When you become eighteen, you become always against marriage.
But when you were three years of age, you were for marriage, your parents’ marriage.
So it is for you to consider
whether you want to live a life where emotionally you’re always looking out for somebody
or you settle it in a certain way so that you can use your intelligence and time to create something else.
( One Life, One Partner Is It A Thing Of The Past?)
Moderator (Anjali Yogi): So, I had this belief or in fact,
maybe I was made to believe this whole concept of one life, one partner.
But now when I see or observe, the whole monogamous relations do not seem to be existing anymore.
The whole idea of it is gone (Sadhguru Laughs).
What do you think about it?
Sadhguru: It’s not gone. Maybe in JNU it’s gone (Laughter).
In the rest of the world, it’s not really gone.
Even if you go to United States where there seems to be so much promiscuity, even there,
when people marry, they believe it's for life.
Tch. But of course two years later, life gets over (Laughter).
That’s another matter but when they get married, they believe it's for life.
That’s why they invest in the diamonds. They think it's a lifetime investment.
They’re putting on that, but unfortunately for all kinds of things, relationships go wrong.
And one reason they go wrong so easily is because people are meeting much later in their life.
See, when people met much younger, when their personalities were not concertized,
they met early - seventeen, eighteen - then two people became like one person, very easily.
Now they’re meeting at thirty, now both are concertized.
Two concrete blocks.
But I’m seeing, young people if they marry, they hang on.
If people marry over fifty years of age, they hang on
because they have again softened up, concretize again (Laughter).
Between thirty and fifty, it's a bit of a concrete block, you know?
Strong persona – now, friction happens. Well, if they are wise, they will find something beyond.
Well, monogamy and polygamy or whatever kind of gamy, if you want to see (Few Laugh),
the important thing we need to understand is,
you know, we are all here,
you and me are here - this means a man and woman came together some time ago.
Maybe, you think, they’re think, “Ah, they’re parents, you know?
They don’t love, they don’t do sex, they don’t do anything,
they’re just because a priest uttered a mantra, you were born, probably” (Laughter).
No, it's not like that.
Somebody had a physical need, so they handled it through marriage and we are here.
When you become eighteen, you become always against marriage.
But when you were three years of age, you were for marriage, your parents’ marriage.
When you were three years of age, were you not glad your parents had a stable marriage?
Hello?
Participants: Yes.
Sadhguru: When you’re eighteen, you think of free sex and no marriage and everything.
But once again if you become fifty, fifty-five, then you will look for a relationship that lasts.
So it is for you to consider - because it’s your life - to consider whether you want to live a life where
emotionally you’re always looking out for somebody,
or you settle it in a certain way so that you can use your intelligence and time to create something else.
Your research, your work or whatever you’re doing, if emotions and body are settled, actually,
your ability to use your intelligence will be much better.
Otherwise every day you have to walk around to find somebody (Laughter/Applause).
No, I’m not making this any this thing because I feel so bad in United States, people I know...
You know, thousands of people are involved with me now.
People over forty, forty-five years of age, women, I’m saying - wonderful people,
but they’re all on this these days they’ve all gone online, otherwise they go sit in a bar and wait.
Somebody needs to pick them up today. It's terrible.
Moderator (Anjali Yogi): Tinder generation.
Sadhguru: I’m sorry?
Moderator (Anjali Yogi): Tinder generation.
Sadhguru: Whatever you want to call it (Laughter).
When a woman at forty-five should have been loved and respected in a proper atmosphere,
now she’s sitting there looking for some strange guy to come her way
and she’s going to make the judgment in the next ten minutes
when he buys her a drink or a dinner or something.
This is tragic.
This doesn’t mean everybody will go that way, but you must think of the larger well-being.
Before you break a social structure, you must think whether we can replace it with a better structure.
At any point in our life - let everybody understand this -
whether it's a social structure, or a political structure,
or a psychological setup in the society, whatever, before we break it,
we must think through whether we have a better alternative system.
Without an alternative system, if you break the existing damn thing that’s working reasonably well,
then it’ll go crazy.