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I am happy.
I am peaceful.
I am truthful.
Welcome.
Can you believe I used to be a different way?
MAYA: I used to be filled with rage,
uncontrollable fits of anger,
and blackout moments.
I chose a different life for myself.
I learned how to manage my anger.
And I would love for you to learn from my past.
Let's take a look.
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Oh, speaking of dogs, were you saying something about that?
Yeah. Well, I don't know if it was antifreeze or chocolate.
Why would a dog eat something that could kill it?
That sounds stupid.
I don't know why she ate it.
I just think it's because it's sweet.
Antifreeze is sweet. Chocolate is sweet.
That's a dumbass invention.
Why would they create it to be sweet knowing that
dogs could eat it?
That's beside the point. The point is she's in the hospital.
And now I don't know if she's okay.
SHANNON: Oh, girl, speaking of stupid inventions, okay --
you're going to get a freaking kick out of this one.
Remember, I told you I bought that invention,
that stupid nutcracker invention.
SHANNON: Well, brought that home, tried to crack a nut, but guess what?
[mounting sounds of babble]
...what kind of dumbass invention...
Shut up!
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That's no way to treat a friend,
no matter how annoying they can be.
Let's see how I could have reacted if I was more patient.
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I'm trying to tell you how I feel right now,
and Shannon, I'm sorry, but I just really need a friend
who can listen.
It's me who has to say sorry.
I love Jackie, and I know how much she matters to you.
And if my dog was going through a situation,
I'd want a friend to care, too.
So I'm sorry.
Thanks.
Because I actually have a friend who is that person
who wouldn't care.
The whole nutcracker thing, right?
We actually bought it at the exact same time.
We both said one, two, three, buy the nutcracker.
MAYA [voiceover]: Okay, well, at least I told her how I feel.
No matter how self-centered your friends can be...
SHANNON: ...think she cared?
I was trying to tell her about the story,
and she was just so wrapped up in her world of cracked nuts
that she didn't even have time to like plug in to
how I was feeling, you know what I mean?
And that really, really hurt.
And so I don't feel like talking to her anymore,
and I would never want that to happen to me and you.
I feel you.
Friends are one thing.
Boyfriends -- completely different.
I had a boyfriend once. Now I'm single.
Stress-free.
Sure, a little bit lonely. But happy.
Let's look at when I was miserable, shall we?
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Who are you texting? Give me your phone.
I'm listening. Go ahead.
[text sound]
Give me your phone or get out.
[text sound] Can you stop being crazy?
I'm not giving you my phone.
Oh. I'm being crazy.
Yeah.
I'll show you crazy.
[more text sounds]
You see this?
MALE: What are you doing?
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[crashing sound]
[angry grunting noises]
MAYA: Where's my heels?
This is called a heel. A pump.
[breaking sounds; angry screams]
Are you done?
MAYA: Do you like that? Yes!
All that water on your broken stupid phone.
MALE: I hope you broke your shoe.
I broke more than my shoe, boo. [grunts]
You got some real issues, woman.
Violence is never the way, even if the temptation
is so much.
Let's see how I could have handled that, shall we?
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Give me your phone.
Huh? I'm listening.
[text sound] Go ahead.
You know what, I was going to give you some booty tonight,
but I change my mind.
[text sounds]
Wait, you said booty?
Where you going?
Come back! I like booty.
Look, the phone is down.
Baby, come back! Please? Please?
I promise I won't text no more.
I'll switch to MetroPCS. I won't have service nowhere.
I can't text.
Babe.
We have the power to choose, so choose your battles wisely.
How does one deal with one's family?
Let's take a look, shall we?
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You're not going to be an actor. I told you.
I'm a grown woman! It's my life!
I should be able to do what I want.
Okay, Beyonce. You pay the rent. You're so grown.
My house, my rules.
I hate you. I wish I never had a mother.
Okay. I'll go kill myself. You won't have a mother then.
Fine. Good. At least I could live my dreams.
You ungrateful daughter. Go to your room.
I'm going to be an actress one day. You watch.
I hate you! I hate you!
MAYA: I wish you would kill yourself!
Because I hate you! I hate you.
That is no way to speak to the person you love.
We all say things in our fits of rage
that we wish we could take back.
But we can't. The damage has been done.
Let's take a look.
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MAYA: Mom, I'm sorry for yelling. I'll do accounting.
But can I act on the side?
Yes, anak. You can do whatever you want.
As long as you have a stable career,
and as long as you can support me too, I'll be happy.
Of course.
I love you so much.
I love you, Mom.
Okay, anak. Go study. You need to get an A on your next exam.
MAYA'S MOM: Go.
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When you're young and you don't pay rent,
there's a thing called compromise and apologize.
What are some other ways we can deal with our stresses?
I love aromatherapy and incense.
This just puts me in a calm place.
Also, essential oils. Lavender. Stress reliever, girl.
Yes. The stress, I can even feel leaving me.
Rocks. I love my rocks and my crystals.
Rose quartz. Citrine. Money, honey.
Himalayan sea salt just gives a good vibe in the room.
Plants. They don't fight with you.
I like to have positive messages throughout my house
that remind me, "Let it go, Maya. Life is too short.
Be positive."
Hot tea. Possibly even prayers. Whoever you pray to, pray.
Maybe prayer is too much for you.
"Oh, no, Maya, I don't believe in that stuff."
Meditate.
And meditation is a coming to a quiet place,
where you can close your eyes.
[car horn honking]
And reading books. Books that are positive and inspiring.
You can even do some yoga. Yoga. Yoga.
Or a sport.
Some sort of physical action.
Just let out all that rage. Just punch it out.
Just kick it out.
I also like cleaning things when I'm angry.
You'd be surprised at how clean my place is.
Anger is a serious thing. We all deal with it.
And we all have social media.
If you are angry, stay off of the social media.
The world doesn't need to know that you're angry.
That's it for now. Make sure that you guys like this video.
Comment below and let me know,
what do you do to deal with your anger?
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Remember to do you. Be shameless.
Mmmmmmmm.
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