You really never kissed anyone sometimes I just wish I could get it
out of the way should we just to get it over with just to get it over with and you swear we both go
right back to hating each other as soon as it's over oh totally and we never tell anyone never
Sam Puckett and Freddie Benson are two very different people Sam comes from a home life
of abuse and neglect while Freddie comes from a home life of as soon as Freddie was old enough to
toddle I had a locator chip put in his head by a questionable doctor in Venezuela you
chipped Freddie oh I chipped him because I love him an overprotective mother the effect
that these home lives had on them can be seen clearly in their personalities Sam's violent
uncaring and manipulative Freddie's studious cautious and awkward it comes as no surprise then
that these two don't get along Sam takes every opportunity she can to insult or sabotage Freddie
while Freddie does his best to stand up to Sam or get out of her way neither of which works
because of the constant bullying Sam inflicts on Freddie one could assume that the only reason the
two even consider each other friends is because of Carly you see if it wasn't for Carly I highly
doubt Freddie would be doing as much with Sam intentionally I'd even take it a step further by
saying that Sam and Freddie's relationship would have ended a lot sooner had Carly not been in
the picture don't believe me once Sam and Freddie officially start dating it doesn't take long for
them to start arguing nah every time we're alone for more than an hour we fight about something
so we want you to come with us because you always come up with smart ways for us to compromise
Carly notices and begins to realize how ill-suited they are for each other
you two should be solving your own problems not expecting me to be your 24/7 couples counselor
if you guys can't learn to work things out on your own you shouldn't be dating at all
so why did they date in the first place is it true that opposites attract what situations factored
into the stimulating feelings of the satiating flame between Sam and Freddie let's take a look
there's not enough people with originality so here I am to save the day Jayniac
look I know it's scary for you to put your feelings out there
because you never know if the person you like is going to like you back
everyone feels that way but you never know what might happen if you don't
Freddie Benson is without a doubt the most empathetic in the relationship
very rarely does he start an argument and most of the insults he throws at Sam
are in response to what Sam says to him despite all of Sam's abusive tendencies
whenever Sam genuinely needs help or just casually asks for it Freddie is always willing after some
convincing because of his timid nature some Seddie detractors tend to interpret their relationship
as one ruled by fear in other words Freddie is only dating Sam because he's afraid of her
but that couldn't be true because Freddie makes it quite clear that he does have genuine feelings
for Sam a lot of people have been talking about whether Sam and I should you know go out with
each other and it's like everyone's wondering if Sam is crazy for wanting to nobody asks me how I
feel okay Benson we get it get back at me for all the mean things the question isn't whether or not
they love each other they obviously do just know that it's possible to fall in love with someone
you're not compatible with especially if you're someone as compassionate as Freddie no matter how
angry the relationship makes you you're going to try your best to work things out with your
significant other this perseverance is seen in full effect when Freddie's overprotective mother
bribes him to break up with Sam why would you give me something worth this much money so you'll
do something for me in return what do you want me to do stop dating Sam you can't bribe me to break
up with Sam but Freddie no chance despite how embarrassing Freddie's mom can be he does listen
to her so for him to fight so hard to stay with Sam really speaks volumes however this can be seen
as something other than love if you tell Freddie he can't date Sam it's just going to make him want
to date her more suppose for instance that Freddie wanting to date Sam isn't entirely driven by love
but instead rebellion again Freddie always obeys his mom's orders so a lot of his life choices and
decisions revolve around his mother's approval so the one time he finally chooses something for
himself making his own decision in life he's probably going to fight for it a lot harder
interesting that Freddie rebels and leaves the arms of his domineering mother only to wind up
in the arms of a domineering girlfriend you know they say when a girl constantly rips on a guy
it really just means she has a crush on him yeah but I wasn't ripping on a guy I was ripping on you
Sam Puckett is without a doubt the most aggressive in the relationship she is often the cause of many
problems between her and Freddie both in and out of the relationship something I mentioned
in my Sam Puckett analysis video links in the description below is the fact that most of Sam's
friends are male the only exposure Sam would have had to a male-female relationship would be the
revolving door of men her mother dated and abused because of this Sam would likely see violence and
arguments in a relationship as a regular part of it before dating Freddie she makes every effort to
humiliate and abuse him publicly but once they start dating it changes even though she's no
longer humiliating him abuse and injury still play an interesting role in their relationship I wanna
know when you first started to like me remember the time I pushed you in front of that bike
messenger and he knocked you down and your head hit that fire hydrant when you were laying there
moaning blood coming out your ear you looked kind of cute does this mean that her love for Freddie
isn't real no it just means that Sam doesn't know how to express love like at all and who can blame
her it's not like her family ever shows her love so it's really telling when Sam says this about
Freddie bringing Freddie here and flirting with him when you know he's the only guy I ever loved
what now in their relationship Freddie brings stability while sSam brings excitement but
again that doesn't automatically mean it's a good relationship I think this is perfectly
illustrated in the episode iLove You where they realize how little they have in common
listen couples don't have to have every single thing in common to make the relationship work
but when the only conversation a couple can have is about how much they love each other
that's a big red flag when Sam tries to enjoy one of Freddie's hobbies she ends up knocking out one
of his friends destroying their model trains and getting Freddie kicked out on the flip side when
Freddie tries to enjoy one of Sam's hobbies he gets threatened as a joke gets violated in prison
and becomes an accomplice for Sam's ham smuggling to make matters worse Sam's apology
isn't genuine at all I'm sorry but Seddie doesn't work compromise is an essential
part of any healthy relationship I believe Freddie would be willing to compromise for Sam
but I don't think Sam would ever truly be willing to let go of some of her antagonistic and criminal
tendencies
Sam and Freddie's affection for each other is genuine there's no doubt about that
I just don't think they're a good match for a healthy lasting relationship
remember that it is possible to fall in love with someone that you're not totally compatible with
and I think these two are a perfect example of that a lot of people think it's adorable how
their childhood friends and they argue like an old married couple and yeah that's cute when you're 7
not when you're pushing 17. Disagreements can happen in a relationship obviously that's a
big part of growing together but when one person isn't willing to grow then chances are the other
person will outgrow them and before anyone asks me why I support bade and not Seddie I've done
a lot of growing up since posting that video and I can firmly tell you that I don't support either
they're both unhealthy relationships Freddie can do better than Sam and Jade can do better
than Beck I hope you enjoyed this video if so let me know in the comments below while you're at it
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