Your job is demanding. You’re a single mom with lots of responsibilities.
You feel like dating is just one huge time suck. As a dating coach for smart, strong,
successful women who have everything but the guy, I am quite familiar with women
who are too busy to date. And while I'm in no position to tell you that you're not
busy, I am here to tell you that there is a simple way to ensure that you have an active love life,
even if you work 50 hours a week and even if you feel like it's impossible. Stick around.
I'm Evan Marc Katz, dating coach for smart, strong, successful women and your personal
trainer for love. Welcome to the Love U podcast. Keep listening to learn how
to date if you're super busy. When we're done, I'll let you know how you could apply to Love U
to create a passionate relationship that makes you feel safe, heard and understood.
So, you're a busy woman. There's no denying it, not trying to talk you out of it, not trying to
minimize the life that you've built for yourself. I'm not going to stand here and tell you that you
should quit your day job to find love, that you should stop working out to find love,
or you should hire a nanny to take care of your kids while you go on Tinder. That is not
the point of this video. What I will tell you was that I wasn't lying to you at the top of
this video, OK? Everything is possible if you prioritize it and make it important to you. It all
depends on what you value most and what's going to get you the most happiness in the long run.
Most people stop dating not just because they don't have time, but because they actually hate
dating. Let me know if that rings a bell for you. If working makes you money, working out keeps you
fit, and reading a book helps you relax, what does dating do except disappoint you, frustrate you,
and depress you? It's usually not that there's no time for dating, it's that you have limited time.
And if you have a limited time, you always find something that you like to do better. I get that.
But what's the result of that? You take years on guy-iatus, a term that my sister made up.
It means taking a break from guys. You go on guy-iatus, you fill up your life with more work,
more friends, more hobbies, more distractions from the emptiness inside. One day you look around
at your life, maybe during quarantine and you say, “This isn't what I dreamed about.” And so,
all I'm asking you to do today is to be a long-term rather than a short-term thinker.
Is it more fun to spend money than to save money? Sure. But if you don't save any money, you'll
never be able to retire. Is it more fun to binge watch something on Netflix? Sure. But if you keep
doing that for a few hours every night, you are consigning yourself to being alone indefinitely.
Here's what I tell women who are in Love U when they reach week seven, which is the time that we
start to talk about online dating. It's really simple. I'm giving it to you for free. You go
to your calendar, mark off a half hour every day for online dating, like an appointment. That's it.
Doesn't matter if it's in the morning, if it's at lunch, if it's right before you go to bed.
What matters is that you're creating a dating practice the same as you have a morning
routine, a night time routine, a workout routine, or a meditation practice. You don't miss your big
team meeting at work on Mondays and you don't miss an appointment with your OBGYN once a year.
And don't miss your appointment with the place that you're going to go meet your future husband.
It's an appointment that's important. If you can't give love a half hour a day,
what that tells me is that you don't want it bad enough
to find love and that you're perfectly content being alone because it's easier, which is OK. But,
if you're willing to give love a half hour a day, the same way you give work 10 hours a day,
you are poised to transform your love life with consistency.
Now, if you're saying, “OK, I'm willing to give that time, but I don’t know what to do”,
well, that's what Love U is for. Click on the link below. Apply to Love U. I will take
care of you. It isn’t that hard. Thanks. I’m Evan Marc Katz. Thank you for tuning
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