one of the biggest things that I hear from my clients is that they just want to know that
they mattered in that relationship so once you go through a breakup the hardest thing for them to
really process is that the time that they spent with that person didn't really mean anything so
they want to get even right and and what they really want to know is if their ex missed them
so they asked me how to make their ex missed them and I'm like you know I don't really like playing
those type of games but I can understand why you want to kind of get even especially
if the relationship lasted a while if it was something that you know you really felt like
you had a deep connection with that person so in today's video I'm going to give you
the tips that I usually give my clients which is five ways to make your ex miss you [Music]
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the newest coaching content in today's video we're going to talk about five ways to make your ex miss
you and I don't want to do this in a manipulative way if anything I want to give you guys these tips
so you can boost your self-esteem a little bit because once you get broken up with you really get
hit you know your confidence level just plummets if it was someone that left you for someone else
or if it was a breakup that was really abrupt and you really just can't handle not knowing
what this person's doing so I'm going to give you guys those five tips now it's important to
know that these tips will only work if the person has just a little bit of Attraction for you left
right now if it was a relationship where they have uh the relationship had just was very unhealthy
if it ran its core so if their attraction for you has plummeted I don't care how many of these tips
you use they won't work right so you have to make sure that this person is still actually somewhat
attracted to you if you were someone that got out of shape if you you know live together and it was
just a really unhealthy environment and you were butting heads all the time and guess what
they probably won't miss you they're probably like good riddance after this breakup but if
it was something that was a healthy Dynamic and you know you felt like this was still there was
still something left in a tank then these are the five tips number one is you want to actually give
them the breakup I know you've heard this so many times from so many different people but you really
want to do that you want to give them a breakup and not only just give it to them you want to do
it as quickly as possible I know it's going to be hard because usually when people come to my
videos and they feel like I've already messed up I didn't give them the breakup right away I
fought I begged I bargained but still it's never too late to do what you should have done to begin
with which is give them that breakup because it makes them feel like you actually heard them you
actually understand where they're coming from and it really kind of boosts your attraction level
and the reason why is because it puts them on like the defense because if they broke up with you and
they see that you're doing okay it's gonna make them question wait why why does it just give me
the breakup and if it was someone that has been used to breaking up with people in the past and
you actually give it to them right away you're going to be doing something that no one else
in the past have done whenever I suggest this to my clients and they actually do it you know
that's when they start to see that their ex are checking their social media they're starting to
inquire about them through their friends and family they reach out to them after a certain
amount of time when they felt like they had their freedom they went out and did their own thing
and I know in the comments section of people are going to say well you don't want to actually take
that person back if they're out here and they're doing this and that but who cares you know let's
be honest here you don't belong to anyone no one is your property give them that breakup let them
do what they're going to do and that's number one number two stay consistent with your social media
I've worked with a couple clients that um actually really switch up their social media posting so
if there was someone that was constantly posting positive quotes or if they're constantly posting
funny things now you don't want to all of a sudden start posting breakup quotes and you
know different things that kind of tip off that you're not feeling in your right mindset you want
to continue to post the way that you normally post and the words come to worse it's not a bad default
to just completely go ghost on social media but if you feel like there's something that's going
to tip that person off and you don't want to show your hand keep posting at the regular consistent
rate that you were posting before you also don't want to go hyper posting either after you guys
have broken up because then they're going to also know something's going on you know and I've had
guys in the past that actually start stepping up their posting patterns and posting them going out
and I'm doing this and doing that with a bunch of different people and actually trying to make
their ex jealous and that will always backfire in your face if you want to make them miss you that's
going to make them resent you that's going to make them feel like you're just disgusting in their
eyes and if and if they had any type of you know feelings left for you it's going to make them feel
some type of it's going to make them angry with you and guess what that's when you see yourself
getting unfriended and blocked or deleted or whatever else is going to happen but that's what
you really don't want to do you want to make sure that you are staying consistent with your posting
and if you are if you're struggling to know what the right balance is reach out to a coach reach
out to me and ask me what do I think you should do I've seen it happen a lot of times number three
you want to level up and actually show that off on social media if it were someone that actually
posted once a day twice a day you know if you were someone that was posting workout videos or
business things that were going on keep that same Pace keep that same energy because What attracted
them to you in the first place is what they're going to start to miss if you continue to do it
at that consistency but if you actually start doubling down that's not healthy keep going at
the same Pace it's almost like hey you were with me while I was on this journey and you decided to
exit my life I'm still going at that same speed that same tempo and then they know they're going
to know where Homes at right they're going to know where home is at they're going to come
back to your page or whatever they're going to do you know kind of stock on you a little bit and
you got to keep doing at the same pace and that's number three you want to level up
lose the weight that they complained about post that new job promotion that you got you know
get the engagement from people on your friends and your family about you know what what's going on in
your life as far as that and that's what I really mean about level up on social media show that
you're living a happy and fulfilled life if you guys aren't friends so be it let their friends and
family see it and number four is get active you don't have to show that part off on social media
but if you get active you get those endorphins going it's going to put you in a much healthier
headspace and it's going to show up in every aspect of your life it's going to show up in your
work life it's going to show up on social media they're going to see that they're gonna they're
gonna see that you're not the person that they left many times when people leave you it's because
you've changed and you may have gotten depressed or you may have gotten complacent so if you show
that aspect of yourself off it's going to make them want to come back and just kind of inquire
about what's going on you know how you're doing where you're at now I left you at a state that
I felt like you had lost yourself but now this is the person that I was attracted to to begin with
and the final tip number five is to become unavailable and become real short with them
and why do I say that it's because essentially what happened and this doesn't matter you know
I don't care what attachment style this is this goes all across attachment I don't care if you
want to avoid it or if you're anxious or whatever they are you become unavailable to them and you
show that you have value to your time your time is valuable to you right and they downgraded their
subscription they had the the premium version of Netflix they don't have it anymore now they
get the trial again now they have to inquire about your life through social media or through friends
become unavailable if they text you don't be mean don't be Curt but just be short be busy
be someone that they knew that they messed up with because they had this unlimited access to
you you send funny memes funny stories about your day and all of a sudden that's not there anymore
now those are my five tips I hope it's not too generic for you guys but on this channel we focus
mainly on attachment Styles and I can tell you all across the board if they're dismissive if they're
anxious the time frame may be different but that's exactly how it usually plays out and that's what
essentially makes them miss you so if you found this video of any value please like comment and
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