Stay tuned and make sure you listen to the end because,
the last one is for sure a sign you are texting with a narcissist.
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All right, so five signs you are texting with a narcissist.
That means that they just want to make sure
that they are overflowing in the relationship,
they are just so generous,
you are so perfect, so amazing,
even in a non-romantic relationship, even in a business partnership,
which is something that I had to deal with and
a situation that I was in,
they start off so perfect,
I mean, they want to make sure that
you just think that they are God's gift to you.
So, it's actually kind of overwhelming at the beginning,
where they just are absolutely amazing,
you just wonder where has this person been all of my life.
So, they are intelligent, and absolutely incredible,
if it's business, all the amazing clients that they can bring to you,
If it's romantic, they're telling you how beautiful you are,
or how handsome you are, how smart you are,
you just think that you have found your soulmate.
I mean, absolutely incredible and
they're just texting you all the time and
it's just absolutely overwhelming sometimes,
so, the love bomb, in every possible way.
This is a red flag as well,
because now you're starting to get messages from this person,
where they're just talking about a lot of what's going on in their life,
but maybe not asking you so much about what's going on in yours.
They're telling you all about maybe what's happening
in their work situation, and their family situation,
maybe it's a whole lot of fire alarms going on in their life,
a lot of things happening, it's very engaging,
a lot of things happening, they want a lot of input from you,
maybe they need you a lot and maybe, you're an empathic person,
so, you want to help them and
you feel like you’re needed and you're engaged and
so a lot of that is going on as well,
so you are finding yourself suddenly drawn into their lives through this texts,
maybe they’re even starting to send you
unsolicited pictures of them, and pictures of their family,
a lot of that is happening also and, by the way,
if you want to know more about how to respond to narcissists’ texts,
I do have a whole video on that as well and
you can definitely check that out.
So, one of the things that narcissists love to do is future fake.
So, you will start to get a lot of messages
on what your life is going to look like,
narcissists love to talk about the future,
what your life is going to look like in the future and
how incredible the future is going to be.
If it's a romantic situation,
they do want to move very, very quickly to the next phase.
So it's going to be, you're getting married quickly,
you're moving in together very quickly;
If it's a business relationship, you're going to be partners very quickly,
they want to move to the next phase as quickly as possible.
So, the future fake is going to be happening very quickly,
they want to elope, they want to get married,
they want to get to the next business, sign that contract,
Let's move, let's move, let's move. Hey, your soulmate... Why? Wait, right?
So, next thing, next project, let's move, future fake,
it's all perfect, let's do this.
Narcissists do like to do this hot and cold thing,
so now, all of a sudden, they're not responding to your text messages,
now all of a sudden it's, where did they go? and
this is how they start to test their supply, they want to condition you.
They're starting to see how are you going to respond
if they don't answer right away.
This hot and cold sort of thing
is sort of a way to see if you are going to stick around and
now, they say “Oh, you're so clingy” or whatever and
“I was busy” and “What are you gonna do about it?” and
if you stick around and you let it go,
well, then, now you're a good form of supply for them.
They want you to swoon, they want you to go after them,
they want it, they want you to need them,
they want you to go, “Oh, where were you?”
It's pretty sickening, it's a way to start conditioning you, okay?
So, you don't need it, you need to say goodbye, right at that moment.
They'll start to go, “Oh, when I did this, and I did that” and
“Look how great I am” and similar to the self-centered messages,
they're going to start to tell you how great they are,
they're not going to be asking so many questions about you,
but they're going to be starting to tell you how great they are.
Definitely a sign that there's a narcissist on the other end of that phone.
At that point, you really want to start to re-evaluate and
I know what happens, you start attaching yourself,
but there's all these other good things going on and
I have a friend who says, you start to turn those red flags pink, right?
You start to look at things that you want to look at and
not at the things that you necessarily should be looking at.
So, don't do that.
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