now according to a recent study by a very very well-known dating app one out
of three successful heterosexual couples were started by the woman messaging a
guy first so that begs the question should women make the first move if
you've ever wondered whether or not you should text him first when you should
wait when you shouldn't wait this videos for you keep watching
hey there Adam little che from sexy confidence com where I help you create
your love story and I've made this video a little bit interactive here it's
actually a quiz video so you'll see on the upper left corner every time we talk
about a scenario you can respond to that quiz to let us know what you think so
let's go into scenario number one you meet a guy at a party things go really
really well you exchange numbers should you text him first my answer to you
right now it's a little old-fashioned but I would say no let him text you
first now I know a lot of you women out there gonna say but what the heck man
what if he doesn't ever text me and my message to all of you is that if he
doesn't text you then there was no real interest in the first place look the guy
has your phone number you've exchanged numbers if he wanted to text you he
would have texted you clearly there wasn't enough spark there move on with
your life don't invest too much emotionally in that scenario and more
importantly by allowing him to text you first you're allowing him to invest more
emotionally in getting you and kind of going through that process of texting
you and wondering sitting by the phone wondering if you're going to respond
these are all very good things to happen when you first meet a guy you want him
to be pursuing you and wondering how it is that you feel back to him and that's
only during the early stages of meeting a guy that doesn't really apply once
you're later on a relationship by the way let's go into scenario number two
you meet a guy at work you sat with him and a group of other colleagues at work
you don't report to one another but you felt a little bit of a connection there
should you add him let's say is a friend on Facebook my answer to you would be
yes sure why not now this totally depends on your work situation if you
should not be dating other coworkers then please do not cross this barrier
however if it's totally cool in your work
place and it's totally allowed for you to be dating this is actually a great
way to show interest in a guy and allow him to see a side of you that he
wouldn't necessarily see it work and who knows this is a great way for him to be
able to message you outside of the typical email as a type of like chatting
that goes on in the workplace he can just message you through Facebook
awesome way to give him this kind of window of opportunity to message you and
ask you out now let's jump into scenario number three let's say he took you on a
date should you text him first after the date I would say absolutely if he took
you on a date and went through the planning process and even paid for the
date it is absolutely appropriate to text him and thank him for an amazing
night out you don't want to come off as a type of woman who's not interested in
him as well so definitely send him that thank you I had an amazing time look
forward to seeing you again kind of text and he'll really appreciate it and
finally scenario number four is let's say you had sex for the first time the
night before should you text him the next morning if the sex was good you
want to see him again hell yeah shoot him a text and say it was amazing seeing
you last night now ultimately with these scenarios
there's no hard and fast rule ultimately it comes down to in the early stages of
dating and texting and meeting people it's just to go at their pace don't
pursue him let him pursue you so I'd love to hear from you do you agree or
disagree with me in any of these scenarios I'd love to hear from you in
the comments right there below and also if you want more resources to help you
with your text game out there when you're meeting guys head on over to love
texting calm where you can download your free report and get a few texts that you
can send them to spark a little bit more romance in the conversation and finally
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