Hey guys, it's Hillary welcome back to my channel enneagram and coaching. I'm your certified enneagram life coach
And today we are going to be talking about the subtypes of the type 9
So yes
You guys have been requesting this video for a long time. I know i've seen your comments
And i've been prepping for this series and so we are going to start with the type 9 today
But don't forget to push subscribe because this is a series and i'm going to go through all the types and teach you guys
All about the subtypes of all 9 types. And then also if you like this video don't forget to give it a thumbs up
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It lets me know that you guys want more and that you love me teaching the enneagram on this platform
So let's get started guys the first thing I want to start with
Is learning your type is super important
So if you haven't learned your type yet
You might want to learn your type before you start to learn about subtypes
and if you're coming to me today knowing your type well
Then this is the next step the next step after learning your type would be learning your subtypes
So let's start with what are subtypes? Well, everybody has these there's three of them and they are the basic survival instincts that really
You learn as a child and the three instincts are called the self-preservation
instinct
The social instinct and the sexual instinct but and that one also can be known as the one-to-one instinct. So those are the three
Instincts and to be honest, we have all three right? These are basic survival instincts
So you do have all three but one is dominant and this would be called your subtype
And so that's why that's where we get the word subtype from
so for example, i'm a type 9 and my subtype is social so I want to go a little deeper into what is
Self-preservation. What does that mean? What is social? What does that mean? And what is the sexual and what does that mean?
so the first instinct is
Self-preservation and you will also see this
By somebody's type, um as an sp
So that's how you know, their dominant instinct is a self-preservation
Instinct and what does this mean? Well, their first instinct is do they have enough food?
money, resources,
Time, clothes, they have a need to avoid danger like these this is their first instinct is the self-preservation
Instinct. Okay. So moving on to the social instinct which the letters for this one is s o
and
Apparently luke wants to be in here with us, but it's fine for the social instinct community is very important to them
They're super aware of other people they walk in a room. They can kind of feel where everybody's at
they're very aware of what's going on and how people
feel and what they need and that type of thing and they want to have a positive impact with everybody they kind of like
Get along with the herd they have that herd mentality and it's the social instinct
The third one is the sexual instinct
Which is also known as the one to one and the letters for that one would be
SX this one is the most energized instinct out of all three of them
And they're gonna really want an intimate bond with one person
So where you have that social they're they're feeling everybody the the sexual is more about the one-on-one bond
And it's not like it's not like oh, I gotta find my soulmate connection
Um partner that way because like every type is gonna have that kind of instinct. They just it's just that intimate bond
they have a drive for intimacy with the one person at a time and the way you can think about this is is
In morgan cron says like if you were to walk in a room or like a party, what is your first instinct?
Is it like? Okay what's going on in the kitchen? Is there enough food?
It's like that environmental instinct like the needs being taken care of. What's the temperature in the room?
Um, is it comfortable that type of thing would be your self-preservation instinct?
The next one would be social instinct, which is how how is everybody in the room doing?
like that's my first instinct is to be like
How is everybody feeling I can feel the room out and and kind of want to almost like um, instinctively?
Uh be there for everybody in the room. Make sure everyone's having a good time
The third one is the sexual or the one-to-one instinct and they're more likely to go to one person in the room
They're to merge they're going to want to they're going to go towards that one person and start talking to one person versus
the whole group or what or the environment so
Does that make sense?
Uh, I really liked it. When I heard ian morgan kron describe it that way it made a lot of sense to me
So I hope it does to you guys too
Okay, so that those three that was such a basic description of all three of them and to be honest. I
Just wanted to give you a basic description of the three instincts because in today's video we're gonna go through the type nines
Three instincts, you know, which gives them their subtype and to be honest
It's really important that you figure out your dominant instinct and then learn about the other two and what they say is one is dominant
one you use a little bit and one your is kind of like a blind instinct that you
Haven't used or haven't really needed to use and the way we like to teach it is we really want to bring all three
into balance because all three instincts are important and we need to use them and what's one of the greatest things about learning your
Dominant instinct. Well, it's gonna tell you it's gonna help you understand like why do things bother me? Why do things trigger me?
Why does that make me happy? Why do I really need to take care of that at first?
You know
It's like it's gonna help you understand yourself even better than knowing your type
Does and so that's a great piece to finding out your dominant subtype
And then the next piece is your relationships will be easier right if you learn your own instinct, and then learn other people's instinct
It'll really help you
So for me personally
My instinct is social i'm a nine wing eight with the subtype social
And knowing my instinct one helps me to know why it bothers me. If other people don't have that same first instinct
Um and two release other people from needing from me thinking they should have that instinct
Like that's the right instinct because it's not right. They're all three important. So
knowing each other's instinct gives us a greater appreciation for each other and it helps me like if I like
my kids have different instincts than me and it helps me understand like
There's a reason why they're not always like how is everybody doing in the room? That's just not their first instinct
So it just helps us have more grace and understanding for each other. So the bottom line is
Learn your own and then also learn what other people's instincts are. Okay. I've just covered a ton of stuff
So let's move on and actually start to dig in the type nine subtypes. Okay, so let's start with the sp
This subtype seeks a sense of well-being
Through comfort they like comfort food. They like comfortable things. Maybe clothes blankets familiar routines
This is the self-preservation
Nine, they usually are the ones that are going about life at their own pace. They're extremely patient
They have a ton of common sense. They don't like having their routines or lifestyles change
So and actually I can relate to this instinct a ton every day
After the end of my day, I work from home and i'm in my office a lot
But when i'm done I am done, I literally go upstairs put comfy clothes on get a comfy blanket
Even though I live in arizona and it's super hot. I
Like love blankets, and I love comfy things. And so I definitely even though
The social is my dominant. I I can relate to this instinct a ton. Okay
So let's move on to the social subtype, which is the s o this subtype is the social glue in organizations
groups
Families. I know I definitely play a big role in our family being the glue that holds things together holds people together
they really want everyone to feel like they belong and and that's super important to the
Social nine an example would be all my friends
They kind of tell me they like to say that i'm a gatherer because I love to gather groups together
I love to make sure everyone feels like they belong they have some place to be
They're seeing they're heard, you know
That's that kind of plays into me being a social nine and they call me the gatherer
And so yeah, they just wanna make sure everybody you know belongs but here's the crazy part the social nine
They never actually feel like they belong in
Which is true, I feel like they kind of hold themselves apart, even though like they're the glue that holds everyone together
There's something in them that never feels like they fully fit in and the last thing I would say about the social
Nine, they are the nine that is more outgoing and cheerful
They can resemble a type three or type seven I get that a lot and to be honest
the reason is is because the social nine is actually called a counter type and
I haven't explained this yet, but every type has a counter type and it's the type
That doesn't look like you would think the type looks like right
There's a lot of stereotypes out there, especially of the nine and I actually don't always fit that mold
But at the core of me the core fears desires weaknesses
longings
Those are mine. So I know that I am definitely a nine and I can relate to everything else
For the most part, but I don't always come across as a nine
And that is because i'm a social nine and we can resemble a three or a seven
At times and like I said, it's called the counter type
Every single type has a counter type and as I teach the subtypes i'll let you know each time
Which one is the counter type? Okay
So let's move on to the last one, which is the type nine sexual subtype, which is the sx
So this subtype they find their sense of well-being by merging with somebody or something
and so the nine will merge with people in order to kind of like
I don't know figure out their own identity
I don't I don't even think it helps them figure out their own identity
But they merge with somebody else's and can kind of become
A little bit of their identity if that makes sense this subtype. They tend to be more dreamy. Shy
Gentle they have a really vivid imagination
They can get lost in like
Um, like fantasy like heroic fantasy. They can kind of get lost in that
Um, I definitely have an imagination like that, but this one would be for me
the third one that I use
And the last thing is they have a childlike aura about them and they can resemble a type four or a type six
so
I guess not to confuse you but the type nine, you know, they can actually feel like all nine types
Why because they can merge with all nine types
And so that's why I say this sexual
Subtype can resemble a four or six just because of some of these little things that i've talked about today
Okay, so that's it. Those are the three subtypes within the nine
So it's like the three instincts within the nine that are called subtypes. Does that make sense?
i'm trying so hard not to confuse you guys but
It's so important that you learn this and if you want more info, I have a great book recommendation for you this book
Can you see it? I don't know if you can see it. I will link it down below but it's the complete enneagram
27 pass to greater self knowledge and it goes through
Each of the subtypes in each type. So that's how you get 27, but it's a great book on learning
Um the subtypes more in depth and like I said, I will have a link for you down below
Uh, that'll link you right to that book. So that's all I have for you guys today. I hope that helped you
Um, don't forget to push the subscribe button because I have lots of videos coming your way. I have eight more subtypes to do
i'm gonna actually try to do
one to two of these a week
Um i'm gonna sprinkle in other videos so that I don't get so burnt out on just doing subtypes
But i'd like to get them to as fast as I can so
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First one is if you don't know your type
Or you're still struggling with your type, I offer a discover
You typing session?
It's a one hour session with me over zoom or facetime or whatever you choose and we uncover not only your type
But usually your wing and your subtype, so if you want help with that i'll link that down below
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And that's all I have guys until next time. Bye guys
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