so ladies what are the traits of an elegant woman well in today's video it's going to
be a very interesting one i am going to touch on seven very specific qualities or traits that you
must develop as you are becoming this refined and elegant woman of course it's not easy to change
certain behaviors but it's absolutely doable so please follow me on my journey as i advise you
lovely elegant ladies so you can become the best version of yourself hello my lovely elegant
ladies welcome back to another video my name is vivienne i am the founder of woman of elegance
which is a platform that i've created to help women across the globe become the best versions
of themselves and refined classy and elegant ladies so ladies if you haven't done so already
please click that subscribe button if you enjoy my work and if you like my advice i try and release
videos at least every few weeks but i am going to be a lot more regular than that so please
look out for my new content and if you haven't already done so please do download my free
absolutely free woman of elegance handbook it's a brilliant handbook a comprehensive document that
will really aid you in so many facets of your everyday life for example in dining etiquette
conversations manners and so forth so download your copy today you can get it from my link tree
on my social media platform for women of elegance for sophisticated ladies who've really trained
themselves to value sophistication it really goes beyond just having good manners knowing how to use
your fault properly knowing how to observe proper dining etiquette of course these formalities are
very very important because they are kind of pinpointers that can differentiate elegant women
from those who are not so elegant so yes of course please do continue to learn new
etiquette but at the same time ladies i am here to discuss with you more important
things than that ladies it's about the golden rules it's about treating others with respect
and with kindness it's about integrity it's about being considerate and showing people that you have
high regard for yourself beyond having admirable poise a real elegant lady has exceptional manners
and treats everybody in her midst the kind of respects that you demand ladies on your journey to
becoming elegant practice these rules until they become second nature to you and ultimately this
will dictate how others see you so ladies without further ado let's just get straight into the video
number one show appreciation ladies no matter how highly placed in society that
you are people's attitudes towards you is determined on how you make them feel when you
display attitudes such as looking down on other people or being uncouth this is very unladylike
talking to people graciously will only respect an admiration ladies this might sound really trivial
but even personally when i get correspondence from people some even forget just very very
basic pleasantries such as please and thank you ladies this goes a long way please don't forget
this is so basic and you should not omit it from your sentences when you are speaking
say thank you to the teenager who parked your car say thank you to the doorkeeper who held the door
open for you say thank you to the waitress who served you because ladies it takes nothing away
from you and ladies this makes people hold you in high regard point number two always keep to time
now ladies depending on what country you're from the importance of time varies in the
western world it's i know very much in the uk we take time very very seriously we're in
other countries and other cultures people just turn up when and when they please however ladies
it is important to keep punctual wherever you're from try and keep punctual because you
do not know the efforts that somebody has gone through to arrange something and you don't know
what time constraints could be placed on your host for example so just please try and respect
other people's time arriving late for meetings for example just shows you have a shoddy attitude and
it dents people's perception about you make it a point of duty to arrive on time every time to
events to meetings or whatever it may be like i've mentioned in my handbook do not turn up too early
but do not arrive late you should also leave at the right time don't allow people to tell you to
go home for example be considerate all the time however ladies sometimes in life things happen
and we just can't get to planned places in time if this happens ensure that you call and even if it's
a restaurant for example it's very good manners to call to say you're running late and this is very
important when you've been invited to a private dinner for example number three listen attentively
giving people an ample opportunity to air their views and listen attentively is a golden golden
quality however unfortunately many people lack this quality you will be held in such high regard
even when you're having a heated conversation with somebody but you allow the person to speak
it shows maturity and it shows that you have good qualities about you and of course it shows that
you're elegant too ladies if you haven't already done so please watch my video speak elegantly
because i go into this in much detail when you are speaking to someone it's important that you look
the person in the eye and you look interested make it a point to improve your listening skills and i
don't just mean listening so you can see where to interject and interrupt listen properly to
understand what the speaker is saying furthermore ladies when you allow the person to speak
and wait for your turn it shows that you have self-control and that's something that's rare
in our society today people are just so quick to react when you have self-control you have
strength of character and this is something that is very very important point number four be kind
and considerate being kind and considerate isn't an excuse to allow people to get away with foul
behavior no not at all however ladies always try to picture yourself or put yourself in the other
person's shoes ask yourself questions such as how would you like to be treated in such a situation
would you appreciate a little kindness would you like the other party to understand your viewpoint
and where you're coming from it's important to apply the same measure of respect to other people
you should be firm but always be kind like the elegant woman of proverbs 31 open your mouth
with wisdom and let the law of kindness be on your tongue in other words whatever you say let it be
with kindness you cannot describe yourself as elegant if you are rude it just doesn't work
so ladies what are the ways in which we can show kindness to other people well complimenting paying
genuine compliments obviously don't say these things if you don't mean them but always make
it a point if you can to compliment another woman especially because it really goes a long
way would you say that you're the argumentative type or would you say that you're quite critical
well ladies there's nothing wrong with being critical in some respects but you need to be
tactful don't be harsh with your words even if you think differently to somebody else's opinion
air that in a gracious and elegant way how you say things puts a completely different flavor
on the whole situation if there's a mistake that has been made for example if somebody
has said something that's a little bit unkind or a little bit distasteful it's always important
to be diplomatic in pointing out criticisms and mistakes so don't go all guns blazing
say it with kindness and always portray that elegant demeanor so ladies let's go on to
point number five silence speak volumes ladies do you know you can actually say a lot by remaining
calm and silent high-class elegant women are not talkative and loud speaking sparingly
makes each of your sentences valuable and it's not just one large mess contrary to what many may
think people are more likely to remember something that you've said in just a few sentences than
one long speech silence also gives you an air of mystique which is quite intriguing and attractive
if you are naturally blessed with the gift of the gab deliberately working on cultivating silence
is worth the stress the truth is is that when we talk too much our messages and what we are trying
to convey is just watered down well enough said so let's just move on to the next point
point number six dress elegantly great dress sense essentially is a marriage between your body type
and clothes that fits well squeezing into a tight strapless gown for an office party is
just as inappropriate as wearing a two-piece suit at a beach for example embrace your body type
dress appropriately appreciate your looks improve what needs to be improved and confidently own
anything that you consider a floor personally i don't have a slim waist or one that i consider
to be slim but i wear clothes that fit around it i don't try and allow the clothes to wear
me i don't wear things that are incredibly tight because it just doesn't look right it
doesn't look elegant but most important ladies walk tall and be confident in your personality
number seven be trustworthy and accountable a man is as good as his word and so is a woman
an elegant woman strives to keep to her word and this really is one single factor of integrity when
you make a promise be sure to live up to it unless unless you absolutely are not able to but make
it a point to always stick to your word even if it's inconvenience even if you have the grandeur
of queen elizabeth and the elegance of princess diana the slightest act of dishonesty will make
a mess of your personality watch and maintain your integrity ladies so ladies in conclusion
although there are many rules for etiquette for example when you're at meetings or in the office
or at a dinner party there are primary rules of etiquette that form the basis of every single
rule of etiquette developing this etiquette is of immense importance to you and those around you and
those you associate with if you want to earn more value please please be respectable be respectable
to yourself and those around you make these rules of etiquette to become elegant and indispensable
part of you ladies i hope you enjoyed this video so until next time bye for now