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So listen, I have helped so many people either through this channel
or in their negotiations directly
and the one of the things that I've noticed,
I mean people focus on the big things
you know narcissist can be super awful.
I mean, I've had to deal with them myself.
You want to know why
I'm on this mission?
Why I'm on this like
personal crusade to like make sure that
you know, we can shift the whole world here
and make sure that we feel empowered?
Finally.
It's because I've had to deal with these toxic people.
Okay.
I've heard that it's like sixteen percent of the population
and each one of those people goes
around narcissistically abusing.
Just like five people
in their lifetimes that ends up being like,
3.4 billion people.
It's like all of us.
Right?
So and the reason is they feel empty
inside and all those sorts of things, right?
and so like yeah, they've got all kinds of really,
really frustratingly awful habits
but the one thing that people don't necessarily think of a
lot of times is that they are really horrible listeners
and that's the one red flag that a
lot of people don't necessarily
see or think about
and go back to think about a business
partner that my husband had at one point.
There's a law partner that my husband had
at one point who was a flaming narcissist
and ended up divorced from a very lovely woman.
Oh my gosh.
Such a really really great person
and you'd be in the middle of a conversation with them
and even if he asked you a question directly
he just decided you know there was somebody else
room who he's rather talk to or something else
that took his attention away or he just decided
he was like wanted to look at his phone instead.
He would just like right you know
you're halfway through your
conversation or halfway mid-sentence
you would just start looking at
his phone he be walking away.
He didn't even have the politeness manner,
whatever you want to say to like,
like you finish your sentence
it would just be gone and, and that's
exactly the kind of thing that they do.
So, I mean it's extremely difficult to deal with them
obviously in marriage or a business situation or as a colleague,
as boss but that is a symptom of
narcissism that can often be overlooked
because it is very subtle a lot of times
but it is something that is certainly a
a symptom of narcissism, I’m not saying that everybody,
who’s a non listener is a narcissist but
it can be a symptom of narcissism and certainly
when you are negotiating with them
it can certainly be a problem
and so obviously they have a lot of strange habits.
You can definitely check out my video
on five things that narcissists enjoy that normal people don't
and that is definitely a very interesting video.
Definitely check that out.
I mean they are very strange.
They are very strange and if you agree with me
put they’re very strange in the comments below.
It's just you know
sometimes it's very hard to understand these people
but it is what it is but you know
a lot of times they do a lot more talking about themselves
especially than they do listening.
So whether it's that they're doing more talking than
listening or they're just walking away,
mid-sentence they do tend to be not very good listeners,
or they tend to be very dismissive and maybe
even it's like that they've met you like five times
and you're like yeah I've met you before,
and they don't even remember that
they've met you before that's also
kind of a giveaway sometimes
or that you go to say something to them
and after you said something to them,
another giveaway might be
every time you say something
they're kind of contradicting everything that you say.
They might say
yeah, but or well,
but not really or, you know,
they're always kind of negating what you're
saying or taking away what you're saying
they're not really agreeing with you.
They're constantly dismissing everything
that you have just say that's another sort of
giveaway that maybe you're dealing with.
You know, somebody who wants to hear what you have to say
somebody who's open to what you have to say.
They're constantly brushing aside your ideas
that may also be kind of a sign,
and they're all within this person who's not listening,
who's not open.
You know, who's not
doesn't want to hear what you have to say.
It's the same sort of symptom and even kind
of their tone can kind of give it away.
Like yeah, whatever, whatever you have to say
you know, I guess, you know you cannot
sort of listen to their tone as to how their
taking what it is that you have to say.
It could be sort of a brush off and you know,
if somebody is listening to what you have to say,
or if they think, what you have to say means something,
you can get that sets of
whether or not you feel important to a
person by how they're treating you,
and how do you feel when you come
away from being around that person?
How do you feel when you have been in their space?
and you know, I always say that that's a huge red flag.
This is something that I say all the time especially
having dealt with narcissist in my own life.
Defend your light with your life.
You are a vibrating being of energy.
We are vibrating beings of energy.
We just want to make sure you
are defending your light with your life.
It is so, so,so important.
So what is that most overlooked symptom of narcissism?
It is whether or not there are listening to
you and it shows up in many different ways.
So if you are dealing with a narcissist,
in any way, shape, or form,
make sure that you protect yourself,
make sure that you are doing what you need to do
to create some boundaries and and start thinking
about how you're going to exit that relationship
if you can.
If you need help with that,
you can start with my
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