About a decade before Demi Moore proved pottery-making could be hot in Ghost,
and long before she would make headlines with two high-profile marriages — and
splits — she was an 18-year-old aspiring actor saying "I do" to rocker Freddy Moore.
But their relationship was doomed from the start. Here's why they ultimately split.
Demi and Freddy tied the knot in 1981 and divorced four years later, but their relationship
was tainted long before they walked down the aisle. As Moore recalled in her 2019 memoir,
Inside Out, she had been unfaithful to Freddy just hours before saying "I do."
"I guess the fundamental question that came forward for me was, 'How did I get here?'"
She wrote,
"The night before we got married […] I was calling a guy I'd met on a movie set.
I snuck out of my own bachelorette party and went to his apartment. […] I couldn't
get out of the marriage, but I could sabotage it."
While Demi never named
anyone in her indiscretions, Fight Club actor Paul Carafotes soon claimed he was the man in question.
The pair played a couple in 1981's Choices and had a months-long affair, according to the actor.
"You're a hard one to figure out."
Paul explained how they got together, telling Daily Mail TV,
"We laughed, had a good time and played around on the set and this developed
into a relationship over a little bit of time. And then I guess we had an affair."
Recalling the night of Demi's bachelorette party, Carafotes told the outlet he initially
brushed Demi off, but then gave in to her persistence. He recalled,
"I finally said, 'Look, uh, if you want to come over,
I'll open the kitchen window. You can climb the fire escape,
I'm four flights up. […] The next thing I knew she was standing there with a bottle of Dom Perignon,
standing over my bed saying, 'Let's do this, let's party.' I was shocked, she was wild."
The next morning, Carafotes said he reminded Demi that it was her wedding day, and she was gone.
When Demi first met Freddy
she was just 16 to his 28. And as she wrote in her memoir, her lack of life experience
led her to recklessly engage in an affair with Freddy. According to the Daily Mail,
the musician was married at the time, but as Demi wrote,
"I was a self-absorbed teenager who hadn't been raised with a lot of respect for the institution
of marriage. And I jumped into life with Freddy without […] much concern for his wife."
"I really lost sight of everything that was right in front of me."
When they tied the knot, Demi was 18 and Freddy was 30. And the 12-year
difference didn't work in their favor, with the actor later calling her 15-year age gap
with third husband Ashton Kutcher a quote, "do-over." She wrote,
"[It was] like I could just go back in time and experience what it was like to be young,
with him — much more so than I'd ever been able to experience it when I was actually in my twenties."
One of the many hurdles Demi and Freddy's
union faced was the actor's substance abuse. As she revealed in her book, she began smoking,
drinking, and partying in middle school, before dropping out at 16 and moving in with Freddy.
She soon landed a role on General Hospital and immediately stopped the boozing. As she recalled,
"Alcohol was moving me back to where I came from instead of
forward into the future I envisioned for myself."
"I think something had to give. When you come up to those places, you either go in or you go out."
But Demi didn't stop using cocaine, and it quickly became an addiction. As the star wrote
in her book, cocaine was a constant throughout her first marriage and when that broke apart, she also
started drinking again. Things got so bad that if she hadn't been cast in 1985's St. Elmo's Fire,
around the time of her divorce, she says she might not have survived. As Demi revealed,
production gave her an ultimatum: go to rehab or lose the role. She chose the first, writing,
"I had something much bigger than me to fight for. And so I did. […] I wanted to be present,
not dulled by alcohol or sped up by cocaine, and I dedicated myself fully to the process."
"Do you still like me?”
“Yeah.” “Good."
Demi certainly hasn't been the luckiest in love. Following her split from Freddy in '85,
she married Bruce Willis in '87 after dating for just four months. While their marriage
lasted over a decade, the pair went their separate ways in 2000 with Demi
later calling the Die Hard actor, quote, "controlling." Three years after that,
she began dating Ashton Kutcher. The two were married in 2005, but finalized their
divorce in 2013 after Kutcher was caught stepping out, with two girls in a hot tub.
“If I had known that he was happily married, none of this would have ever happened."
But Moore puts much of the blame on herself. Looking back on her failed
relationships with the Jess Cagle Show in 2020,
she said a reason for her splits has been her tendency to try to be someone she was not.
"I had changed myself so many times over and over to fit what I thought somebody else wanted."
Moore went on to note that many people try to live up to other's desires, adding,
"Working through a relationship […] is really commendable in our disposable times.
You know, to go through the journey of really honoring the love that brought
you together in the first place and to really give it everything you've got."
"The journey is really…About self-acceptance and self-forgiveness and ultimately self love."
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