- Do you guys know what FOMO is?
- [Audience] Fear of missing out.
- Perfect.
I really only get FOMO about
what other people order at a restaurant.
I do, my friends call me the seagull.
I'm like, (Drew does seagull impression)
I really do, I always wanna eat what everybody else has.
But a recent study from "Psychological Reports"
found a direct link between
the time spent on Instagram and FOMO.
I mean, that makes perfect sense.
And there's a whole new generation, you know,
that's really kind of dealing and grappling
with the emotional toll of that.
So what can we do about it?
My next guest is here to tell us about
the concept of JOMO, or, yeah,
the joy of missing out,
which I think I can get into, 'cause I'm a total shut-in.
Please welcome author, podcaster and purpose coach,
the great Jay Shetty.
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- Hello, it's so wonderful to meet you.
- Oh my God, I totally have to admit
I watch you all the time on all these other shows
and I can't believe you're actually on this one.
This is so exciting. - Oh I'm so grateful
to be here, I'm so grateful and excited,
thanks for having me.
- Well, Thank you for being on the show.
Will you please tell us what JOMO is?
- Yeah, so Drew as you mentioned
JOMO is a well know as the Joy Of Missing Out.
And psychologists and coaches see this as a powerful mindset
that helps us find peace and connection in our own lives
as oppose to feeling the anxiety and pressure
that we should be somewhere else or be doing something else.
- I mean, you have a concept called TIME, right?
Will you explain that to me, I know what it stands for
but will you please tell everybody?
- Yeah so, if we want to experience the joy of missing out
there are four daily practices
that each and everyone of us can do
and it comes in the form of the acronym TIME,
So T-I-M-E.
The T stands for thankfulness.
Not just feeling thanks, not just experiencing it
but expressing it.
Finding one person a day to say thanks to
makes us realize the joy that we already have in our lives.
The second thing is I for inspiration.
If you're learning everyday,
whether it's about a new city,
whether it's about new food or whether it's a new word.
When you feel you're learning and growing
you start to feel inspiration
and you don't look for the validation of others as much.
The third one is, of course M,
and that stands for meditation.
Now I know meditation can be quite daunting and difficult,
but it's as simple as finding one thing
that you can do with yourself every day.
It could be tea, it could be reading your favorite book.
Just finding some time to spend with yourself.
And the fourth one is exercise.
Now this doesn't just mean tread mills and gyms,
it can be a dance party, it can be moving out doors,
it can be your favorite sport.
But if you can make time every day
for thankfulness, inspiration, meditation and exercise
you'll experience the joy of your own company
and being in a space of calm with yourself.
- So, when I talked to our news crew this morning
about the TIME concept that you have, I thought
I am a thankful person,
I'm gonna have like death by inspo
'cause it's just coming out of every orifice,
I mean really, it's like, it's too much already sometimes.
It's gonna say it on my headstone, like
"Death by inspo."
'Cause I'm just like, "I love everything!"
And exercise I'm on it, the meditation part
is something that I wish that I could really bring
to my life.
And the way you just spoke about it, made me feel like
maybe I should be a little less hard on myself.
Which is like a whole other subject,
we need like and entire empower hour.
- We'll do that another time. - Yeah, no
like we need the empower hour with Jay Shetty
'cause I need to, you know, I'm working on that.
But meditation is something that I think
really intimidates people.
I think we think if we're not getting really quiet
and carving out this time,
which a lot of us can not find,
even five minutes, especially as parents,
and working and all of that.
You mentioned that reading a book
or doing an action like making yourself a tea,
can that be a form of meditation?
- Absolutely, it's just about being really present
with whatever activity or habit you're doing.
So, it's smell the tea, breath it in,
listen to it as you stir it,
really sip it and feel every flavor.
It's a great way of practicing presence.
- Well, I think that's a great way also
to show people that they can bring it into their lives,
acknowledge the moment and not feel bad that they're not
going away for twenty minutes and like,
going out into the ether.
- Exactly.
- Is there anything silly for JOMO,
like you know, goofy times?
- I have this confession Drew, that I wanna share with you
because this definitely gets me through sometimes.
I love soccer and basketball video games.
So, that's something that I will miss out on anything for,
if I can get away with a couple of games
of soccer or basketball on my PlayStation.
- So the key is, find your JOMO.
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