Ooh! Did you get triggered again? Or did you see that other person get triggered?
Wow! Why are we so out of control with
emotions? Like really, what's going on here?
Well, I'm here today to teach you and train you why people are out of control
with this. Let's make the change today.
Okay, it happened again. You had this emotional reaction.
Somebody triggered you. And Wow, why are your emotions out of control?
Like what's happening? I'm here to help you right now understand what just
happened. And I know. You think it's the other
people. You think somebody else needs to change and they need to be different.
Your spouse needs to be different, your kids need to be different. And you were
going nuts because everybody else needs to change so that you can be calm.
Nope. Sorry to break it to you. There's not enough people in the world that can
change that can help you be calm. This is about you.
Yeah, it's about you. And it's about what's going on inside of you.
Now, I totally understand this. I was at a place in my life where I literally was
pointing at different people around me. And just wishing and wanting the day to
happen that that person will change. This person will change. These people will
change. So, that I could be okay. And you might be doing the same thing. And I just
want to save you some time because that's never going to happen.
People cannot change enough to be able to help you feel calm and safe on the
inside. The reason why is is because this emotional trigger that happened and
there was this outburst and you were loud and you cried and you may be yelled
at someone and and now you regret it and you wish you would never have done it.
And you feel out of control. Well, you can feel out of control because something is
inside of you that is controlling you. And I want to help you know what that is.
You know, there's a difference between reacting and responding to things.
Reacting actually means to re-live. So to react means to relive.
And if you are having a reaction to people. Like being triggered or have an
emotional burst or an emotional outbreak. Or a breakdown. You have inside of you
some past experiences that you are still reliving. You see not all of our past is
finished. We have some things in our past as people that is still going on inside
of our mind. We still feel hurt about things that happened 5 years ago, 10
years ago, 20 years ago. We still feel hurt over those moments. And there are
things that have happened in our past that are literally like a broken record
playing over and over and over again on the inside of us. And when those things
play over and over again inside was like a broken record. That emotional feeling
you felt clear back then all those years ago is just building ever-so-slightly
everyday. Just builds, builds, builds, builds, builds and then someone triggers
you and you and load. And then you wonder "Where did all that come from? Why did I
just do that?" You see, the common person does not study their past. Most people
are just trying to deal with today. They don't even know how to go into their
past and clean up. They don't even know how to go into their past and patch
things together and and kind of finish things that have happened in their past.
But you like a lot of people have some things in your past that is unfinished.
And when it's unfinished, it just plays over and over and over again. And it
builds up all that emotion without you even seeing it then some... A child ,your
spouse or friend does something and they just did it the right way to trigger you
and then boom! You blow up with all that emotion. And you
see the pattern don't you? And just when you thought you have it all handled,
there you go again you unloaded your emotions. And then you start to feel bad
after a while that you're actually starting to hurt people with your
emotions. And those things that you say. If you're married, your spouse takes the
brunt of it. If you've got kids they then get the rest of it. And then you hate on
yourself because you know you're hurting them. And then you feel really, really
super bad. And then the emotion stacks back up and then you get triggered again
and then it happens again. You're caught in a really weird cycle,
I know. I completely understand where you're at. And and it's not fun, it's not
fun. But the reason why it's out of control and why your emotions are out of
control is because you're in this react or relive kind of a cycle. So, what do you
do? You know, how do you how do you break this cycle so you can start to have some
control of your emotions? Well, somewhere in your past, there are experiences that
you've had that still irritates you, still bother you, still bug you. That
still is creating some conflict and some pain inside of you. Now, there is a way
that you can get involved with your past and be able to start to patch or mend
things from your past. And I know you're going to hear this answer and you're going to
go, "Wait a minute. I don't know if that's going to work."
It's called journaling. I know. How many times have you heard this answer in your
life? Like journal. Let me just share it with you one more time. Journaling is
going to save your life. Journaling is going to change your life. Journaling is
going to unlock your future. It's going to help you be less triggered and it's
going to help you not damage your children and damage your spouse as much
as you're doing it right now. But it's time for you to journal.
Why am I bringing up journaling? Journaling, there's so many different
ways to journal. So, many things to journal about... This is not the kind of
journal where you're writing down what happened today and what you ate for
lunch and what you ate for dinner. That's not what you're doing with this
journaling. What you're doing with this journaling is you are looking for those
experiences that need some attention. So, that you can write about what happened.
Sometimes we have things happen in our life and it doesn't make sense and then
we just push it aside. But we're in charge of our life. And when our life is
in shambles behind us and we just leave it, it's still a mess. It's still going to
cause messes. Messes in our past create messes in our present. Messes in our past
create messes in our present. So, the more you decide to journal about what's going
on inside you and this is how you do this. You get a journal, you open it up
and you begin to write down how you think and feel about your life. And as
you write down about how you think and feel about your life each day, you start
to then ask yourself the question. "I wonder what has happened in my life that
has caused me to feel hurt? I wonder what's happened in my life that
has caused me to feel frustrated? I wonder what's happened in my life to
cause me to feel scared? I wonder what's happened in my life
that's caused me to feel so out of control?" And if you were to approach your
journal with those kinds of questions as you journal for 15 minutes each day, as
you journal for 15 minutes each day. And you ponder like this and you're writing
down how you think and feel about life. And you start to use those questions I
just gave you to think about your past, your mind
we'll bring to you what is hurting you. Your mind knows what's killing you. Your
mind knows exactly what is damaging you and destroying you on the inside and it
wants it out. It's just waiting for you to be interested in getting these
painful things out of you. It wants to help. It's not going to hide it and block it
and make it all think like it's all gone. It's going to help you. Your mind wants to
stay alive. It does. It wants to stay alive and so, if
you were to journal and get a journal in and for 15 minutes, just write down what
you think and feel. Because you're trying to find where am i reliving stuff from
the past? Where am i reacting? And you're looking for this. And as you ponder on
those questions that I just gave you just a moment ago,
and as things come to you, you just write it in your journal. Writing in your
journal helps you make sense of things. Helps you sort things out. Helps to get
it out onto paper. Helps you organize it. Anytime we need to organize our life, we
do it on paper. And it makes sense that's in front of us. And when you decide to
take charge and start to look into yourself through this type of journal
writing, you are going to get your past organized. You will. You'll get your past
organized one day at a time. 15 minutes at a time. You will start to make sense
of why you are triggered, while you what you've been reliving. And as you journal
and find different situations inside of you, you may find the next step to be
really important and then what that next step is is to forgive people and to
forgive yourself. And if you hang around me long enough, you're going to hear me
say, "It's a really important and it is a must that you are reading a book about
forgiveness." Read a book about forgiveness and when
you finish that book about forgiveness, you read another book about forgiveness.
And then when you're done with that book, you read another book about forgiveness.
But something that's going to help you with your past is to understand
forgiveness. Because you're gonna find stuff in your past of, "Oh, yeah. I should
really forgive that person. Or I need to forgive myself for what happened." But a
past that is messy it's going to keep you in a cycle of reacting and reliving the
hurt the conflict, the pain, the discouragement, the frustration. And as
you relive that, it all stacks up inside of you and then you're going to unload
on your spouse, your kids again. Or you're going to implode and break down. It's
inevitable. It's not a mystery. You're going to go through the whole cycle
again. 15 minutes of journaling each day about how your life is going in this
react, relived place. And then pose the questions I gave you just a little bit
ago. So, you opens up your mind and you're
going to find situations that need forgiveness applied. That's the magic
right there. Some magic right there. Clean up your past,
you'll be triggered less. Clean up your past, you'll be more in control clean up
your past and you will feel much more confident about who you are today. The 15
minutes of journaling in that direction and you're reading a book about
forgiveness. And then when you finish that one you read another book about
forgiveness. But you get to understand what forgiveness is all about and it's
time for you to get your past organized. No more. No more wondering why
your emotions are out of control. You are not a victim to it anymore. You now are
responsible and you're going to take action on this and do something about it today.
That's what I think needs to happen. You're not an out-of-control person.
You're just stuck in a loop of reliving your past. Go get your book
of forgiveness and get your journal. And start journaling today. And enjoy how
you're going to feel. You can make a change. Wow,
right? Great topic? Whew! Sensitive but important. Very, very important. Okay,
here's something I can do to help you from this point on. There's a link right
here that'll take you to an option of training called Master My Thoughts. And
it is a program that I've designed to help you to be able to get inside here
and literally organize yourself from the inside out. Click on the link, see if it's
a fit for you. And jump in on that program. It's an online program you can
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That's what I'm here for.