Matt: Have you ever met someone and it just clicked and you felt like you knew that
person for a really long time even though you just met but you felt
instantly comfortable around them well what if you had the power to do that
with anyone that you met because in order for her to start an intimate
relationship with you she needs to feel comfortable with you and it's actually a
lot easier than you think and I'm gonna show you how to move from
being complete strangers to being deeply connected to someone and how to make her
feel like she's known you for years even though you've only been talking for
a few minutes my name's matt artisan from the attractive man and this is 10
power questions to get her to open up to you
now most guide is asked a bunch of questions to get to know her but they
don't really know her and you know she can feel that because they might ask her
about her parents or her favorite activities or subjects or her job or
whatever but they don't dive in to who she really is her motivations and they
don't find out what really makes her special and every girl knows that she's
I'm different and special and she wants a guy who can see that when you're the
kind of guy that truly understands who she is and you know sees her as a
one-of-a-kind special little snowflake then she will fall for you because every
person inherently wants to feel special they want to feel appreciated and they
want to feel understood so you need to express that you really care about who
she is as a person instead of just trying to get in her pants now before we
get into the ten power questions that will help you build an intimate
connection with a girl first I want to give you five very important guidelines
there's these cool little animals I don't know what they are kind of like
raccoons little scavengers getting probably getting drunk off of whatever
drink they just spilled they got the right idea though it's Christmas time
here in Playa del Carmen Mexico which i think is the best time to come here get
out of the cold and spend Christmas in the sand instead of the snow just
another day in paradise now you want to draw out her emotions and use the word
feel in your language as much as you can for example what's one thing about your
hometown that makes you and you know fuzzy inside and now when I
say that I'm basically asking her to feel warm and fuzzy inside and by doing
this you'll see a noticeable shift in her emotions she will actually start to
light up and look man don't try to solve her problems because when women feel
connected to you they want to you know share vulnerable things I want to share
everything that's going on in their life including their problems don't try to
fix them I know that in our nature as men but she really doesn't want you to
solve her problems she just wants you to listen she just needs you know somebody
to talk to and she just wants you to listen empathetically
so that's the key don't solve the problem just listen and pathetically now
to truly create trust and connection you must be vulnerable and actually share
something revealing about yourself this is where you actually take the facade
off a letter see who you really are inside now make sure also that you
yourself have good answers to the questions that you asked her because you
know she might ask you the same question in return she might say what about you
so have a good question and don't be afraid to be a little bit vulnerable and
share something personal now at first she'll probably give you the standard
answer to your question like she does most guys what you need to do is probe
more to find out what is really important to her especially if you ask
questions like where you're from what do you do so good follow-up questions are
tell me more about that or how does that make you feel or what inspired you to do
that and finally for her to feel comfortable
around you and open up to you you need to first be comfortable in her presence
this is absolutely absolutely key because if she consents
fear or nervousness or discomfort then she'll likely want to end the day
quickly rather than get to know you further but don't worry we have a lot of
resources for you such as live workshops to help you really feel more confident
and relaxed when you're around gorgeous women the authorities they the right and
here we have when you first class from your left we have an unfiltered socket
so I need more power does this one have extra juice yeah all
right now let's get into the questions and by the way these questions are not
intended to be asked consecutively like an interview weave them into your
conversation naturally that's absolutely key and by the way if you don't have a
copy of my conversation cheat sheet get it man because it'll help you not only
with dates so you can have fun flirty dates but also help you when you see a
beautiful woman know exactly what to say and how to take the conversation further
in a smooth way that paints you as the prize and gets her to start chasing you
without being weird or gimmicky or having to memorize any you know lines or
routines or any like pickup artists trick so make sure to download it if
there's a link down in the description and at the end of this video so keep
watching all right number 10 imagine you could have your ideal day what would it
look like where would it be who would it be with and what would happen on this
dream day of yours now this is a great question because it really elicits
values and helps you find out who she really is because within this one
question she'll tell you about the man that she wants in her life or you know
what she likes doing and the people and the activities that are important to her
so just let her speak and then go back and dive into the topics that really
made her light up with joy
you like my new shades I don't have a knife so I gotta wear them like this
I tried biting it it didn't work all right my brother's gonna chat about your
next question what's one thing that you're really proud of that you don't
openly share to people now many people are proud of certain you know
accomplishments or traits but they don't share them because they don't want to
seem boastful or bragging now here you're giving her permission to boast
and you'll find out something probably pretty interesting about her next tell
me something personal about you that no more than ten people know about now of
course there's a lot of ways you could word this question but the point is that
after she answers it'll make her feel so connected with you after all she's
sharing something that she doesn't share with most people and that almost
instantly makes you like in her close circle of relationships you know because
you're on that same wavelength as them only they know personal things about her
now you do so make sure that you have some level of rapport or she's likely
not to answer that question or also you might get a traumatic story about rape
or abuse or death or example or you know something like that so make sure to be
prepared for that and it's okay if that happens just be ready for it and be
empathetic 'el towards her answer remember you're getting to know her so
it's good if she opens up to you in that kind of way your personal answer to this
question should also demonstrate good qualities about you it can be vulnerable
open up and you know let her get in a little bit but also you don't want it to
be just like a really bad quality like you're addicted to internet porn or
something like that by the way if you are because I know a lot of guys are and
me being vulnerable to you I was addicted for a long time like over
a decade so I created a whole video on what to do
if you are addicted to internet porn or really you know it's useful for any
addiction so I'll put a link to that down in the description so we're doing
fish pedicures
I'm curious ladies what do you think of a guy its pedicures good were kind of
took them for you
is having nice well-kept toes important thing you can see guys toes and they're
really gross
you got to keep good care of yourself so get a pedicure and you can get a fish
pedicure I'm in H&M in Mexico which is one of my favorite stores because a it's
really cheap and B it's less simple clothing which means you can add layers
of textures or a lot of jewelry or accessories but anyways let's get onto
the next question which is what is your vision or you know what are your goals
like where do you see yourself in the next 10 years but I don't like that
question because it sounds like a interview style question so instead just
what is the vision of your life because you see women have goals as well it's
not just us guys a lot of times us guys get so wrapped up in our own mission
that we forget to listen to the vision of the goals of women so just ask her
what she wants in life and you'll find out a lot about her and then you can see
if that kind of lines up with your vision for your life or not now here's
the deal man you think it's all about the questions all about what to say but
it's not these questions will help they'll help you get to know her faster
and get her to open up to you but it's really about your vibe how present you
are how relaxed you are how comfortable you are in that situation with her and
really how grounded and comfortable you are in the tension whether it's a date
there's and I'm gonna be some awkward tension
perhaps because you don't know her or if you just approach her of course there's
gonna be a lot of tension because she's a complete stranger the more present and
the more grounded you are despite what you say the more attracted and
comfortable she'll be with you back I go on lots of dates and I approach a lot of
women in other countries where they don't speak any English and you know
here I'm in Mexico and my Spanish is pretty bad yet I can still get a girl
attracted to me and make her feel a lot of rapport in a sense of comfort really
quickly even if we don't speak the same language
it doesn't really matter because your body language your vibe and how present
and grounded you are are gonna matter a lot more than the words you say now I
really like this question it's pretty basic how are you no really how are you
because when someone's asked how are you or you know how is your weekend most
people give the short generic good response they didn't really answer the
question did they so challenge them a little bit you know a little bit deeper
to answer the question by telling them no really how are you
or no really how was your weekend and by doing this you're demonstrating your
power and your concern for them and you also learn a little bit more about them
just in the superficial good it gives you really nothing now also I want you
to get into the habit of giving a real answer when someone asks you these
questions now if you don't have time to you know dive into somebody's weekend
and you don't really want a rich answer from them then don't ask them how are
you instead just say good morning or good afternoon or good evening instead
tell me something interesting about yourself now this is my go-to
qualification question when I meet a woman during the day I don't know
anything about her I don't know I want to get her phone number yet so I ask her
that it's kind of a broad question and she can take it and pretty much any
direction she really wants tell me when one interesting thing about
you is it shows that I have standards for
people in my life and that her looks only got my foot in the door and then
she has to tell me something interesting about herself to get any further with me
which when you do this it paints you as the prize and subtly gets her to start
chasing you and trying to win you over and that's what a woman wants she
doesn't want a woman that's so easy that's head over heels in love with her
right away she wants a guy's a little bit of a
challenge this she has to work for who has been an influential role model to
you now this is a really good question because it give you some insight into
her childhood or past relationships and of course what's really important to her
next is what's the most memorable bulk or you can substitute that with movie
concert or whatever that you have ever read this is really good because it
brings her back to the good emotions during that experience and since you're
the one that she's talking to and what she's looking at then she starts to
associate those good positive emotions with you number two what are you
passionate about in life right now now I really like this also is a qualification
question because it really kind of narrows things down and gets more
specific like tell me something interesting about you she could tell you
something that's not that important like she has a tattoo on her butt but when
you say what are you passionate about or what are you passionate about right now
you get a lot more insight into who she is as a person what what about like what
do you I don't know what do you love to do like what are you passionate about
and make sure also to have a good example if she says what about you make
sure you know what you're passionate about have a good answer for that
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and finally one of my favorite questions what's the happiest day of your life
which is another great question to really draw out some powerful and very
positive emotions and of course she'll be associating those modos emotions
subtly with you because you're the one drawing them back out and here's a bonus
question that I like to what do you think I'm like it's a great date
question because you actually get some useful feedback sometimes on how you're
showing up and how you're doing in the interaction and how she actually
perceives you so go ahead and try to use these questions on your next date or
next time you approach a woman and watch how she opens up to you and feels a lot
more connected to you and really no time at all
and remember I want you to really find out who she is as a person think about
it like that's your mission she's cute so I'm gonna go talk to her but I want
to find out who she really is and see if we're a good match or not
that's the mindset now maybe you have some great questions that have worked
well for you in the past if so write them down in the comment section below
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cheat sheet and if you got any questions for me hit me up on Instagram I want to
chat with you and help you out my name is matt artisan from the attractive man
and i'll see you in the next video