in today's video we are talking all about the highs and the lows and the in between of being
an enneagram type four if you're new here i'm hillary i'm your certified enneagram life coach
and i love teaching you guys the enneagram in the simplest way possible and before we dive into who
the type 4s are i just kind of want to say thank you guys so much for showing up to my last video
and encouraging me and being there for me if you're new here and you don't know what
i'm talking about well i'm talking about why i took a break from youtube that's the video
that was my last video that i put out there and i really talked about mental health and comparison
and all of those things that can rear its ugly head in all your areas in life but especially
in youtube and being a youtuber so if you haven't given that a watch go watch that um for a little
update of where i've been but i just wanted to say thank you
to all of you that did watch it and showed up for it and left me amazing comments i'm so blessed by
this community you guys made me feel extremely special and i really appreciate all you guys so
all right let's go ahead and dive into today's video all about that enneagram type four so who is
the enneagram type four well they're the dreamers they're unique they're intense and honest and
authentic can be moody they have big feelings they are introspective and creative and sentimental and
there's so many words to describe the type 4 but that's a little bit of who they are
they're the individualists that's who the type 4 is they want to be special and unique so the
enneagram type 4s they really do see themselves as completely different from other people they
feel set apart they feel different they are highly attuned to their emotions like extremely attuned
to them and this really allows them to experience everything just deeply like you know as deep as
it gets they can experience all the emotions happy and sad and just all of them being attuned
to their emotions gives them that ability and one thing i was thinking of as i was kind of you know
trying to plan this video i was thinking to me the fours are if you've seen the movie divergent
i'm sure you've probably even heard this before but they're the dauntless to me they're the ones
that were like i i don't i don't fit in none of those fit me perfectly so i'm gonna go over here
and make you know my own grouper be set apart or whatever um to me that's you know who the fours
are and i think they're amazing all right so let's go ahead and dive into the highs and lows in the
in between that's what i want to really discuss today and to me uh this is going to be more about
kind of like a levels of development levels of health levels of self-awareness the highs
the lows and the average the in between that's what we're discussing today i'm not doing like
arrows or anything like that this is more of um just who they are this is just more of those
levels of that the four can be an experience and so for me the highs it's the best part of you it's
the healthiest stage it's who you are at your best it's who you are in that healthy space of life and
you know and i do want to just say before we dive into the healthy and essentially the average and
and the low um you're gonna experience all of them we don't just like stay at one because things come
at us daily and things happen and it's okay to fluctuate it's okay for those to be fluid and
for one day for you to be like gosh i'm not really living at my best today or another day you're like
yeah i'm feeling pretty low today and this is where i'm at that's okay um the goal is for
you to learn all of this so that you understand where you're at in that day and you can identify
and want to go you know move up and and go towards the healthiest version that you can be that's why
i teach this so some words that would describe you as a four at your healthiest i would say you're
creative you're sensitive you're emotionally attuned i think i've already said all of those to
describe you um i would say you're you really seek meaning in everything in life and you're really
trying to discover the meaning behind everything um there's just a lot of depth to you um
you're extremely self-honest at this point you're able to look inward you're able to have that
self-awareness and understand who you are you're you're genuine you're honest you're introspective
you're i don't know just inspiring so those are just some of the words i would use to describe the
four you know in their high zone okay so the the high side of the fours the highly self-aware fours
i would say they're the you know they're inspiring and intuitive and wise and they're able to help
other people they have a high level of emotional intelligence when they're around other people
and they help others with that they find meaning and understanding of their own visions and they
they do something about them they move forward they take a step forward they don't get stuck in
just the visionary process they really they kind of like manifest towards creating those visions
and they move forward within them they have an appreciation for their own sensitivity but
also others they really appreciate other people at this level they have high empathy for other people
they're true to themselves they really develop this ability to turn any of their emotional
experiences into you know things that have value and different areas like that at this
level they understand that they're different and sensitive and self-aware and they're okay with
that they accept themselves for who they are their basic desire to find themselves um and
who they authentically are is achieved they they really do find themselves and understand who they
are and accept who they are everything everything about them they're more accepting of themselves
so that's kind of like the high side of the four and then moving down to the average side of the
four we also call this like an autopilot type of thing this is where a lot of all types really kind
of can live here if they're not doing any work on themselves they can kind of sit and average a lot
and so i and i would ask yourself as you're listening to me with the highs and averages
and the lows where are you at where have you been where are you going where do you want to go
where do you you know like write this stuff down have the stuff help you understand yourself better
to help you have these like self-awareness flags you know and go oh that's where i'm at okay i
don't want to be here i want to move here how do i get there and so just be processing as i'm
teaching this moving to the average space this is where the four really internalizes everything
they really internalize everything they they start to retreat into their own imagination in their own
world they you know they really withdraw more i think at their high side they're moving forward
they're you know they're going after what they're meant to be and the average they kind of withdraw
and they kind of live more in their heads and and it's an imaginative world place and it feels safer
to them and this is where there's more of a mild loss of awareness you know they're they're doing
more of their the things that they fall back on the more predictable predictable patterns
in their life that's where you're at in this average at an average level of self-awareness
fours are still passionate they're still creative they're still self-aware but they start to begin
to be a little bit more self-critical of them you know themselves and other people they tend to take
things a little more personally instead of seeing the whole picture they their sensitivity you know
is it ignited and they can take things personally it's not a bad thing like all of us do that but
that's where i'm like you know when you're in those moments i would love you to stop and ask
yourself you know is this really about me right now or is this about the other person you know
things like that that will help us go back towards the high side um when we can identify what's
actually going on but then sometimes it is going to be personal and i understand that too at this
level they're more at the could be what could be in life not not going after but like they're more
like oh i wish this would happen and um oh i wish that could be i think you know and it's just like
but not seeing any action and i would say like they're a little bit more moody a little bit
more self um centered and more you know thinking about things and and different things like that at
this level they tend to start worrying that people aren't going to appreciate them for who they are
and some of that is you know rightly so i would say but other times it's you know maybe it's just
a worry and that's where as a four you can ask yourself like is this a real thing or you know um
am i just feeling unappreciated is there something in me that's just you know feeling unappreciated
right now and also at this level i'd say maybe they're feeling like they're missing out on life
you know like they're never going to achieve what they want to achieve or anything like that
they're like they're afraid that they're truly missing out or truly something in them is missing
and um feeling not good enough and different things like that and so then we move down
to the low side of the four and i would say the low side of four this is where the four
kind of can become um ashamed you know of themselves and how they feel about themselves and
they might detach completely from other people and withdraw for a long time um sit in their sadness
for a long time and all of these things it's okay oh well i mean i'm i'm i coach other types too
hey i need you to sit there but the fours where i coach is like i i want you to sit there and
process because that's what makes you you but i also don't want you to sit there forever i
don't want you to um you know set up a camp and a tent and a chair and you know everything
because you're just gonna sit in this sadness for a really really long time because that doesn't it
doesn't serve you well when that happens um but again i do like that you guys process everything
i truthfully would love to be able to process emotions as well as the force can but like with
everything uh what's our greatest strength can be our great greatest weakness right and that
goes for all types and just with the four it's your greatest strength is ah being able to sit
with emotions and feelings and and no matter what they are but it can become that greatest
weakness where you can't move forward and you sit too long so that's what i'm saying and at
this level fours might start to fear that they're wasting their lives and sometimes they might be
i guess according to them right and so they start to think you know maybe everything's a waste and
and you know what am i doing with my life and then also i would say at this level the
lower side of the four they might sabotage things they might sabotage themselves they
you know be looking for that are you your own saboteur um in things where you know you can
be going after things and and be doing things that you really want to and then all of a sudden you
get afraid maybe it's not gonna happen or whatever fears rear their ugly head and then instead of it
going wrong like you think it might you sabotage the whole thing just before it can happen
um i don't know if you're a four and you've experienced that um but sometimes that can happen
the and then you know that self-awareness in this low side of the four they really really start to
compare themselves to others and come up short in their own mind and you know i hate it when i see
that happen of that comparison because you know what makes them four different and beautiful is
who they are and and that there is no one else but them and that there's only one of you in
this world and we need you um to show up as you are you know but like all of us just be working
on yourself um to just be the best version of yourself not the perfect version of yourself
not like everybody else know just the best version of who you want to be and what that looks like
at the low level you know they might really have high highs and low lows and just have big
big moods um at the lower level you experience you know the the fear of missing out not being
enough or envious or any of that but it's just more excessive it's just more you know
like deeper it's more like you can't move past a type of thing so all that to say
those are the highs those are the average middle whatever we want to call it those are the lows
just a little bit of what it's like to be a four and and just so you know it's okay whatever level
you're at it's okay um just you know let today and whatever whatever struck you whatever spoke to you
you know write it down and work on it if you want to
um to be the best version of you because i know you you know i know fours really desire
um to show up complete and whole and who they are and and and set apart and unique and all of
those all of those things can work together and so i'm here to tell you like go after
what you're meant to do show up to your own life because when we show up to our own life we bless
others it's really our purpose right and so i'd love to know in the comments below like what are
your dreams what are some things that you haven't told anybody what are some things that you're like
i wish i could but no not me let me know what do you dream what do you want to do what do you what
should you be going after what is in alignment with you know who you are i'd love to know so
um and so that i can cheer you on and i can and that we all as a community can cheer each other on
and want the best for each other so that is it for today that that was the highs and the lows
and the in between of the enneagram type 4 the individualist i hope it helped you i hope it
you know just brought some awareness and some you know learning to your life and
help that's all it's meant to do and there's a lot more to levels of development levels
of health highs and lows whatever we want to call them there's so much more
information out there on them but i wanted to just give you a bite-sized simplified
um version of what that can look like so that you can bring it into your everyday
and use it but i think that's all i have if you guys uh like this video please give it a thumbs
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