Approaching girls with confidence is one of those foundational skills you not only need
to have ingrained in you, but you also have to be able to summon it at will, the same
way I can summon lightning from the sky.
I don’t wanna waste too much time bullshitting, but when it comes to successfully approaching
girls with confidence, it comes down to two things.
The first, and perhaps the most important part is making sure that you approach directly
or from a non awkward angle.
A lot of guys do the weird side approach where they only half commit to approaching the girl
because they’re nervouse as fuck, so what they end up doing is approaching from her
side on an awkward angle and will talk in a voice that’s so low, that the girl can
barely hear what you’re saying.
You know what I’m talking about, when you do the half committed creep side approach
and basically whisper to the girl, “Hey what’s your name”
Does this sound or look like a confident approach?
Absofuckinglutely not!
This type of approach is worse than not approaching because it shows the girl that you lack confidence,
you hesitate, and you can’t commit to an interaction which are all unattractive traits.
Before you make an approach, you have to commit, and there are only two options.
You can either fully commit and approach the girl 100% with full confidence and no hesitation.
OR, you can approach her like a little bitch and do that shit where you half-commit and
get the results of only half-committing, which is a really awkward and bumpy interaction
that goes nowhere and weirds her out.
What you’re really doing when you behave like this is you’re rejecting yourself,
you’re making it blatantly obvious to the girl that you’re not willing or serious
enough about your results with her, to man up and approach her the way you should.
If you don’t believe that you’re worthy of approaching her and can’t muster up the
courage to do it properly, she’s not gonna believe that you are worthy or deserving to
talk to her either.
It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
This is why in game, the most important person you have to convince to like you, is yourself.
You have to have a strong foundation of confidence and belief in your value to yourself and the
world, to invite others to join in on that value you have to give them.
The second thing that’s massively important, is called Congruence.
Congruence is something that separates beginners from advanced guys.
By congruence, I basically mean that you need to say what you mean, and mean what you say.
One of the biggest beginner mistakes I see is from guys who try to memorize things to
say to the girl, and what ends up happening is they start regurgitating what they saw
other guys do, hoping it will work, but surprise, surprise, it doesn’t.
The reason it doesn’t work is because if the lines aren’t authentic to you, then
they come off as inauthentic and incongruent.
Congruence means that your actions and words are in harmony, basically, that they match
up and make sense.
Just like in geometry class, all your shapes and angles and shit need to be congruent..
Ya know what I mean?
And when having sex, your caveman stick and her pouch need to be congruent if they’re
gonna fit correctly hahah OK now I’m just getting carried away.
If you go up to a girl and deliver the smoothest most badass James Bond pickup line but you
approach her from the side, and say it in a low unconfident voice, and are too nervous
and scared to approach her directly from the front in a loud and confident tone, then no
matter what you say to her, she’s not gonna be into it.
This is why congruence is massively important for displaying your confidence, but more importantly,
it’s crucial for making the girl feel comfortable with you.
If your actions, words, and behavior are incongruent, she’s gonna get the sense that something
is off and it’s gonna put her in defense mode since what you’re telling her and what
you’re saying don’t add up.
It’s confusing, and when people get confused, they’d much rather remove themselves from
a confusing situation as opposed to waste time getting to the bottom of it, especially
if it’s with a stranger that they just met.
The last thing you want to do is put a girl into defense mode because then you’re basically
guaranteeing that she’s going to feel uncomfortable around you and won’t be interested.
And like I always say, you don’t want to make girls feel uncomfortable because that’s
a douchey thing to do.
This is another benefit of learning how to properly meet and date girls because you’ll
learn how to respectfully pickup girls, without being a douche and making them feel uncomfortable
in any way.
And that my Based-muthafuckin-lympians, is it.
To summarize, you want to make sure your approaches are direct, committed, and carried out with
congruence.
If you do the bullshit side half approach, and are lacking congruence, you’re shooting
yourself in the foot and guaranteeing that it’s not going to work.
And if I see any of those bullshit half approaches from any of my subscribers, then you can be
damn sure that I’m gonna strike you down with lightning.
Remember, I’m always watching you…