Hi, I'm sex and relationship coach Caitlin V
and today I'm gonna teach you how to last longer in bed
using one super simple technique.
Now, this is so crucial
because lasting longer in bed
isn't just for you,
it's for your female partner.
If you want to be able to give her an orgasm
through penetrative sex,
which I know you do,
then you need to be able to last longer
and not just that, once you are able to last longer,
it boost your confidence,
which makes you a better lover overall.
You’re no longer in your head thinking about, ooh my God,
is it gonna happen, I need to make this last
No, once you know that you can do it,
you can do it and you can do it every single time.
When it comes to sex,
how you practice is how you play.
That means that when you are having solo sex,
a.k.a masturbation,
you are practicing for partner sex.
The goal here is to make your solo sex
the way that you want to have partner sex.
In other words,
if you masturbate for a very short amount of time,
When you go to have sex with a woman,
it’s also gonna last for a short amount of time.
The good news is here that
you can totally change the way that you masturbate,
and it’s gonna change the way
that you have sex with a partner.
Simple enough, right.
This works because your brain
doesn’t really know the difference
between when you are having sex
with yourself and when you are having sex with a partner.
I know that’s crazy just…
I can explain the science to you later.
Right now all you need to know is that
your brain doesn't know the difference.
So, you can practice this way
and then when you get in bed with a woman,
that is how you'll actually play, okay.
So, the technique here
is just to to extend the amount of time
between getting an erection
and ejaculating, while you are masturbating.
First step is to time
how long you currently masturbate for.
So literally get out a timer
and go from when you start to when you finish.
Figure out what your baseline is
and then set a goal.
For all my clients their goal is 20 minutes,
but depending on how long you are lasting,
you are gonna do this in increments.
So, let’s say you are lasting between 2 and 3 minutes
right now when you masturbate.
Your goal is each time that you masturbate,
you are gonna last for one minute longer.
So, that means 4 minutes,
then 5 minutes, then 6 minutes.
So, this might actually take you a couple of weeks,
but trust me, stick with this program
and you will see results.
The biggest temptation that you are going to have
is you gonna wanna take that short cut.
You gonna be close orgasming
and you’re just gonna wanna get there,
coz it feels good. Totally understand.
When you have that moment,
I want you to just think, visualize,
imagine that you are having sex
with the woman of your dreams
and you wanna make it last just a little bit longer.
One way that you can control your level of arousal
in order to make your self last longer,
is by stopping touching yourself all together
and just giving yourself a second to cool off.
If that doesn't work quickly enough for you,
you can gently pinch the tip of your penis,
which actually encourages blood to leave
thus, decreasing your erection and decreasing your arousal.
Some of you might find that it's difficult
to maintain an erection while you are doing this.
That's okay, if that happens,
just put your pants back on and come back to it later.
You'll always have another shot at this.
It's more important that you wait,
than that you give in to temptation
and orgasm too soon.
Ooh, you might find...
You might say to me like, listen,
I can masturbate for 20 minutes, but
it’s different when I’m actually in bed with a woman.
Okay, I totally get that,
and this is why you need to follow my channel and subscribe.
Because I give you all kinds of other advice and information
that will help in those circumstances, okay.
It’s still is vital that you take
your time when you are having solo sex,
so that you can take your time with partner sex.
Do that I swear to you this will pay off.
You will reap the benefits of this, alright.
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