- No sex before marriage.
How should you date, and how should you behave?
It is a bit of a tricky situation when the majority
of women are giving away the cooking nearly on a plate,
while you are trying to hold onto it.
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So in this video, we're going to talk about
how to behave, if your goal is
to have sex only after marriage.
What I will do in this video, I will share one of my
incredible follower's story and question,
and then I will answer it by breaking it down in detail.
I hope you'll enjoy it.
So let's start.
- Hi, Greta.
My name is Diamante and this is my question.
I've been talking to someone since the month
of July last year.
In December we, for some reason, there was a lot
going on in his life, so we ended up not talking anymore.
It's been now for the past three months,
my feelings were a bit hurt because
of how things transpired.
So I was a bit, not childish,
but my feelings were hurt
and I let it take over me
and obviously I chose to block him because
I didn't wanna really see him or I didn't wanna see
that maybe he'd moved on with someone else,
so I chose to this cut off contact.
But obviously, which is what's bound to happen,
I've decided to unblock him,
mainly because I know his sister
and his sister has told me that he's messaged me
while he was blocked.
So after three months I decided to unblock him.
I know his sister and it seems like we're so connected.
Somehow we met online, but anyway so connected,
because he knows my brother, I know his cousin,
and I know his sister, we go to church together.
So my question is, he's got one daughter
and he's coming off a long-term relationship.
He's now been nearly two years back on the market
and dating and he was nine years
with the previous relationship.
So my question is,
I kind of knew, he's made clear that
he hasn't committed to me.
I've unblocked him and I started talking to him
since the beginning of quarantine, mid-March, I think.
And now we're talking and my question is,
yesterday we had a long conversation and it just
came about that he's mentioned again,
basically mentioned that, there was something that he said
and I guess I misunderstood him, but then he corrected me
and he confirmed that.
You know, I'm a virgin and I wanna wait until marriage
and so basically we were having that conversation
and he's confirmed that he's not yet ready
to wait until marriage for someone,
like he's not made that commitment yet
and he just needed apparently the time
to decide if it's really what he wants to do.
And also, he does show that he cares, in terms of the fact
that he calls me regularly and he does seem to
make statements like, saying that he does see a future
with me and he knows that, other than that he won't
be able to get into my pants and he does respect that,
he does talk about a future.
However, right now it's difficult for him to commit
because of what it means to commit with me.
It means that he will have to hold off on sex for months,
until he chooses to take it all the way to marriage,
and he knows that part.
So yesterday when we had a conversation,
he confirmed that he was still seeing other people
and I just got a little bit,
not cold, but I was a bit like ehh.
And I wasn't even trying to react to it,
but it's like we were talking and he could hear it
in my voice.
I was asking a couple of questions and I was asking,
do you see yourself ever waiting?
Do you see yourself committing to celibacy
for a few months until you really take things
to marriage with someone?
Is it something that you can see yourself doing?
And I did ask those questions yesterday.
And then we basically had the conversation.
My question is, how should I react from now on?
You know, how should I react from now on?
- Okay, so no sex before marriage.
How should you behave?
I know it's tricky, ladies, but I really admire
the no sex before marriage thing.
I really support that, to be honest.
So, anyway, I'm gonna share a couple options.
So the first option is just be friends with him.
Just be friends with him and be friends with him,
just be friends.
However, when you are being friends with him,
do be high value.
Let him ask you out, let him chase you, all of that.
So even when you're being friends with him,
do the things correctly, but don't give him the benefits
of the wife stuff.
You know, if no sex before marriage,
don't give him any benefits of the wife stuff.
But do be friends with him.
And if he's dating other girls and so on,
it does not matter.
Just stay friends with him.
Because men fall in love through connection anyway.
They fall in love with your presence,
with having fun together.
So even if he's dating the other girls,
it does not really matter.
But as long as you're staying cool
and you're staying high value and you're not feeling like
he's taking advantage of you.
Like if you're dating him and you know he's dating others,
it could be a bit too hard for you,
especially if you're nice and innocent and genuine
and so on, so it could be a bit too hard for you.
But, what I would say, just be friends with him,
act as a friend.
Again, men fall in love with your presence
and through having fun together.
So if he really likes you as a person
and he's attracted to you,
he will slowly start to fall for you.
And I had it myself many times where I was friends
with a guy and like a year or two years later
we poured our heart out.
We say like, oh, I love you, and I'm like,
but we haven't even like kissed or anything.
So it's like, being friends is really really good tip.
And it's so nice, it's so nice.
I think the best relationships are made if you can
be friends, so he actually gets to know you as a person
and he's attracted to you.
He knows your personality, he knows what you're about.
And when he wants you to be his girlfriend,
I think that is so beautiful, or a wife,
that's so beautiful.
But the key is,
a lot of girls we change;
when we're friends we act one way
and when we are girlfriends we act another way.
So make sure to keep the same behavior when you're married
or when you're in the relationship.
The same behavior as you were behaving with him
as you were friends.
More or less the same, I mean like emotional control
and not going crazy and giving him space and so on.
Cause this is what he fell for in the first place.
And the second one is,
it has actually happened to my client,
she's been coached in my VIP One from day one,
so when she came to VIP One she was actually
a single girl who could not get a guy to date her at all.
She was Muslim, she was a virgin,
and what we did, we started telling her how to date guys,
so they keep being interested in her.
And she started dating a guy and he's very cool,
really really high value guy, a very very cool guy.
And she was doing everything right,
so he was taking her on dates,
sweeping her off her feet a lot.
The guy was really experienced, but she was in good hands.
And she kept dating and dating him and she was just like,
I like to take things slow, I like to take things slow.
She was not pushing for anything.
No pressure for relationship, no pressure for marriage.
He did not even know that she's a virgin.
She was just doing things correctly,
like keeping her emotional control and he was just
sweeping her off her feet all the time.
And the guy was really experienced, really cool.
And after about four months of dating,
he actually told her that he loves her
and he was like, "Will you be my girlfriend?"
and so on, and she said to him, "You know, I'm a virgin,
"basically, I'm a practicing Muslim."
And he really respected that and six months later
he introduced her to family and so on,
now they are getting married basically,
a year later were getting married.
And the guy actually has never introduced a girl
to his family before.
And again, he was like really charming, really experienced,
a really awesome guy.
And it's just because she was doing things correctly,
she was being high value
and he saw her value in those months and he was like,
"This girl is worth waiting for."
"This girl is incredible."
So this is how it happened.
Ladies, however, keep it in mind that the guy that I'm
telling you about that she was dating, he was high value.
He knew when a woman has a value,
a woman who has self-respect.
A woman who is not desperate to get married.
If the guy that you are dating, if he's a playboy type.
If he just wants
an easy cookie,
if he just wants easy stuff,
he doesn't look for a girl who has value, self-respect,
who has goals and dreams.
He's looking for easy, he's looking for something
that he can take, use, have fun with, and drop,
you know, drop it like it's hot.
So this guy's obviously not for you.
So yeah, like what you could do in your case
if you're really into him and you feel like you're
dating him, but he's keeping his options open,
just say that you want to be friends.
And he can get to know you as friends
and see how things take off there.
As I said, there has been a lot of guys
who were pouring their heart out to me
after a year or two years of friendship
and nothing has ever happened.
So it definitely is possible, if you're being high value.
Okay?
So, thank you, I hope you enjoyed this video,
and if you have more questions for me, ladies,
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