She's so sweet
Love
Seems like everybody has their own definition for it right some people love their the cat's their dogs their cars their shoes
Some people love their husbands some people love sex
One thing's for sure is that everybody wants to be loved, but not many people are good at it, but the question still remains
What the hell is it see the truth is we have forgotten
What real love is our ideas about love come from storybooks romantic comedies?
popular songs and Facebook memes
right and they all show this type of fuzzy romantic type of love and
As you are aware in your own life these ideas have led to more anxiety and pain
Than true pleasure and happiness the reason being is because these ideas in themselves are flawed
They are based on ownership and selfishness you
Are my bait my boo my sweetheart? I love you, but only if you with me
that's a
Possessive type of love all right, that's a that's a love with strings attached. That's an impure
Type of love ask yourself this question who do you hate? It's probably somebody you used to love right?
See a large percentage of murders are actually done out of crimes of passion
Couples that once held hands now
They hold guns to each other's hands out of jealousy and obsession couples that once shared tender kisses now
They share hatred for one another how can that be how can how can love ever turn to hate in a single instant?
What's that love?
My answer is no it wasn't love it was compulsive
Attachment scientists have actually observed that the exact same part of your brain that
Activates when you're in love is the exact same that activates when you're high on cocaine
So the cycles of pain and pleasure that a lot of go through in the in a relationship makes us feel alive
But so does Heroin, right?
That's not love. That's attachment. That's addiction and that's clear so what is love
Well I believe that
Everybody especially if you're in a personal relationship with somebody you should strive towards a higher form of love, it's about time
We grow up. You know the idea that one man or one woman will satisfy all of your needs and selfish and unfair
Thinking somebody can fix you or that you can fix somebody else. It's just plain wrong
See love is an inside job
In order to love others. We have to first love ourselves
We have to mature in a way that we can take care of our own emotional needs. We can help ourselves
And that way we accept the flaws in our partners because we have already accepted the flaws
In ourselves we're not caught up in fixing everything anymore because fixing implies that something is wrong
You want to fix your partner?
You don't love them for who they are you love them for what you think they can be?
And that's wrong that's selfish you have to accept happily where you are in your life and know that you can improve in the future
Once you do that you can give your partner that same respect
There's no more anger or controlling clinginess in this type of love. There's a relaxed acceptance
There's kindness. There's tenderness. There's vulnerability
There's no more falling in love you allow yourself to be open enough to let love fall into you
So in essence you become an instrument of love
And you no longer care if you even get it back or not
That's just who you are you just love you're an instrument of love
So to conclude. I don't know if soul mates exist or not
But I do know just by the very nature of that word that phrase
Soulmate you have to be a soul in order to realize this and when you are reflecting your true self your true soul
You no longer reflect the anger
Pain your past failures or your ego
that's what love can blossom because the soul's only expression is pure love and
I think when two people when two souls come to this understanding
That's rare. That's beautiful, and that's something that we should all strive towards
So we're to the wise
If you don't know how to love
You will inevitably destroy it
Because it's like trying to be a master carpenter. If you don't know how to use the tools chances are
You cut your hand
Love peace