People always ask me, like: How do I create, you know, the person of
my dreams that I want in my life? And I always say: Take out a piece of paper,
write down everything you want in that person and then become it!
That's it.
Because so many people have so many interesting definitions about what
they think love is.
And so, some people have it in terms of need.
Some people have it in terms of sexuality, some people
have it in terms of control, and dominance, and success.
And so, those are different experiences that really don't lead to this
concept called "love".
And so, my theory in a relationship, I was in Australia for three
weeks and I was doing this big book tour. And I was on all these
television shows, and all these radio shows. And you know, I wanted to
talk about the science of changing your mind,
the neuroplasticity, epigenetics.
In every television show they were asking me about soulmates,
how do you create...
I was just so tired by the end of this tour.
I was at the establishment hotel in Sydney and I'm sitting with a CNN
reporter. Attractive woman, and she said: How come I can't create
the relationship that I want? And I just was so over it.
I just looked at her and I said: Let me ask you a question:
Would you go out with you? Which is really the fundamental question.
So, I have a couple of theories about relationships that I think are
really important. And I use the same exact principles with my life.
First of all, I will never work in a relationship! And I don't think
anybody should work in a relationship.
I think if you're working in a relationship, something is not clicking.
Something is not right. But if you bring your best,
and the person that you're with brings their best, and you celebrate
your life together, then there's constructive interference.
There's growth, there's energy.
If you're not at your best and you show up, more than likely you're
going to pick someone or something apart. And it's better that you
remove yourself for a period of time and get back into your heart and
present yourself at your best.
And so, if you're not there and you need a mirror
or reflection, then it's good to ask:
Am I missing something?
Am I not seeing myself in some way?
And then, there's a healthy conversation when you're invited.
But if you're not invited to contribute your opinion, then it's better off
that you don't, right?
So people always say: I want a loving relationship. But what they
really want is happiness, really!
So, we do these meditations to create love in our lives.
And it could be love in familial relationships, with your siblings.
It could be with your parents.
It could be with your friends, or it could be with a significant other.
And so, if thoughts are the electrical charge in the quantum field,
and feelings are the magnetic charge in the quantum field, and how you
think and how you feel broadcast and electromagnetic signature that influences
every single atom in your life,
the thought sends a signal out and the feeling is the magnetic field
that draws the event back to you!
Right!
So, if you're not in a place where you're in love with life, or in love
with yourself, or practicing diminishing your emotional reactions to
certain people or conditions in your life, and you're living in anger,
or hostility, or judgment, or fear, and you want a loving relationship,
there is no magnetic field for you to draw that to you!
And in fact, if you say to me: Well, it's that person or that
circumstance that's caused me to feel this way,
then I would say: I mean, that person or that circumstance is
controlling the way you feel and the way you think! And anything that
controls the way we feel and the way we think - we are victims too.
Right?
So most people are unconsciously responding to the conditions in their environment
experiencing emotions that are derived from the hormones of stress.
Those emotions cause us to feel separate from our dreams, they
heighten our senses.
So, if we can't see them, it doesn't exist.
The threat or the danger puts us in emergency mode.
And we can think positively about the relationship we want,
we could send the signal out into the field,
we could have pictures, we could remind ourselves of what it is,
but if you're not drawing the experience back to you, because
your response to the environment is actually weakening your organism.
It's weakening
your response, it's actually weakening the body, then you will be as a
victim more vulnerable to the conditions in your environment!
And I'm talking about microorganisms as well.
So if you wanted a true relationship where it was fundamentally based
on this concept called "love",
now let's talk about that. Because we practice this a lot in the work that we do.
If you could truly begin to practice trading those survival emotions
every day for elevated emotions, and you practiced opening your heart,
it's a skill that has to take place where you move out
of survival.
So people say: I can't open my heart.
I can't feel love.
And I say: Well, what do you practice feeling?
Because whatever you practice feeling, you're feeling most of the time!
And that feeling
could be guilt, but you're so used to it
you wouldn't even know it's guilt.
It just feels like you!
They're are reacting to their external environment. What's happening?
Or they're reacting to some stray thought in their mind. And every thought
produces a chemical.
So, if they have an unhappy thought - they feel unhappy.
If they have a judgmental thought - it produces chemicals
that makes you feel polarized, right?
So, the stronger the emotions that we feel
from the problems and conditions in our life, the more altered
we feel inside of us, the more we pay attention to what's causing it
outside of us.
So, if you have an event in your life, experience in your life that
has a strong emotional charge to it, and you don't feel like your
normal self, you feel this alarm system switch on, you're going to
narrow your focus on the cause and the brains going to take a snapshot.
And that's called a "long-term memory", right?
So then, what people don't know is that every time they think about
that event, they're producing the same chemistry in their brain and
body as if the event was occurring! In that moment.
So, the highly charged event is actually producing the emotion. And the
body is so objective
that it doesn't know the difference between the real experience that's
creating the emotion and the emotion that the person is fabricating by
thought alone!
The body's believing.
It's so objective.
It's believing
it's in the same environmental experience.
So, the highly charged emotional events, some
people think of their ex and the thought of that person
makes them feel out of balance!
So, all you need is an image and an emotion. A thought and a feeling,
a stimulus and a response. Aand your conditioning your body
emotionally into the past.
So now, the memory's just not in the brain now.
It's in the body.
Okay?
So now, that thought of that person
is actually creating a response in the body
that's consuming the body's energy for growth and repair, consuming the
body's energy to create. Because in survival it's not a time to create!
In survival it's time to run, fight, and hide.
So, the problem is that it becomes a subconscious program.
It's no longer a conscious process.
It now is a subconscious process!
So now, the body has been conditioned
into resentment, into unhappiness, into fear, into anxiety, whatever it is.
And so, back to our concept of bringing love into your life.
So you say to that person:
Okay, open your heart! And they're going to say: Are you kidding me?
I was injured.
I was hurt.
I'm not going to do that!
Let me see your cards first, right?
And once I see your cars, then I'll open up a little bit.
So we protect this, right?
So now, in that state of survival,
the research shows that the long-term effects of those stress hormones
are pushing
the genetic buttons that are creating disease.
The body can't live in emergency mode for that period of time.
So, in a sense, the person is making themselves
sick by thought alone!
The thoughts are making them sick.
Literally!
So, the problem is now the body is conditioned into the past and
it's the mind.
Now once... The body is the mind?
The body becomes the mind emotionally.
So now, all of this energy is stored in the body. And now the person now
has to leave their unhappiness
and step out into the unknown. They have to get out of the familiar
feelings that has defined them.
So they'll say:, I can't really feel joy.
I can't really feel love. And what they're really saying is: I've been
conditioning my body emotionally so much into the past that I can't
feel anything else other than what I know - those states of survival!
People say anger, fear.
Those are normal things.
Those are, in survival,
those are altered states.
The survival chemicals are actually knocking your brain and body out of balance.
You're out of balance in that moment.
And if you keep doing that, the imbalance is now the new balance!
And now your altered emotionally.
So, back to the concept of love.
So the person can theoretically, intellectually, philosophically say:
I want this type of person.
She's got a be this way.
He's got to look this way.
He's got to be like this. And they're basically saying: I want
something that represents all
the things that I no longer want, right?
And so, they're creating with their brain and mind, which is perfect.
The problem is, is that if you can't feel the emotion of your future,
your manifestation of love before it's made manifest!
People say: Well, when my relationship happens, when I find mr. Right,
then I'm going to feel love! Waiting for the outer
environment to change to take away this feeling of anger, resentment,
emptiness. But they forgot that they create reality!
In other words, when it finally appears, then I'm going to feel love.
That's cause and effect!
We're waiting for something to happen.
If you're feeling the lack and the emptiness, then you're keeping your
relationship at arm's length.
Because you don't have the magnetic field to draw to you!
So, the emotions that come from these energy centers, lower energy
centers in our body, do have frequencies,
there's chemistry involved. But they have a different agenda.
So now, we ask the person:
Can you teach your body emotionally
what the future will feel like before it's made manifest?
That means you can't wait for your relationship
to you love, you have to reverse that battleship and understand:
Feeling love
is going to be the magnet! And if you can hold the vision of your
future - a clear intention, with a coherent brain - organize signals
into the field, and you could actually crack this thing open!
And practice getting so present in the moment that you're
anticipating the next moment, or trying to predict the future.
And you're no longer romancing the emotions of your past.
You can find that sweet spot of the generous present moment.
The familiar past is the known, emotionally.
The predictable future is the habituation of autopilot - being
unconscious and programs.
Those are both knowns.
There's only one place where the unknown exist.
That's the present moment!
So, if you could work with your body
to the point that it trusts you enough the feel so safe that you have
conquered it in a certain way that it could actually relax into the
present moment, and it's not worried about what's going to happen next,
or what's going on around you, or that you need to eat,
you need to pee, you need to move.
You got beyond all your drives and you're ready to create! That moment
where you are present, if you could begin to work with your heart and
start to breathe and start to practice
feeling love, in the beginning
it would feel foolish. Or gratitude.
Why would I feel love if it hasn't happened?
Well, that's because you've been hypnotized into waiting for your
world to change to feel the emotion from the experience.
But according to the quantum model, your emotion ahead of the experience,
when you combine that clear intention with the elevated emotion and
you feel love - your body's
so objective
that it's actually believing
it's living in that future in the present moment!
And your body now is beginning to change.
You are beginning to change your biology to reflect what you're about
to experience in your future!
So, the stronger the love you feel,
the more altered you feel inside of you, the more you're going to pay
attention to that picture in your mind. Stimulus-response!
Memory - emotion. Thought and feeling.
But now you're remembering your future
instead of remembering your past. And biologically, it's actually the same!
What an amazing advice by Joe Dispenza.
So to summarize - in order to attract love, you have to feel like you
already have it.
Only then will you manifest love or your desired relationship.
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