How to overcome masturbation. Disclaimer- this video is of mature content and so be mindful with
those people around you that will be listening as you will be watching. Now masturbation is an
experience of sexual orgasm produced by self-stimulation for sexual arousal and
pleasure. Word masturbation is not mentioned in the Bible nor is abortion or heroin or
cocaine but the idea is mentioned and we're gonna address them. There's an old joke that,
you know 98 percent of people masturbate and the other two percent are lying. You know maybe 98
percent is a little bit exaggerated but in reality is one survey says that over 70 percent of men and
40 percent of women admitted to having masturbated at some point in their life. A lot of people say
that ,well masturbation, especially people who are not believers. They say things like,
masturbation is not wrong because it offers me an innocent way to fulfill sexual desire when
there is no partner available. That's the view that some Christians hold and especially people
who are not of christian faith. What you must understand is that masturbation removes the sexual
expression from its intended purpose. Masturbation is really a solo sex, where orgasm is removed from
the purpose of creating intimacy and reduced to a simple chemical release. And you may say, well you
know I don't see anything wrong with it. But we're going to dive into some scriptures and also we're
going to talk about how to overcome this habit and this addiction in 1 Corinthians 7: 8-9 Paul says,"
But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am;
but if they cannot exercise self-control let them...." It doesn't say let them masturbate.
It says," let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." So I want you to
notice Paul is saying, if you are single exercise self-control. If you can't exercise self-control
marry. It doesn't say if you can't exercise self-control masturbate. Paul doesn't give option
to self-stimulation as a way of an alternative to getting married because in the scriptures, sex
is supposed to happen in the context of marriage and what follows sex, the orgasm and all of that
stuff, it belongs in the area of marriage. What masturbation does is it pretty much it's a solo
sex. It's that you are taking part of that sex out of its intended purpose. The second thing that I
want to mention and that's a misconception is that masturbation is a sin of Onan. Genesis 38:9-10 it
says: Now some people take this verse and say well Bible says masturbation is wrong because
it's a sin of Onan. You know he had a sexual intercourse and then instead of inseminating her,
he you know poured out his semen on the floor and the Bible says God killed him for that. At least
understand the sin of Onan has nothing to do with masturbation because Onan had sex with the woman.
Sin of Onan has to do with procreation. And the Bible is very clear about it. He did not want
the name of his brother to continue. He wanted to build his own legacy. So he knew if the wife
of his brother, his brother passed away. If the wife would get pregnant, the name of his brother,
the legacy of his brother would continue, not his own name. And God did not like that
and therefore God killed him. Now this still does not mean that masturbation is the will of God but
we cannot use this verse out of context to label that or to attach that to masturbation. Number
three. Masturbation is something I can't control. Some people say, it just honestly just comes on
me. I can't control it and therefore I masturbate. But you must understand you are not an animal
that is ruled by your sexuality nor are you an angel that denies your sexuality. Like angels
in heaven they don't have sex, they don't get married so they don't have sexual desires. You're
not an angel and you're not an animal. You're in between. You are a human. It means you have a body
but you are a spirit. Therefore you can't as a christian walk around with these statements, that
I just can't control it, it comes on me. Because you are a spirit. You don't need sex to be alive.
Sex is not water. Sex is not air, okay. You are not a sexual being. You are a spiritual being
that has a physical body. The necessities of the body are real but your identity is more real and
your identity is that you are a spirit. The idea that I can't control it, well you must
understand in Galatians 5:22 it says: You can't do it but the Holy Spirit can do it for you and
through you and in you and we're going to talk about that in a moment on how to see victory in
this area. You know masturbation is really an act of instant self-gratification. It's quite
opposite of self-control that we are constantly being talked about in the Bible you know. And
self-control is an act of obedience to the Holy Spirit and masturbation you know, it's not
an act of obedience to Holy Spirit. It's an act of submission to the desires of the flesh, I'm going
to read you a quote from C.S Lewis on this topic of masturbation. He said," For me the real evil of
masturbation would be that it takes the appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out
of himself to complete his own personality in that of another and turns it back; sends the man back
into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides." So it's a prison where a
man has this imaginary women and "In this harem, once admitted, works against his ever getting out
and really uniting with the real woman. For the harem is always accessible, always subservient,
calls for no sacrifices or adjustments, and it can be endowed with erotic psychological attractions
which no woman can rival. Among these shadowy brides he is always adored, always the perfect
lover; no demand is made on his unselfishness, no mortification ever imposed on his vanity. In the
end, they become merely the medium through which he increasingly adores himself." End of quote.
Number four. In this question. And a statement that I hear from people and I want to debunk,
that you know, masturbation is not wrong. I can masturbate as long as I'm not thinking lustful
thoughts. It's kind of like hey, I can go into the pool and I'm not going to get wet. Yes it's true,
that there's no mention of word masturbation in scripture. The same way as you know,
there's no mention that heroin, consuming heroin is sin. But why do we say that heroin and cocaine
is sinful to consume. Because not necessarily the very act of taking these particular chemicals into
our body. It's the fact of what it produces and same thing with masturbation. The problem
with masturbation is not the very act that your hand touches your genitals. It's what stimulates
that in the first place and where does it lead afterwards. A lot of times the desires and the
urges for masturbation come from pornography. Most of the cases they do and usually they lead
afterwards to guilt, to shame and a lot of times they lead to fornication. Where the person now
wants to act these things out in real life. They want to have the sexual relationship with someone,
especially people who are single. And so that's what makes this wrong and that's what makes this
not something that God wants us to have it practiced in our life. Now most of you, this
is a no brainer and you clicked on this video not necessarily to know that it's wrong. But to know,
say hey what do I do now. So thank you for staying all this time with me through this video. Let's
dive in. Number one in overcoming the addiction to masturbation. Surrender your will to God's will.
Jesus says not my will be done but Your will be done. You have to surrender your will to God's
will. In 1 Thessalonians 4;3 and on ,it says this. "It is God's will that you should be sanctified;
that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each one of you should learn to control your
own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who don't know
God." Have you noticed how God outlines His will. His will is for you to be sanctified, set apart
for Him okay. And then it breaks it down, what that means; to abstain from sexual immorality,
like okay. And then it goes further. It says, not only so you will not commit sexual act in your
pursuit of God's will. But see to do God's will you gotta deny your own, you gotta submit your
own, you gotta put your will under God's. It's not just accepting Jesus as your Savior it's accepting
Him as your Lord and actually living like that. And then He breaks down more, from God's will
your sanctification, to do not or abstain from sexual immorality and then it goes further. And
I believe that this can be applied to masturbation because it says in here that you should learn how
to control your own body. Some translation says," possess your vessel in honor and sanctification."
So it's a process. So it's not just not to do sex outside of marriage. It's also not to
commit sexual sin and to control your own body, possess your body in a way that's honorable. Not
to be a prisoner of your passion but to possess your passions and it says that pagans do that.
Meaning they are ruled by their sexuality. They are ruled by their sensuality. They are ruled
by their urges. Pagans, they don't know God, they don't know better so they are ruled by
their biology instead of their theology. So as a person you have to allow your will to be submitted
to God's will and begin to possess your vessel, learn to control your body. Remember that part of
your santification is submitting your will. It's part of the process of learning to God's will
and learning to control your own passions. God doesn't just zap em. I'm going to talk about in a
moment about deliverance but even there, you still have to learn to practice this submission to God.
Step number two. Do spiritual warfare. I believe that submission, the Bible says," submit to God
and resist satan." So it's not only spiritually submitting to God but it's spiritually fighting,
subduing spiritual forces. I'm going to read to you the verse Matthew 5:29-30 It says the
following," If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you;
but it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than your whole body to be
cast into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you;
for it is more profitable that for you that one of your members perish, then your whole body be cast
into hell." I want you to see the language here. I want you to see two things .One is your eye,
place of lust for a lot of people. In fact there's even a scripture in 2 Peter 2:14 it
says that," Having eyes full of adultery...that they cannot cease from sin." So sometimes when
we pray for deliverance, people have demons can actually hide in person's eyes. They can attack a
person's particular part of the body and they can hide behind your eyes and they can be the cause
of that. Now I don't want to over demonize everything but at the same time I do believe
there are demonic forces on assignment to push people into sexual immorality. Even when person
gets set free from sexual immorality they still try to push person into masturbation. Look at the
language Jesus uses. If your right eye causes you to sin. Now we understand that these eyes, they're
not the cause of sin. There's something behind that, that causes that sin. I want you to see what
Jesus says. He says," pluck it out and cast it from you." So this is not just talking about you
know crucify it and subdue it today, and tomorrow you have to subdue it again like we do with our
flesh. Pluck it out meaning uproot it, remove it and throw it out from you. Now you can't do that
with flesh okay. Because flesh is there and we die daily. I do believe that this could also mean,
this is not only meaning, but this could also mean doing spiritual warfare of coming against forces,
plucking out and also casting it away, rebuking and renouncing spirits of lust and masturbation.
And then He goes in and He starts saying, if your right hand...it's what people use to
masturbate their hands and the Lord does not say, go cut off your hand. The hand is not the problem
and sometimes it's the forces behind. In fact a lot of people who get delivered from spirit
of masturbation the hands start shaking during the deliverance. Maybe that's what you need, you
need to do spiritual warfare. Subdue. So we first submit and then we subdue the forces of darkness.
We break their grip. We pluck them out. You pray the prayer of renouncing. Pray the prayer
of commanding every unclean spirit to go. And some of you will need deliverance from somebody to pray
for you. The real cause of it is not physical, the real cause of it is spiritual and you need
spiritual weapons to deal with the spiritual sources. And Jesus says, it's more profitable for
you that one of the members perish than your whole body cast into hell. It's more profitable for you
to remove that. Whatever the pain that it takes, whatever the process that it takes, to
live in freedom. Now number three, develop greater dependence on the Holy Spirit. As I've mentioned
and read the verse. I read the verse already in Galatians 5:22-23 and it ends with the fruit of
the Spirit is self-control. Self-control is the fruit of the Holy Spirit, it's not the fruit
of your efforts. Depend on the Holy Spirit more. Rely on the Holy Spirit, not on your own ability,
not on your strength, not on your discipline, not on your even warfare prayers but on the
Holy Spirit. Say that to the Holy Spirit," Holy Spirit of purity. Holy Spirit of righteousness.
Precious Holy Spirit of holiness I depend on you give me the strength I lack. Give me the desire
that I lack." Depend on the Holy Spirit. He will produce this fruit of self-control. Now number
four. Subject your biology to your theology. So this speaks of denial now. This speaks of
radical approach of not yielding into the cravings of the body at that moment, because Galatians
5:22-23 talks about the fruit of the spirit but then verse 24-25 it says this, and those who are
Christ's... meaning who belong to Christ... have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
If we live in the spirit let us also walk in the spirit. And that could mean honestly, walking
away right away from that situation that you are in. Perhaps not going to places that stimulate
lustful thoughts afterwards. Not going to places where you're invited. Job says, I made a covenant
with my eyes. There's a lot of people they watch pornography and then they masturbate or they're
lonely, they're bored and they watch some kind of an image on instagram or something. So you might
have to subject your biology. You might have to cut some things off also literally, in your life,
not physically physical things but like, maybe instagram, maybe tick tock, maybe a snapchat
maybe youtube. You're gonna have to remove certain trigger points as well to that. Because spiritual
warfare, without spiritual discipline is not going to give you a permanent perpetual victory. So I
want to encourage you, there is freedom for you from the spirit of masturbation. There's freedom
for you from the addiction to masturbation. There is freedom for you from the habit. Don't give up.
God wants you to live a holy and a pure life. God wants you to live a life that honors Him.
I'm speaking mainly here to single people. Now if you are married and your spouse is too far,
you know, lives too far and people sometimes ask you know, can we masturbate or like if we have
a permission from the spouse. Like that's between you and your spouse but even then,
it's a very murky and a very shady ground because you're developing, your brain is developing these
brain waves. You're developing these habits. They're extremely addictive and then even when
you come back to be with your spouse you always have that option there and for many people it
continues in their life and they no longer develop intimacy with their spouse and they don't use sex
for where it's intended to be, to bring people together. They just kind of satisfy themselves
and create this release on the side and that's not what the Lord intended for sex and intimacy
to be. He wants all of our body to be presented to Him as instruments of righteousness, not
as instruments to gratify and satisfy the urges of the flesh. Thank you for watching this video.
I hope this was educational, encouraging and also inspired you to pursue righteousness and holiness.
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