Matt: What's up guys? Today we're gonna talk about crucial mind sets for attracting women
like crazy. By owning these mindsets along with of course having good pick up fundamentals,
you basically become unstoppable with women and you start to notice women becoming attracted
to you without you really having to do anything because it wants to ingrain the mindsets then
your attractiveness no longer becomes a tactic, or a routine it's just who you are and you
stop worrying about what to say all the time, because normally the right words will just
start to flow out naturally, and even if once in a while they don't, you won't give a ****
Because you know deep down that you are an awesome guy. And you won't really have to worry about
her s***test so much because women won't test you nearly as much. ARE YOU GETTING HOW HUGE THIS IS?
I'm literally talking about attracting beautiful women without having to do hardly
anything. Just becoming a living embodiment of these crucial mindsets. I'm Matt Artisan
from The Attractive Man, and today I'm gonna share with you crucial mindsets that attract
women like crazy.
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If you already subscribed to this channel then you know that a lot of the content we put
out is tactical. Like what to say to spark attraction, how to get the conversation started in different
situations, or how to get girls to chase you, but none of that will work very well if you
don't have the right mindset. Mindset is everything! Now keep in mind that these mindsets take
a little bit of time to a train into your subconscious but it's well worth the effort
because these beliefs are so foundational that adopting them will not only transform
your entire dating life, but everything else that you do as a man as well. Alright, I'm super
excited to share this content with you, by the way the last mindset that I share is in
my opinion the most crucial, so make sure to watch the entire video. Alright without further
ado, let's dive right in. Mindset number seven: Everything will be fine. One of the most fundamental
mindsets that guys that are good with women share is that no matter what happens socially,
everything is going to be fine. Yeah they might slip up and say the wrong thing or they might
feel embarrassed or even rejected but an attractive man sees those situations for what they really
are, just temporary - you know - inconveniences... or even better yet, learning lessons. When everything
will be fine type mentality, you come across more at ease and comfortable and calm in social
situations in which, you know, when you're talking to women, they will also feel calm and comfortable
in your presence and when they feel calm and comfortable, they're more likely to open up
to you. And I don't mean just open up conversationally, and also mean though they're more inclined
to open on open up their hearts and minds, and even their bodies to you. Mindset number
six: I don't have to prove myself to anyone. Let's get one thing straight - you don't have
to prove yourself to anyone! You see, a lot of dating guru's out there say that you need
to prove your high value to her, right, you need to show and
demonstrate high value so she sees your work but that's just another form of neediness
right? Needing to prove yourself to her how awesome you are, which actually just comes
across as needy, low value, and unattractive. The truth is, there is no need to try to convince a woman
of anything to make her feel attraction to you. Attraction is not a result of effort, it's
a result of who you are you are. You are the only one that you need to prove yourself to, and having
that type of mindset will help you focus on your own progress as a man instead of the
opinions of others. Which of course in turn will attract more women to you over time. When
you offer no explanations or apologies for who you are in your behavior, it shows a level
of confidence that most men do not have and women will take notice of that. In fact, when
I approach interactions I'm wondering how they'll prove themselves to me, which is really
the exact opposite of the average guy who's thinking like how can you prove himself to
her? How can he attract her and make her like him? I'm thinking why should I like her? And when
you do that women take notice and they actually become very eager to show you why you should
choose them, and I'm gonna talk a lot more about this concept a little bit later in this video
so make sure to keep watching. For now, just know that there's never really a good reason
to try to convince a woman of your value, how much money you have, or trying to prove yourself
in any way. Mindset number five: What value can I give? As a dominant confident male you
know that, you know, your life is pretty damn good and you've got your **** handled. Therefore
when approaching interactions, you're not thinking, what can I get from it? What value can I take
here? Rather you're thinking, what can I give? Some examples of things that you can give are just
a cool fun vibe, or having great conversations, or having a non judgmental
attitude that allows people to fully express themselves, just really anything that adds
positivity to the interaction, when you do that people will just gravitate to you. Now inevitably
there will be a guy who doesn't understand this concept and misuses it thinking that what
I'm talking about is really creating value, that if he gives value to somebody that they
should return it somehow... that's not the same thing. Trading is very different than giving.
Giving is unconditional, it has no strings attached, so if you think you're giving
yet, you know, nobody's gravitating towards you, then most likely somewhere in the back
of your mind, you're expecting something in return. In other words, what you really want
isn't to give, its to trade. Which is not going to attract people in the same way. I see guys
run into this problem often when it comes to buying girls drinks, and giving girls compliments,
those things aren't inherently bad game, but if you're doing them as a tactic to control,
manipulate, or get something back, girls will easily see through it. They might, you know, accept
the free drink or feed off the validation of the compliments, but in that exchange they'll
lose respect for you and ultimately lose their attraction for you. As a mission, I want
you to go out one night with the sole intention of giving value. Not monetary value, of course,
but emotional value. Making people feel good without expecting anything in return, this
applies to both girls and guys, so go out and do things like give genuine compliments, ask
people their names and remember their names and then use it throughout the interaction,
because people love hearing the sound of their own name. You'd also make people laugh and
just have a good energy about you, you know, be having a good time. You can also lead people
experiences, for example, if you see a girl in a bar you can suggest playing a game... play
pool, billiards or darts, or you can play a verbal game like ****, marry, kill.
Or a physical game like thumb wrestling or slap hands. Okay by the way,
if you're not already subscribed, click that subscribe button because I have a lot of awesome
videos coming out. Mindset number four: Each interaction is an investment in myself. When
going out and meeting women, your main focus should be the investment that you're making
in yourself. The fact that you're improving your social skills, overcoming fears, and approach
anxiety, you're building up your social circle. This mindset shift takes the emphasis off of
getting any one specific results in an interaction, and instead focuses more on a long term perspective.
So instead of thinking like... oh did I say the right thing there? Or whether particular
girl likes you, instead you're focusing more on are you approaching more confidently? Consistently?
Are you contributing to the overall vibe of the interaction and just having a good time
with it? Do I feel the way I want in every interaction? And am I getting the results that
I want? Viewing each interaction as an investment in yourself lets you focus on what's directly
in your control, and your market value as a man will continually to, continually increase
year after year as a result. Having girls pursue you for sex and relationships will come as
just kind of a natural by product of this. Mindset number three: I say whatever the **** I
want. Okay look, when guys start coaching with us, one of the biggest problems that they had
was not knowing what to say and keeping the conversation going, you know, they meet a girl
at the bar, and after the inner up, after the introduction, they just get stuck. But here's
the problem, when you're talking to someone, you have thoughts and opinions that
come up. The problem is that when most guys are talking to a hot girl, they filter those
thoughts and opinions thinking that either they're not good enough, they're not interesting
enough, or that they might offend the girl. And then what ends up happening is an awkward
silence. Listen man, you have plenty of thoughts. You just need to stop giving a **** about what
everybody else thinks and just say anything that's on your mind... Anything? Homer: Eat the pudding
eat the pudding eat the pudding eat the pudding... Matt: Yes, at first you're probably
gonna say some stupid **** but that's okay, because one - it's not going to really matter
in the long run anyway, and number two you get more comfortable just saying whatever's
on your mind and owning it. Over time you'll feel more confident and happy with yourself
and women will love you just for being you. So many people go through life as timid
little sheep so afraid of what other people think about them and you know getting judged
by them what they have to say that when you speak your mind and just say whatever you
want and own it? You will be a breath of fresh air to everybody around you. So do this
man, go out one night, with just one focus. Focus on just saying whatever
comes to your mind. Mindset number two: There's nothing that I need from anyone. You really
don't need much man, maybe water, shelter, food, you know, your basic needs. That's really it
as far as what you actually need. And you can provide all those things for yourself, even
if you live at home and somebody else takes care of you, or you take care of your family.
If it really came down to it and your life depended on you providing those basic needs
you'd figure out a way to do it. An attractive man knows that wanting something and needing
something are two very different things. He may want a beautiful woman but he never needs
a woman. No matter how much you may want a girl. Knowing the fact that you don't need
her will actually help you keep things in perspective. Allowing you to communicate your
true self with uncompromising confidence. Something that is extremely attractive to women. I call
it the willingness to walk away if necessary. By the way, before I get into the number one
mindset, if you know that you have some limitations or limiting beliefs when it comes to mind
set and, you know, your inner game is holding you back with women, a maybe life in general.
Then make sure to check out our seven day boot camps because they're all about transformation.
Not just the outer game of what to say and what to do in different situations and escalating,
but also the inner game. Your belief system. We change you from the inside out, so make
sure to check out the link down in the description to schedule a free consultation and check
out our boot camp schedule. Mindset number one: Let me see if she's worth my time. Remember
earlier when I talked about not having to prove yourself to women? Well guys that really
crush it with women take that a step further, they know their work and they know that most
people just aren't worth their time. I don't mean that in a judgmental, egotistical
kinda way, it's just that life is short and time is valuable.
And you just as much as anybody else should fill that time with people that live up to
your standards. Coming into interactions with this type of mindset sets up a screening frame
where your screening her to see if she's worthy of your time. Think about how much of a reversal
that is from the normal, you know, traditional dating and courting frame where you're supposed to contribute
all sorts of value, money, and time, trying to impress her and win her over. That's just too much
work. And it doesn't even work. So instead flip tradition on its ******* head and get her to impress
you. And prove why she's worthy of your time. When you do this, not only will you get a lot
better results, but you're actually doing her a favor. Because it's human nature for people
to put more importance and value on those that they have to work to win over, and it's
literally every girl's secret fantasy to win over and, you know, seduce a guy that's slightly
out of her league. Believe it or not women don't want guys who just throw themselves
at them too freely and shower them with gifts and give them everything they want and are
in love with them instantly, they want a guy that they have to work for. Listen man if you
have any other mind sets that I didn't mention that work really well, then feel free to leave
it down in the comment section, and make sure if you like this video click the thumbs up.
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and check out our boot camp schedule. Now take a look at this video where I show you exactly how
how to create sensual tension within seconds of meeting a girl, this is really important so that you
don't end up in the friend zone by, you know, creating a friendly platonic vibe instead
as soon as you meet her you'll be able to create a more sensual, seductive, I want to rip
your clothes off vibe. So check out that video right now, there's a link to the right of the
screen. Thanks again for watching, my name is Matt Artisan and and I'll see you in the next video.