The brain is just the strange thing.
I have zero dreams I had a dream
About my exes. I was being attacked
by a crocodile the other night.
About what?
I got attacked by a crocodile.
(laughs) But were you having sex with the croc?
Yes, that's why it attacked me. (laughs)
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"I've been on several dates with a guy
"who is extremely conservative.
"I really like him, but I am very liberal
"and find a lot of his core values confronting.
"Is it worth pursuing this relationship?"
Mm.
Core values is a big thing.
Everyone has that core set of values
that are really intrinsic to them,
and they're really important to them,
and I think, if you're always butting heads
on those core values that would be something
I guess, you'd have to really seriously think about
whether it's worth it or not, in my opinion.
There's only so much you can teach people.
You can try show them a different side of the fence,
but at the end of the day,
you don't want to be a teacher in a relationship.
You don't want to spend all your energy trying
to change someone so, yeah, depends on how big
the core values are, but for me,
probably not really worth it.
Oh this is another datey one.
So, "I was on a date, but they had really bad breath,
"but I enjoyed it a lot and want to see them again."
The bad breath or the date?
Oh yeah, I'm guessing the date.
I'm guessing the, for a second, yeah,
I was like if you're into it, go for it.
(laughs)
"How could I maybe fix this bad breath issue?"
So bad breath is called halitosis, first of all,
and it can be due to a lot of reasons, actually.
But the main reason is poor oral hygiene.
Like, that's such a tough one.
That's practically how you've fixed it,
but how do you go about approaching them
Emotional, yeah. and it not being emotionally,
how do you emotionally fix their bad breath?
Oh I know, you take some gum
and then be like would you like some?
And then they.
Make out with them, and then put it in their mouth.
Like feeding a baby bird like, ah.
(laughs)
Oh, oh.
"Whenever I want to work out my abs, I get constipated.
"I want to get toned abs,
"but I also want to enjoy good poos."
(laughs) I hear you sister.
That so unprofessional, I'm so sorry.
What do I do?
Whenever I work out my abs I get constipated?
What is the relation here?
I don't know that there's a huge correlation.
The reasons that you would get constipated, yeah,
if you don't have enough fibre in your diet,
if you're not drinking enough water,
if you're dehydrated,
so maybe think about those things,
and maybe you'll find it's not actually to do
with working out your abs, but there's a bigger issue.
That's what I would say.
"I'm seeing this guy, and things are getting serious.
"I really like him, but he is emotionally unavailable.
"He never talks about his feelings.
"Should I pursue a relationship with him,
"or is it not worth it?"
This is my question.
Okay, go for it, sister.
So what I would do is I would sit down with this guy,
express my concerns, be like "Hey, I feel as though
"you're closed off, and I'm not really getting
"what I need from you in the way of your feelings
"and your emotions and where your head is at."
But if he's not willing to, one,
admit that he has this problem or want to talk about it
at all or communicate with you,
then, just like onto the next.
You can find a guy that has those life skills
that you need 'cause at the end of the day
you don't want to spend your whole relationship
teaching a guy how to behave and what you need.
You know, just find someone
who already has kind of what you need.
Agreed? (laughs) Agreed. (laughs)
Okay, "I get really sweaty when I'm nervous,
"and I want to get out into the dating scene again,
"but don't wanna turn into a sweaty mess."
"Is there anything I can do,
"and why am I sweating so much?"
(laughs) Elliott.
(bubble pops) Hit up Elliott.
It's completely normal to get sweaty when you're nervous.
It's part of a sympathetic response of your body.
So you can do little things
like take some wipes or wear deodorant.
Or on a bigger scale, if it's really debilitating you,
you're really self conscious about it,
you can get Botox injections,
you can get ligation in certain nerves,
and so have a chat to your GP
if you find that little tricks aren't working for you.
Or just move to New Zealand, it's kind of cold.
Oh no, we already live here. Move to Antarctica.
Alright, truly in Argentina.
So, "I just started seeing someone new
"but am still having sex dreams about my ex.
"What do I do?
"Does this mean anything?"
Do you still have sex dreams about your ex?
It's happened, but does it happen every night?
No, but it's happened at least once.
Would you say the same?
Like, I think the brain is just a strange thing.
I have zero dreams I had a dream
about my exes. I was being attacked
by a crocodile the other night.
About what?
I got attacked by a crocodile.
(laughs) But were you having sex with the croc?
Yes, that's why it attacked me.
(laughs) Got attacked by a crocodile the other night.
You can't control your dreams in the end.
So it's not your fault, do not worry.
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