We tried to not spend too much money on it.
In a small circle, how did you work out the dress and such?
Hey guys and girls it's Cathy Cat. Today we're gonna present another street interview from the streets
of Japan coming out to you. Marriage in Japan is changing and we met
a freshly married couple here in Japan and asked them what it's really like
to be married in Japan nowadays. Compared to the older days it might be different.
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So let's go and Ask Japanese newly wed couples.
Since I got newly weds here, we will do a special video with you. I wanna ask you
a lot of things about your marriage. How long have you been married? - Almost 2 years.
How long did you date before you married? - 2 years.
We dated for 2 years, but in the first year,
I proposed to her already. - So you didn't want that one to get away. - Yeah.
You wanted to keep protecting her. - Yeah. - What made you want to propose to her?
I dated her with the intention of marrying her.
How about you? - I thought... if it was this boy...
I would have a secure future. I thought that when we were dating.
He actually proposed to me twice.
The first time, the engagement ring wasn't done yet.
He took me to a beautiful mountain in the countryside.
And there he had a flower arrangement...
and proposed to me during a full moon. That's when I knew
Wow that's super romantic. - It was!
Way to go! - Yeah. - And the second proposal? - The 2nd time...
I had the ring ready and reserved an Italian restaurant in a hotel.
It was a place with a really romantic night view of the city.
I had a surprise ready for that dinner.
I had a message written for her on the cake. I proposed with the cake and the ring.
Wow what was written on the cake? - My proposal in English. Will you marry me? - Yes
You understood that straight away. - Oh yeah I did.
I didn't want him to get away either so I said "yes let's marry."
What reaction did she give you? - She smiled. I was expecting her to cry with joy.
She smiled instead. - I said thanks and lets marry.
What type of ceremony did you select? - Truth is...
we only had the wedding ceremony recently... last month
Wow that's super recent. Why? - We had a lot of issues to it stretched until last month.
We invited the family and only the closest of our friends.
We actually just interviewed Japanese wives of the last generation...
The two had a really expensive wedding ceremony...
but recently small ceremonies seem to be a thing.
They said that recently young couples can't afford the ceremony
how was yours? - Ours was small in comparison.
But it still felt really expensive.
We tried not to spend so much money on it.
In a small circle, how did you do the dress and all?
I wore a normal dress and a colorful dress.
I made the ring-pillow by hand.
We also made the decorations ourselves.
What's a normal dress to you?
You mean a white dress? - Yes a wedding dress for the ceremony...
and then a different dress for the party. - You changed? - Yes into a new color.
Did you celebrate at home?
We celebrated at a local wedding event space.
You didn't pick the Japanese wedding style? - Ours was western.
I didn't even get changed
I didn't sit around either. I went to visit everyone at their tables.
I didn't do the conventional stiff party style.
I wanted to do a more free wedding. - Meeting friends and such.
Yeah like that. -What's tough about a Japanese marriage in Japan?
It's hard to find wedding event spaces that give you more freedom.
Those wedding event spaces have set plans to select
and you have to do what it says on them.
There were some things we didn't need but could not opt out of.
There are some things in those plans that just add up money.
So the wedding MC can usher people to the next event. - Yes like that.
What did you not need in your plan. - I didn't need some MC to talk
There was also an option where a cameraman takes a video and edits it
and then shows it right at the end. I didn't need that and opted out.
Also fresh flowers in the room can be very expensive.
That's just a waste of money
they just get thrown out afterwards. - What did you want then?
Anything you really wanted for your ceremony?
Anything you did not want to opt out. - Our profile movie.
they play it at the ending. Pictures of our childhood...
and memories of our past. I wanted that movie. It was super expensive though.
So the wedding place made it for you? - Yes professionals made it for us.
That's super nice. So the wedding area does that too?
Yes they do that. People who are skilled can do it themselves too though.
We didn't know how to, so we paid for it.
You are married now, have done the ceremony too...
what was hard before and after marriage?
What was hard before? - We were in a long distance relationship.
We could not meet much. That was tough. - How far away?
It was about 9-10 hours by night bus to Tokyo.
That's quite far away. - Yes and my work
... I was full time so I could only go on connected holidays.
I couldn't get that many days off in the first place. - How often a month?
Once a month? - Once if I was lucky.
Yeah. - What's the hardest about long distance?
It's expensive and you get lonely. - That's right.
I missed him so much.
Right now you're living together in harmony. What's tough now?
When you're married you have to focus on the same things
and walk the path together... it's difficult
We have to think of our future...
things like that we have to do together and we might have different views...
and that makes it difficult to live together. - And you?
We are in a long distance relationship for a long time. Living together...
things like his clothes lying on the floor and such...
I can't just ignore right now anymore...
Things I didn't see before, I am seeing now and that causes fights.
And troubles. - Both of you
are seem to be doing well though. What's your advice for a happy relationship?
If there's a fight, resolve it on the same day.
Don't drag it on. - Finish it on the day.
Don't let a fight drag on, and ask for the other's reasons.
Talk about it, even if it's late at night. Sort it out.
We both try that. - Whose idea was that?
My husbands. - Mine. - What are you careful about?
I try to endure some things...
What do you both want to do the most now? - Well..
we both want to go on a Woking Holiday Visa abroad. - NICE!
Where do you want to go to? - Australia is what we aim for.
We both want to go there. - Why Working Holiday in Australia?
We both work in the coffee industry. In Australia...
we can learn English, and more about Coffee...
so we could connect that both. - Nice idea.
If that would work out that would be great. - Yeah...
We will! - Has it already been decided? - Yes we go next year or the year after.
Then go have fun! - We will! - Those were all questions. Thanks so much.
So marriage nowadays in Japan has changed, the boy will help the wife
as well with things around the house, which we're happy to hear.
However money for young couples is an issue. So there wasn't enough money (and time) for the first ring
and later with the second proposal there was enough money for the ring
so the proposal happened twice. Money is an issue not only for the rings but also for
the wedding parties. Weddings in Japan are incredibly expensive and
a modern wedding is quite rare, it seems to be a system that's actually quite
planned and it's really hard to tell the wedding planner that you don't need all of that and you
can actually take things off. Seems to be harder than I though. "GAMAN" endurance
is a word that I hear a lot when people talk about a marriage in Japan. Meaning sometimes
you'll have to swallow your emotions in order to make the whole of the family happy
And these two have big plans, they travel together and see the world so
I am excited to see how that will go. How is that in your country. Have wedding changed
in recent years, if so how, let us know in the comments down below. Looking forward to reading it.
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