Don’t be so quick to give your attention to the girl.
What I mean by this is that you should take your time when shifting your focus and attention
from one thing to another, and to be incredibly present in what you’re doing.
When you’re too quick to give others your attention and quick to jump from what you’re
doing to what someone else wants you to do, it shows that what you’re doing isn’t
important or valuable which can make you appear as though you’re not valuable and what you
do isn’t important.
And if what you do isn’t important then people will just assume that you’re not
important or valuable.
Don’t be frantic, don’t come running when a girl asks for your attention, and instead,
you should have slow and controlled movements that display your confidence, comfortability
with the social situation you’re in, and masculinity.
Do talk loud and speak with the correct vocal tonality.
When approaching or starting conversations with girls, guys will often self-sabotage
themselves by opening the conversation with a really low voice, so this way, the girl
won’t hear them and then they can use that as their excuse as to why they can eject from
the interaction before it really even started.
AVOID THIS AT ALL COSTS.
It’s extremely tempting to half-commit to an interaction when you first approach, but
it’s shooting yourself in the foot and is a cheap way of trying to say you tried when
you really didn’t give it a fair shake.
Not only should you be talking loud and clear so she can hear you, but you also want have
the correct vocal tonality, meaning you don’t want to do that thing where it sounds like
you’re ending every sentence with a higher pitched voice as if you’re asking a question.
You want to keep your tonality, level and confident, otherwise you’ll come off as
uneasy and submissive to the girl which will immediately turn her off.
Do Actually be willing to let other people be confident and have part of the spotlight.
Don’t be someone who puts other people down because this comes from a place of weakness
and insecurity.
Tt shows that you’re threatened by other people’s positive qualities.
A lot of guys try to put other guys down when they’re in social situations and it makes
them look REALLY bad.
The guy who’s nice, friendly, and open to other people, even other guys, is the one
who shows the strongest frame control and strongest sense of security and confidence
because he’s so comfortable and confident in himself and his value, that he doesn’t
feel threatened or the need to “out-alpha” every other guy in the room.
Do Be able to stand and be OK with silence.
And even be able to embrace it.
I mentioned this in my video on how to deal with awkwardness, but here’s a quick recap.
If you’re with a girl and there’s a silence, being able to maintain strong eye contact
and body language without looking away, can be a real strong display of frame control
and confidence because this shows the girl that you’re comfortable with silence, you’re
so secure in who you are, and that you aren’t so flimsy that you’re thrown off by the
slightest bit of awkwardness.
A rule I tend to follow is to maintain eye contact until the other person looks away.
Looking away first or looking down can be a sign of insecurity and awkwardness, both
of which will ruin your ability to show the girl that you’re a confident man who’s
secure in himself.
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Don’t kiss her ass or be a people pleaser.
Be willing to disagree with her and have that be OK.
Don’t feel the need to convince her or others of what you’re saying because it shows that
you’re too insecure to let your results and actions speak for themselves and serve
as proof.
Confident people don’t feel the need to suck up to people in order to make others
like them.
They’re comfortable enough in themselves that they don’t need to go out of their
way to prove themselves or convince other people to like them.
Do Gesticulate.
Talk with your hands and be willing to take up more space with your body.
It shows comfort with your surroundings and willingness to open yourself up, something
only a confident person would do.
Animals often try to take up more space and make themselves look bigger to show a display
of dominance, this is why taking up more space with your body and hand gestures makes you
appear more confident on a subconscious level.
Do Break the touch barrier.
Someone who’s uncertain of themselves will often have poor body language and do activities
like hide their hands or comfort themselves by crossing their arms or rubbing their stomach,
and so on.
Someone unconfident like this wouldn’t even think about touching someone else because
they don’t even have control and comfort over their own body.
Touching others shows confidence.
Now when I say you can playfully touch people, I don’t mean you should manhandle and try
to hulk people around, keep it smaller and make it a playful or flirty touch.
And last but not least, Don’t have shitty posture.
Posture is one of the most important indicators of how you’re feeling on the inside, so
if you’re hunched over and nervous on the inside, it’ll be easily spotted from miles
away on your outside.
Just remember to stand straight and tall, with your shoulders pinched back, and chest
out, and you’ll be appearing 10x more confident than if you weren’t doing these small things.
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