my dad was watching late night tv one
night
and he came across tony robbins personal
power too and he ordered it for me this
was
1991 or something
he he ordered it for me and said john i
think this might help i had never heard
of personal development before in my
life
so i was like whatever i'll try anything
and so i listened to this this program
and it really did help a lot it's one of
the first really great courses
right so i got a little bit of a
foothold or at least i got pointed in
the right direction i mean missy helped
me through psych
couldn't yeah it was rough i could never
have ever have gotten through without
her
um but all of a sudden i'm like okay
this program sort of pointed me in the
right direction
and gave me hope that i could get back
in control of my life
and so i started doing personal
development like i discovered it so it
was wayne dyer it was deepak chopra it
was the greats you know the badasses
back then
and i kept all of my notes in a little
binder like my breakthroughs my the
challenges that i want to work on the
goals that i had best practices best
practices and
over the years this little binder just
kept growing and growing one year i
realized hey it would be great a great
idea to categorize my goals and my
breakthroughs and start keeping track of
like all the love stuff here all the
health and fitness stuff here all the
business and financial stuff here so i
broke it down and i started thinking
about
what are the most important areas of
life to focus on
in order to really get clear on the
person i want to become in the life i
want to live what do we have to master
on this planet as a couple
to move into the direction of our ideal
life and i think that's a key lesson
there john missy so if you're looking at
360 life vision you want to look at all
these categories and i'd love for you to
list the categories the 12 categories
that you looked at you guys heard
patrick grove six categories yesterday
you heard cameron harold's five
categories again notice it doesn't
matter whether it's six or seven or you
add what's important to you john had 12
right you're welcome to copy john's 12th
that's what i did um but you choose the
categories the thing is the categories
are simply meant to ensure that you're
not just obsessed with the tiny slice of
life that school says is important which
is your career and your bank account
right that's exactly right so but notice
what john said he and missy did it
together so while you are observe my
hands while you're being holistic this
way you're also being holistically this
way right you are involving you are
sharing this vision with your business
partner and your team you are sharing
this vision with your partner right for
example john and missy their visions
intertwine and by the way if you look at
the okr process remember i spoke about
how orchards are 50
up 50 down it means that when you're
coming up with okrs for a team it's
coming from the leader but it's also
coming from the team members the reason
for that is again holistic shared like
vision so keep in mind it's 360 this way
that's your life it's 360 this way
that's being inclusive of the people
within your business or your love
relationship or your family awesome
distinction
so
how to create a 360 life vision
according to our methodology
is to think through each individual
category of your life and really dial in
what it is that you want in each of them
and then you roll that up into one
singular compelling life vision and if
you're doing it as a couple it's a
really interesting process
because
for instance the first five categories
of lifebook are personal life categories
they're your health and fitness
your intellectual life your emotional
life
your character
and your spiritual life those are you
separate from the rest of the world so a
husband and wife those two categories
are going to be different her health and
fitness goals and strategies will be
different than mine
but when it comes to categories like
your love relationship
parenting your financial life you better
have the same visions or you're going to
be in trouble
so love relationship parenting financial
life you want to ensure that your
visions overlap right yeah
or are parallel shares
well our deal is is are as identical as
possible our life vision is our life
vision right and it includes my stuff
and his stuff and we yeah so we have we
have we have different
different goals and strategies in the
personal sections of our life book but
we have one life vision and we've always
had one life vision
and this is what
this is the target this is what we're
moving towards as a couple
all of our energy goes there and what's
so beautiful you guys is it's a north
star
it guides your daily choices and actions
it's a decision-making framework that
ensures that you don't go flying off
into left field and find yourself you
know two years down the road where the
hell am i how did i get here no this
keeps you on track like vishn's been
saying so many people get
you know
obsessed with a couple categories well
this makes sure that you never get too
far off
sometimes you have to make sacrifices if
you're starting a company you better be
prepared to make a few sacrifices
because that's how life goes
but using this sort of methodology you
never get too far off track without
coming back to center because you're
conscious
of all the important areas of your life
what do you got to say about that girl i
i think that was great all right i have
everything to add he's awesome
so
so this is a question for you guys on
those those categories that coincide
right
what process do you go through are you
guys going on a retreat together and
coming up with the life visions you do
it separately and then collaborate
we have three
important connection rituals the first
is our daily connection what are you
talking about this week
so our daily connection ritual is just
because we work together we work at home
but we don't always work in the same
space or on the same things so every day
after work we either take a bath
together or if weather permitting we go
out and we take a walk
and we
connect on everything that we each did
that day challenges and opportunities
this is what happens catch up and even
kid stuff whatever because i have found
that if we don't do that every single
day and a couple days go by i'm like i
don't i've lost connection with right
that's true i'm not feeling like i don't
even know what's going on with him i
don't i can't feel him i can't right you
know understand his emotional state so
that one is a mild one but it just
ensures daily connections are big ones
daily i think that one's actually very
big yeah because it ensures that we
always and then every week we um have an
overnight date this is the biggest love
relationship strategy we have this is
number one and this was hard when you
have little babies and you have kids and
but it can be done yeah it can be done
and every week for the last 30 years
we've had an overnight date no matter
where in the world we are
without the kids to ensure our love and
sex and romantic and passion life and
play play is dialed in that's the big
thing and vision we talk a lot about our
life vision on those dates that's one of
the big topics of conversation you know
always but our big our life vision trip
is usually once a year we go to a spa
somewhere or spend like two weeks
somewhere in the woods and just go deep
in our overall life vision where we're
going how did we do last year
what are we doing next year and just so
you know we are this is so cool
we're leaving here from bali we're going
home we're packing our and we're
moving to hawaii so this has been
this has been a sev
we bought this property 17 years ago and
so we work on a pretty much a five-year
our life vision is usually five years
out and what's so funny is this this
hawaii move in 2014 that was our five
year life vision and then 2015 it's like
you know what that's going to be a
four-year vision now it's a two-week
vision we're staying yeah we are
literally stepping into a brand new life
like the last 30 again
which is amazing the last 30 years have
been epic
but the next 30 years equally epic
hopefully but very very different our
whole lifestyle is going to change so
we'll let you know how that goes yeah
that's amazing
that's truly amazing
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