Are you actually gonna make me do this?
Matty: If you want to keep your audience, yeah!
This is literally the dumbest question.
Matty: Just do it.
God damn it. I hate this topic.
Welcome! I'm so excited to bring you this topic on how to make a guy jealous...
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Okay, how to make a guy jealous.
Now, even though I hate the question, there's an important concept that I do want you to take away
from it. Why do we ask it? Why do we ask ourselves this question?
Well, I think there's part of us that always wants our partner to want us and to lust after us and to crave us
and making our partner jealous is kind of a quick and short and honestly quite effective way to do that.
If you've seen this channel before, if you've had much of watch this channel,
you'll have probably seen the dating advice video, How To Spot The Best Dating Advice. I'll put the link up here
and in the description, where I talk about, oh, actually I call out a few other coaches, and I talk about good
and bad dating advice. And we talk about the importance of negative emotions.
The reality is negative emotions unfortunately are necessary. A man does need to feel some negative
emotions from time to time to make him want to keep you and keep working for you.
But this is where we get into dangerous territory because the temptation is to ask ourselves a question
like, "How do I give a guy this negative emotion? How do I make a guy jealous? How do I make a guy miss me?
How do I make my man uncertain?" And it's coming from a place within us that really just wants, wants, love.
But if we have to give our partner negative emotions, we're not going to a good place with our dating
and relationships. First of all, you're going to get into that relationship. And even if you get the guy by making him
jealous, you're going to wonder every day or month or week.
"Have I made him jealous enough this month to still want me?
Oh God, I need to make him jealous again or he's not gonna want me."
If you get into that pattern,I guarantee you'll get insecure and you will blow the guy off so quickly.
But number two, you're making the person that you supposedly "love" feel negative emotions.
Why would you ever want someone you love to experience a negative emotion?
So do men need a little jealousy and a little uncertainty to maintain their attraction for you? Yeah, they do.
So how do you make a guy feel jealous?
You don't.
You never, ever want to go in and set out to make your partner feel a negative emotion.
All negative emotions that he experiences should be secondary. They're never something you have to do.
They're only secondary of you being an awesome f^cking woman.
Anything you do, and we've talked about the importance of intent in videos before, but anything you do,
the real importance of it comes from intent. Let's say that you talk to an ex because you're friends.
That's great! You're friends, that's healthy.
Let's say you talk to an ex because you want to make your partner jealous. That's unhealthy.
Let's say you keep male friends because it's normal and socially balanced to do that. And you most importantly
like hanging out with those guys. Great! Keep doing it. The intent is brilliant.
Let's say you're hanging out with guys to make your partner jealous, you're insecure. It's not going to work.
Let's say that you keep your own hobbies and your own interests in your life.
Is that gonna make your partner a little uncertain at times?
Sure! Is it gonna make a partner maybe even a little jealous at times?
Sure, but you're not doing it to make him uncertain or jealous. You're just doing it cause it's the best you.
It's something you love, and it's part of who you are.
When you're living your best life, and when you're focused on just being the best you,
when you're focused on keeping balance and you know, balanced social circle.
When you're balancing the hobbies and interests in your life, when you're keeping other friends
and you're just out there living your own and being your own individual, you'll never have to worry about making
a man insecure or jealous or even miss you ever again.
So how do you make a guy jealous?
You don't. You'll never have to.
And any time you find yourself thinking this, use it as a trigger to go, "Okay, I could be using this time where
I'm wondering how to make him jealous to be working on myself and being the kind of woman
who makes a guy jealous only as an indirect effect."
I hope this gives you a really powerful concept. And any time you think or a friend asks you,
"How do I make him jealous? How do I make him insecure?" Go back to intent.
This is the wrong intent here. And if you go in with that intent, you're going to lose the guy and not get the result
you want every single time. Make sure that you're coming from a place of the right intent and just
being the best you.
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