting you will win
the fights not over if you've been knocked down
it's only over if you quit if you make the decision to get back up
one more time I'm telling you
you will win the fight you've got to stay consistent
you've got to keep moving and keep making progress
don't ever take your foot off the gas don't allow these minor inconveniences
to slow down your destiny and in the midst of all
of what you're going through you've got to monitor your internal dialogue
you need to shut down and the negative conversations
going on inside your head you may be under dark times right now
but stay positive keep your head up
stick your chest out bow your back
walk with pride and know within yourself
that you have what it takes to get through this others have done it
so why not you? and don't look at night as darkness
look at night as a new beginning