What seems like a friendly, loving tribute to Khabib Nurmagomedov actually provides us
with such an important lesson that it has taken some people 40-50 years of their life to learn,
and you guys are gonna get it in this small video. Assalamualaikum, guys, and welcome to
another episode of Smile to Jannah. So, as you guys can see on the right, that's Khabib Nurmagomedov
when he was fighting Conor McGregor, where his hand movements indicate 'don't praise me,
praise God', or it could also be seen as 'this achievement is not from me, it is from God'. And
here we can see Erling Haaland and Jack Grealish, who play for the Manchester City Football team,
replicating this after they beat Bournemouth a few days ago 4-1, and Haaland also got a goal in there
as well. So, Haaland and Khabib Nurmagomedov have also exchanged pleasantries over social
media. Khabib has called him a beast, and Haaland has sent him a signed shirt as well. But guys,
the lesson that I want to talk about is based on these two quotes, and I really want you to
pay attention to these, yeah. So, the first one is, 'God, (it's a prayer yeh)...
'God, grant me the serenity to accept the
things that I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom
to know the difference'. If I could write this in gold, if I could paste it on my intro, that it could
be on every video I would do so, because this is a lesson that so many of us fail to understand.
The intricacies of the first two points is so vital, and the way he just seals it by saying,
'and the wisdom to know the difference', because sometimes we don't, we don't know the difference, what is in
our control, what's not in our control. And the second principle I want you to bear in mind is,
'do your best, Allah will do the rest'. So, there is a portion that's in your control,
there is a portion that is not in your control. So, what do we learn from this? He's saying, me
nothing, it's all God. It's all God. In other words, put your trust in God, in Allah. Well, the
question now arises, in which matters? Well, in everything, but to realize that we cannot control
every single thing, although the capitalistic, materialistic, individualistic society that we're
living in tries to trick us into thinking that we can. "Hey, vote, you get to decide who comes in
power and does what". "uh, but I voted for the other guy last time". "yeah, just didn't come in your
favor". We get the feeling that we are in control, we get to decide mate when our food comes, when
our deliveries come, even when you go to the shop, you decide whether you want to wait five minutes
or you don't mind waiting 20 minutes or even that shop that makes you wait 30 minutes. If you do not
realize that there are certain things that you can control and certain things that you cannot,
is going to affect your relationships, i.e. husband-wife, i.e. with your parents,
i.e. with your children, possibly even with your friends as well, because we are under the delusion
that when somebody says 'I love you', that's it, you could they're with you, you can control them,
but they have their own mind, they have their own heart, feelings change, different thoughts come in
and out of our head, and then when we're like, 'yo, after I had control of the situation, I'm
I'm gonna try and have control. Why is that person leaving? I want to send them flowers,
chocolates. I'm gonna be rational, I'm gonna give them arguments. I'm gonna convince them,
persuade them, gonna get people involved. But if it's not meant to be, my friend, then it's
not meant to be. Gave the example last time that the Prophet's Uncle Abu Talib, the Prophet gave
him dawah, but it just wasn't meant to be for him. So let me give you another example. Yeah,
your mother has fallen ill, like really bad... pain and all that. Yeah, ambulance... those guys are
taking time, mate. Yeah, because obviously maybe they don't strike or whatnot. So what's in your
control? Call an Uber, mate. Then go there, make a big deal with the doctors. However,
when your mom goes into the operating theater, it is now out of your control. Somebody shared
a clip of Bruce Lee when both walls come down, and then the guy just sits down. He just sits
down because punching a brick wall is not going to do anything. He can't get out of there. So the
best thing to do: sit down, recover, get your thoughts together. And when those walls lift,
then you can go. So it's the same when your mum's in the operating theater. Make Dua,
realize that whatever now happens is out of your control. Leave it to Allah because Allah is able
to see the picture. We are only able to see the pixel. And then when our vision of the small
pixel doesn't go according to us because we're very short-sighted, we get angry.
Why God, why you doing this to us?!
However, that thing is good for you in the long run, in this world or
the Hereafter. However, we base things upon our short-term desires and goals, but it is
Allah who sees the bigger picture, and Allah asks us to trust him. If you're a good person,
"Allah is the guardian of the righteous". If your righteous, Allah will be your guardian.
If your friend takes care of your affairs and you trust him, mate, you'll put a blindfold,
you'll say he's never let me down mate this and that. When it comes to our parents,
we trust them. If we say "mom, take our delivery", however, when it comes to Allah,
why is it?...
where's double standards coming from? So, understand and realize the difference
between the two. Alright, guys, let's leave it there until next time, Asaalamu alaikum.