I'm going to be going through that in this video.
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So, what are the six ways narcissists build a case against you?
Especially in litigation.
Because they want you to get emotional,
they want you to do things, act in ways, say things, write things,
because then, they've got something they can use against you.
I always say that dealing with a narcissist,
especially in the course of a case, is like getting arrested,
anything you do or say will definitely be used against you,
so be careful, and
I also say, anything you put your hand to is a potential trial exhibit.
So, I would always tell my clients,
back when I was practicing,
whenever you're getting ready to push send or post,
or whatever it is you're about to do,
just imagine the judge, like a little head over your shoulder and
Would you want that judge to see what you're about to to write?
Because you may see it again at a very inopportune time
during this examination, or a deposition, or something like that.
You just don't want to see it again at an inopportune time and
let me tell you, I've had those situations happen to me as a lawyer,
I had a client who was just so mad he had to write a support check,
so he without my knowledge, obviously,
decided to sign a support check with his left hand,
he was right-handed, he signed it with his left hand,
he signed it in crayon, he signed with just his first name,
just to be funny, he thought it was like being Mr. Funny and
sent it over to the wife.
Well, of course, that becomes the centerpiece
of one of her cross examination questions,
“Oh, did you send this over to the wife?”
“Is this your signature?
And, of course,
he ends up looking like a jackass in front of the judge.
And what could I do? Nothing.
Because he did send it, doesn't make him look very good.
Judges under those robes are people too,
so they end up drawing conclusions about people.
So, these are things that they do,
narcissists try to trigger you,
don't take that bait, don't allow them to do that.
So, number one is trigger you.
They love bomb you,
sometimes it's called the idealization phase,
whether it's a business or personal relationship,
it always starts out the same way,
where they try to make themselves appear to be perfect for you,
like, where has this person been all my life?
How wonderful are they,
so, they condition you from the beginning and
then it starts to go downhill from there.
All of a sudden, they start devaluing you,
they start gaslighting you,
they start making you think that you're crazy and
then they make your thinking is wrong,
so that makes your brain start wondering what's going on
through the gaslighting, through all of that sort of crazy making,
through the projection, the deflection, the lying, the denying, all of that,
it's all created to try to destabilise you,
to try to make you think that you're crazy and
at the same time, control you,
but also, the conditioning, is meant to make you think they are invincible,
that they are smarter than anybody else,
that they are always the winner,
that they are so great and
so I can't tell you how many times
I have dealt with clients that think,
“Oh my God, they are so smart”,
nobody could ever beat them and
you don't realize how much of your thinking
is actually just their conditioning of you,
they're actually not all that invincible,
but that's what you think,
that's part of how they start building a case
against you from the beginning.
So, that's number two.
They start making you think that everybody else
thinks that this is the way things are going,
everybody else thinks that they're wonderful,
that you're crazy, that everybody else is lined up with them.
In some cases, they have started planning seeds early on, long ago,
you have to start to think about how you're going to shut down
that narcissist in your campaign and
you can, to some extent,
think about defamation actions and all that sort of thing and
but, there are other ways to shut down a narcissist smear campaign as well.
I have a whole video on how to shut down a narcissist smear campaign,
you can definitely check out my video on that topic.
It's time, isn't it time? Don't you think it's time?
I definitely think it's time.
How they start building a case against you,
is they've been in relationship with you,
they know you, especially if they've been in a relationship with you,
whether it's a business or personal relationship,
if they've had any kind of a relationship with you at all,
your weaknesses against too,
I mean, they have no conscience and once you're against them,
with the narcissists, you're either for them or against them.
So, once they realize you're against them,
the switch gets flipped and
they'll just use anything they've learned about you, against you.
So, they'll use your weaknesses,
whatever you've ever shared with them,
or whatever they know about you,
just to use it against you, whatever it is.
So, they'll use your weaknesses against you.
They collect data, they keep track of information,
photographs, whether it's emails or texts, or whatever.
They will keep track of information if they need to,
they might keep recordings, videos, whatever they need to,
they’re very paranoid people,
so they'll keep track of information.
So, that's one way they will build a case against you as well.
They have no problem with that, they're liars.
So, they will manipulate evidence and they will lie.
So, that's number six.
However, one of the things I want you to know,
as far as what you can do about it,
is that their lies become the best leverage and
that's what I teach you about how to do in the S.L.A.Y program,
that's part of my S.L.A.Y methodology.
I mean, they just never, ever, ever, believe
that anyone's ever going to figure this out,
they think they're invincible, but they are not,
so you can figure out, you can build a strategy,
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because, today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
You do not have to be prey to narcissists, or anybody.
You can free your mind, you can free yourself and
today's the day you decide Namaste and walk away.
I will definitely see you in the next video.