If you have a conversation starter or an opener or pickup line, whatever you want to call it,
ready to go, this is going to completely eliminate approaching anxiety. If you have approach anxiety,
understand that the way you're going to get rid of it, is by going over to a girl in 3 seconds
and starting conversation. The reason why guys get approach anxiety is because they wait too long.
They wait too long and mostly they're thinking about what to say. They go "ok, I got to think
of what to say, I got to think of what I can say to go over to her and start a conversation... I
don't know what to say." And then they get cut off in their head and then the woman's walking away
and all the anxiety builds, builds, builds, and they don't do it. Approach anxiety mainly comes
from not going over there fast enough. I'm giving you an opener that you can use today that you can
memorize, have in your back pocket that allows you to go over and talk to any woman at all, wherever
you are, no matter what's going on. It's something that's 100% universal that you can use any single
time. I want you to use it so it can eliminate that approach anxiety and you never have to think
about something clever or witty to say. and it gets you into conversation as soon as possible.
Here's the line... what you're going to say to her is exactly this, you're going to say
"two seconds... I had to say hello, are you from around here?" Again the line is "two seconds,
I had to say hello, are you from around here?" Here's what this does. Let's break it down.
You're saying "two seconds" which is what's called a false time constraint. This is not something I
came up with. It's something that a lot of pickup artists came up with back in the day, back in
the heyday of pickup in the mid 2000's. The false time constraint is basically saying to the woman,
hey listen, I'm not going to be here for long. I'm going to go, you can put your guard down. Don't be
scared. I'm not gonna be talking to you forever. She doesn't know you. She has no idea what's going
on. She knows that when you say two seconds, it's going to be quick. That's why you say "two
seconds". And then you say "I had to say hello." This is now giving the reason why you're there.
"I had to say hello." This is the reason why you are talking to her. And now she understands ok,
I think this guy is probably hitting on me. And we want that by the way. A lot of guys try to sneak
their way in there and come up with what's called a situational opener. And the situational opener
is fine. If you want to use those, that's fine. But you might not have a situation where you can
just start conversation. And it's like, is this guy hitting on me what's going on here? It's kind
of confusing. But then people sometimes use the line. "Hey, I thought you're really cute. I had
to say hi" which could be overkill and that puts her guards up. This is the perfect way
to just get in there and. say I'm interested in you. But I'm not going to be here too long
and don't worry. I'm a normal dude. That's the first part. "Two seconds, I had to say hello."
And then you want to continue conversation. You go up to a woman and you just say that... well,
she's not going to necessarily know where to go from there. She's gonna be like "hi?"
So you got to continue conversation. A great way to do that is say "are you from around here?" Or
are you from... and then the city that you're in. Are you from Chicago? Or are you from Los
Angeles? Are you from Miami? Or you from Colorado? Whatever. You say are you from around here? Are
you from wherever. And then she can say that and then you can continue conversation based off of
what she says. Use some word association, which basically means that you're listening
to what she's saying and associate a word to continue conversation by creating a statement
or a question based off that word. You can do this. And you can use this any place you want.
Now you are completely armed with an opener, which means that you are armed and ready to go to start
a conversation with any woman that you see. Again it's "two seconds, I had to say hello, are you
from Chicago? Are you from around here?" Two seconds. That's it. That's what you're gonna say.
And not to confuse you. But just bear with me here. You got to go over there in 3 seconds. You
see a woman, within 3 seconds you go over there and then you'll say the line which is "hey,
two seconds, I had to say hello, are you from around here?" and then continue conversation.
I talk about this more in my Hooked program, which you can check out at Get Her Hooked dot com. I go
into exactly how to use more openers, how to get conversation going and how to attract women. But
this is something that you can use whenever you feel like. In fact, here's what I want you to do.
If you really want to do this try doing this this week and do it 5 times. If you can do this 5 times
and not worry about what happens after that, you are going to be in a great place. Because
you have now practiced what it means to go out and start conversations with ease. It does not
have to be complicated. You do not need a funny pickup line. You don't need anything clever,
you don't need to comment on the situation so you get in there smooth. You don't need any
of that. If that happens, great, you can say that. But I still like this line better. Even
if you have the perfect thing to say like she's walking a dog and you have the exact same dog,
I still would use this line so she knows that you're over there for a reason and it's not
weird or awkward. And then you can talk about the fact that... by the way, this is crazy,
but you and I have the exact same dog. They're a different color but the same exact breed,
or whatever it is. I really encourage you to use this opener to practice to get in there
so she knows what's going on. Again, you understand the theory behind it.
Use it. I hope it works. Let us know how it goes. Good luck, and I'll see you on the next video.